So Long Insecurity Discussion Conclusion!

Hey, Darling Things! I am sitting at a Cafe Express in Houston on yet another gorgeous Spring day while Melissa (home for Spring Break) is meeting with a Wordpress moderator so she (and we) can develop some proficiency on this format. It’s more complicated behind the scenes than you might think.  She wanted me to be part of the tutoring session but I told her that I needed to do this post. Then she suggested that I come along but sit at a different table while we do two different things. I tried planting myself only three tables over but I’m interminably nosey (does it go with size of nose??)  and kept listening to what they were saying. I prefer to do that with total strangers, especially couples that appear to be on first dates, but not many people are at Cafe Express this morning for breakfast and no one appears to be dating. Does anyone really date anymore anyway? A subject for another day.

I am happy to be here just the same whether or not the people watching is paltry. The coffee choices are enough to keep me intrigued. You don’t just get coffee here. You get choices like these in big huge cannisters:

“Equatorial Coffee” – “hints of buttery toast (who knew? no need to even eat breakfast with it??), cocoa nib (i love me some cocoa nib! i just didn’t know it! what is a nib exactly? like a little niblet?), almond, bold fruit, sweet (no one ever tells me I’m sweet. fun on occasion. never “you’re so sweet.” i don’t know why.), bright and clean.”


“Costa Rican Coffee” – “balanced (that’s me), clean (in Christ), classic (wannabe), winey (only when I don’t get my way. a lot of southern baptists don’t believe in being other kinds of whiny)with berry notes (berry notes? as in music notes? or as in sticknotes?), rich in body (is there no way we can get away from this?).”

 So, as you can see, I’m dealing with a few distractions. And have had a bit too much Costa Rican. I think I’m allergic to berry notes. Melissa and I had an awkward moment when we pulled up in the parking lot and started stacking up our stuff to come into the restaurant. I have a paperback copy of SLI that I use to prepare our weekly discussions. All the sudden I flashed it at her and said, “I can’t take this in there.” How lame would that be? She said, “Tear off the cover.” So I did. Ripped that thing right off.

It’s time for us to finish up! I am so grateful for your partnership through this journey. You were such a big part of the inspiration to write it (not because you’re insecure or anything… but because I knew I’d have a little company if I went public). When it came out, reading it together seemed only fitting. Thank you for your willingness to enter in. As for the rest of you, I can only imagine that you will be relieved to have this hog off the blog and I equally thank you for your patience.

Let me say quickly before we get to the final set of instructions, I loved reading about your life passions last week! One of my favorite sets of comments from this journey! (And, separate from SLI, your testimonies of receiving Christ impacted my whole Easter weekend. Superb. I felt that God delighted in it and that, Sweet Thing, is my favorite feeling.)

This week’s assignment? Finish this baby up! Please read Chapters 17 and 18 and answer the following questions:

1. Based on Chapter 17, on a scale of 1 to 10 (one-almost none, ten-over the top), how big a part has fear played in your life?  After responding with your approximation, please share what, if anything, in the chapter resonated with you.

2. Reflect over the journey as a whole. What (again, if anything) lasting and of God will you take away from it?  

Thank you, thank you, thank you, Ladies. You are a great joy to me. May the God of peace sanctify us through and through – spirit, soul, and body – until we are wholly overtaken by Him. (1 Thess. 5:23) This alone will be the essence of wholeness.

I love you.


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    Wow I feel so behind with 3 Easter services last week and a crazy work week. I hope I can catch up and finish with everyone else. I’m was on week 6 but took today off to catch up on the blog and reading. I just wanted to say thanks so much for giving us the chance to read this book along with you. Its such an amazing experience. I was shaking I was so excited when I found out you had a new book and that I could read it along with you. I love blogging and am helping start a ministry at our church doing bible studies in blog format so this was such an amazing experience for me to learn from the best. Thanks so much for your service to the kingdom and your wonderful behind the team people. I know what it takes to pull off a blog and CANT even begin to imagine trying to do that with the amount of traffic and comments you have on this blog so big big props and thanks to them. God’s blessings on you all.

    ~Amanda Taylor
    Richmond, VA
    Age 29
    Married 5 Years

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    GlowinGirl says:

    Oh, I hate to see this end! I’ve enjoyed it a great deal — thank you, thank you!

    1. Rating my fear is difficult. An 8 or 9? I’m a worrier and have lived in “Chickendom” (Esther study). It is something I feel I don’t struggle with as much as I used to, but fear has played a huge part in my life — and no, it’s not done me any favors. I’ve struggled with trusting God only if He does what I want — which is not trust, I know. Thank you so much for Psalm 112:7-8. Awesome!

    2. I’m taking away some more of my security.
    I’m taking away some great scripture to help me get there.
    I’m taking away some great friends I’ve made on the journey.
    I’m taking away a feeling of camaraderie I have with other women knowing that we struggle together.
    I’m taking away a deeper love for the One who holds my security in His very capable hand.

    From my heart, I thank you for these gifts.

    • 2.1
      partialemptynester says:

      Definitely agree with the taking away some great friends and the feeling of comraderie! Hasn’t this been an awesome community to foster great new relationships!?

    • 2.2
      Marcia, Mpls says:

      Oh, GlowinGirl I can relate to you so much regarding the fear and worry. I can spend so much time in worry land…and the fears I can conjure up, it’s ridiculous. I, too, have struggled with trusting God. I have taken baby steps, but I am slowly making progress. I am still trying to really believe I am clothed in strength and dignity. Silly, I know. LORD, I believe, help me in my unbelief…

    • 2.3
      kim binnie says:

      So true!!! Many thanks to you all.

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    Abby says:

    Hello Beth, I’m a mom of 5 children 5 1/2 and under, and 4 of them boys (just had twin boys in December). I just got the internet at my house this past week ( I know, some people don’t know how I live or pay bills [checkbook and stamps]). I’ve been wanting to become a siesta for a long time and now I can!!! I love you Beth you’re so sweet;)! Your Bible studies have shown me the mastery of His word, my heart is on fire for HIM. Thank you for your ministry, bless you.

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    Melissa May says:

    I’m just laughing at you ripping the cover off… Because at first I couldn’t figure out why you “couldn’t take this in there”. You aren’t insecure about insecurity, right??? Then I remembered your picture is on the thing!!! No wonder! It all made sense… I’m looking forward to finishing up, but sad at the same time. So glad I get to keep my book and keep working on my stuff!!!

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    Candice says:

    I LOVE Cafe Express. When we were in Houston for Siesta SMT Celebration a friend and I went TWICE…and met other Siesta (due to the pink feather boas) I would have gone more frequently, but we did need some Mexican…Oh, I’m jealous now, especially since its likely above 70 there…and Chicago, has gone back to thinking its winter…no snow, Praise the Lord but much cooler temperatures.

    Anyway, Enjoy! Hopefully the tutoring session is going well. Praying for the Simulcast in two weeks. Thank you again Beth, and LPM for your ministry!!

    Chicago, IL

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    Sharon says:

    1. I don’t know how to measure my fear on a scale of 1 to 10. Mostly I can honestly say this, I’ve lived scared most of my life. Yet, most of the time I’ve not let it stop me. My mama used to (and still does!) say about me, “The more insecure Sharon feels, the higher her nose goes. She’s gonna drown one of these days if it rains on a particularly big insecure day.” I’m a Weeble-that-wobbles-that-doesn’t-fall-down… I can feel insecure… and then (as I’ve said before on here), immediately feel IN-SECURE (secure-in!)IN Christ Alone when I remember who my Savior is! When it boils down to it, it’s not a bad feeling! 🙂

    I underlined a lot in chapter 17. I finished it last night, but don’t have the book with me now, so I can’t tell you what resonated the most. Perhaps I’ll save that for when I get home and grab that book back into my hands? I do want to thank you for your own sweat and tears and your honesty to share your own journey with us in order to help and encourage us in ours.

    2. I realized a long time ago what you said about God working everything out for good, no matter even if our worst fears happens to us. It makes us realize that we’re not in control and that we can’t control God, but it’s a comforting realization that He can ransom, redeem and restore anything! He can turn any ashes into beauty to be a display of His Splendor!

    Again, thanks for the journey… it’s been quite a ride! You are adorable, and it’s fun learning from you.

    Married / 40s
    Montgomery, Alabama

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    Siesta OC says:

    (berry notes? as in music notes? or as in sticknotes?), With you Beth I think it might be berry colored sticky notes with musical scriptures writtne on them. I love it – you are such a nut!

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    Lawan says:

    Thank you so much for this book. I have been lazy in keeping up with the blog responses but really enjoyed the book and have recommended it to many. Also working on getting a large group of ladies to drive 45 minutes with me to Texas to attend the simulcast. We are very excited and planning a dinner afterward.

    I used to be so very afraid. I have been married to a fire fighter (retired now) for 33 years and used to fret over everything. I would move furniture in front of the door to our apartment on the nights that he worked all night. I would worry about his safety, my children, whether or not he would leave me, on and on and on. Praise God, many years ago, I gave it all to Him and now I sleep like a baby! God is so good.

    Now, when fear or anxiety start to creep into my mind, I stop and pray. It is so freeing. Praise God that He keeps on us until we change. He gives us the tools we need, we just have to use them.

    Thank you again. The book is just what we women need. Thank you for being so honest about your life and being tough enough to let us know that we need to trust God on this and all things. Your ministry has been life changing for me. I think you are definately SWEET!

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    Katie says:

    I can’t believe I’m going to be one of the first to comment!! Fear has been a 10+++ in my life for so long I almost couldn’t imagine not living with it. CONSTANTLY. And for no real reason… it was almost all fabricated. 10 years ago,a friend went through what I had imagined to be the worst possible thing: the loss of a young child in a horrible way. Although it had not happened to me,it sent me into a tailspin of extreme anxiety and depression. It also triggered the beginning of the healing process. I thought I was almost cured, but then I faced something that, for me, was a total nightmare: the loss of two very significant relationships due to adultery (not in my marriage, but in my family). I am still dealing with this one (after FIVE YEARS!) and two days away from having to face these people. The hardest part is the extreme FEAR I feel and have felt over this. The part of the chapter that resonated most with me was Beth playing out her worst-case-scenario and then coming to the healing part. Everything I feared in my situation has come to pass. On p. 323 Beth writes: “I used to think that the essence of trusting God was trusting that He wouldn’t allow my fears to become realities.” That is definitely where I have hung up. I am finally, just this week , able to accept what has happened. I cannot begin to express how much this book has helped me. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for opening up this topic, addressing it in a healthy way and allowing us to face our insecurities. I am a different person today than I was on February 9. God bless all you siestas who have been part of this journey.

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    Dana says:

    I love the new blog design – it is easier to leave comments. But what will you need us to do when you are doing research and need us reply annonymously? Can you still do that? I mean, I love being a part of the process. You know, is it Esther where you included comments from “The Red Book” and included us in the insecurity book…..

    God Bless Y’all. Enjoy your time together. Love the Easter pics. God has richly blessed you.

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    Buffy says:

    Ok, the vision of you ripping the cover off the book is CRACKING me up! Is it floating around in your car? Will it fly out at some most likely inopportune time? What if Keith has buddies over and the wind picks up and that cover comes flying out and lands on sombody’s boots??? How are you going to explain that one? Yes, I know. Overactive imagination. Still, if it happens, don’t say I didn’t warn ya!

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    Kathy Wilshire says:

    1. Based on Chapter 17, on a scale of 1 to 10 (one-almost none, ten-over the top), how big a part has fear played in your life? After responding with your approximation, please share what, if anything, in the chapter resonated with you.
    On an average? probably a 6-7. But I’ve definitely had seasons of 10’s and also of 1’s.
    What resonated the most with me was the concept of getting “all the way to the other side” of the specific fear. Asking myself, “what then?” I particularly loved the quote, “as long as you’re going to borrow trouble on the future, why don’t you just go ahead and borrow the grace to go with it and see yourself back up on your feet defying your enemy’s odds…just as you and I have done a dozen other times.” I CAN choose to TRUST HIM. PERIOD.

    2. Reflect over the journey as a whole. What (again, if anything) lasting and of God will you take away from it?
    Mainly that if I say I trust God and truly believe He is faithful, then He is able to overcome any doubts I have in my own abilities, appearance, etc. When I doubt myself, I am doubting HIM as well. Also, that I don’t have to compete with every young, beautiful, nubile woman walking down the street, because she is probably more insecure than I am!

    I’ve already recommended the book to a friend who is struggling!!
    Thank you for sharing this journey with us!

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    Missy June says:


    1. Fear Factor Scale: 7. I’m not over-the-top, but I AM hesitant, especially regarding change. When change is coming I become anxious just with the anticipation. When change happens unexpectedly, I am often thrown into a tail-spin!

    2. I would not describe myself as an insecure person…except as I read, I recognized so many traits that DO demonstrate insecurity. I didn’t even realize what the core was for much of my fear, control-issues and the ‘perfection that so besets me.’ I’m so grateful for the veil to be pulled back so I may address this in action as it rears itself in my life circumstances.

    I have repeated in my mind, “You are clothed with strength and dignity,” numerous times in recent weeks and will continue to do so. That word of our Lord has brought focus to the areas that I need to find security and to reel in a sinful response when triggered.

    Thank you for exposing your own vulnerabilities – I can’t wait to continue the journey. Thank you, Jesus, for your amazing presence.

    • 13.1
      GlowinGirl says:

      I love your answer to number 2. I felt exactly the same way reading this book! I picked it up to read for a possibility as a summer book discussion and then discovered I needed it! 😉

    • 13.2
      Missy says:

      Your #1 and #2 answers could have come straight out of my own mouth! I’m glad God has opened our eyes to what causes our fears and insecurities, and I pray He will continue to help us to trust HIM to have loving control over everything in our lives. God bless you! 🙂

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    Becky says:

    Now, Beth honey, let me just say girl face…..
    You are a sweet thing.
    I love you my sweet sister….Girl, you make being a Christian and learning the word of God sooooo much more fun that I have ever experienced.
    Now, I gotta go and finish this last chap of SLI. ;0)

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    Rene says:

    I am not a reader-aheader so last week when I told you my story about trusting God with my 20 year old and a pistol, it was awesome and cool and all that but imagine my total shock and amazement when I read Chapter 17 AND THAT’S WHERE YOU HAVE LED US!! I got to where you wanted me to get (kind of) all by myself! You are sooooooo sweet (giggle, giggle) to have brought me here through our kind and loving God. I’ll answer the questions later after I read the last chapter but I couldn’t wait for you to blog on today so I could tell you that. Like my dad says – You done good!

    Claremore OK

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    Kelly says:

    Hey Beth,

    I’m reading SLI (speaks volumes) but I’m not on these chapters, so I can’t answer the questions.

    But I just wanted to comment on the Cafe Express coffees. Aren’t they awesome?! My husband and I just moved to Houston from Louisiana last October. We do not have Cafe Express where we are from, but I’m a big coffee lover. Seeing those coffees (and drinking them ) at our first Cafe Express visit, made the transition a little easier. I know you as a coffee obsessed lady yourself would understand how an awesome cup of joe can make all right in the world (at least for a little while).

    Enjoy your Equatorial!

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    Mischelle says:

    1. This is extremely easy for me it is most definitely a huge 10. Due to my mother rejecting me as a child, I fear rejection the most. However, I love the “Quick Start” “Trust God” as you say not easy to do but basic and uncomplicated.

    2. I am taking away with me the fact that God has clothed me with His strength and His dignity.

    Thank you so much for being who you are in Christ and for pointing us towards Him every step of the way. And girl, you sense of humor rocks. I have never laughed so hard in my life while reading a book. I took it with me to a doctor’s appointment and got to page 294 and got to the part where you dared us to say “I am Lovely.” And then “One more time with a little more enthusiasm.” “I AM LOVELY!” I wanted to say that so badly but couldn’t. Then when you started talking about the Mall, oh my word. I was in the room by then and I started rolling! You draw wonderful word pictures woman. Thank you so much again for this wonderful journey. God bless you always,
    Love in Jesus,

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    Brenda Johnson says:

    Beth, I got a late start on reading SLI, but wanted to tell you that just like everything else you have written, I am enjoying it. I will be at your conference here in the Atlanta area and really look forward to seeing you (again).
    Love you much,

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    Michele says:

    Haha – MamaBeth, you are too funny!! 😀

    How big a part has fear played in my life? – 11!

    Chapter 17 covered exactly what I have been dealing with in recent weeks, and now I have a name for it – conditional trust. My fear is my dog and I being hurt. My emotions are tied to being able to protect her, which parallels not being able to help/protect myself as a child. Especially now that my sweet baby girl is older and fragile, it absolutely tears me up when she gets hurt, and I feel so good when I am able to help her (although both make me cry). I have been gripped with fear because I knew that I couldn’t always protect us and I didn’t trust God to. He reminded me that his promise is His presence in the hurt.

    I also totally identified with the self-torment fears you described. It seems that they get worse when I am making significant spiritual/emotional progress, so I figure spiritual warfare is involved (yes, I wield the PLS Sword).
    The one huge difference hit me on p.327 when you said you choose to live. I just don’t see the point. Since my grandmother died in 1991, I wanted to die to escape this world. Now, knowing that Jesus is preparing a place for me, I want to go to be there. To choose between corrupt earth or perfect heaven – gosh, I would be gone in a millisecond. Other than my dog, I don’t have anything or anyone here that I’m that attached to that would make me want to stay. (No need for anyone to go psychotherapist here, I’m just sharing what stood out in this section)

    What I’ll take away – besides the fact that it means so much to me that a few sentences I wrote are in your best-selling book. God is using this and a number of other sources to teach me valuable lessons. I need to revisit clothing myself with strength & dignity and the chapter 9 prayer.

    I have my ticket to the simulcast; the folks at Northside Baptist gave me a free one because I lost my job a while back.

    Thank you so much for caring about us and sharing of yourself.

    I love you too, Mama.

    Liverpool, NY

    • 19.1
      Eleanor says:

      It breaks my heart to read your post!

      Michele you’re a precious woman! It was a joy to meet you in Houston at the Siesta Memory Celebration and establish a friendship. God has a purpose and a plan for your life here. Don’t miss out! He wants to use you in a mighty way for His Kingdom and purpose. Daily walk with Him and trust Him!

      God loves you very much!
      You are His precious daughter whom He loves!

      Love you, girl!
      Your Siesta friend,

      • Michele says:

        Hi Eleanor!
        Thanks for the encouragement.

        Trying to grasp his love today as I work on my paper on Eph 3:14-21.

        And you never know when someone will come sit next to you. haha!

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    Kristi Walker says:

    1. Fear has been the number one motivator in my life. There’s not a doubt in my mind that the common denominator in most of my life decisions has been fear. Wow…that’s fairly pathetic typed out like that, isn’t it?! Nonetheless, it’s true. Fear that my parents wouldn’t be proud; fear that my husband wouldn’t accept me; fear that my kids wouldn’t be godly kids (they’re still only ages 6-15!); fear that I would be laughed at, or not “in”. Fear of failure, and, sometimes, even fear of success. The funny thing is, I own my real estate company and am the Broker-in-Charge, as well. Most people wouldn’t believe these were my words. I’m quite the pro at pretending to be anything other than afraid. Typically, it manifests itself in being uber controlling. My number would be a big, fat 10. Well, it used to be, so I’d say I’m down to about an 8 now. 🙂

    I’d say that I’m just beginning to realize that fear is/was crippling me in so many ways that does NOT please God. I’m still working on WHY I’ve been such a scaredy cat and I’m getting there.

    2. In reflecting over the whole jouney of SLI, I’d say there’s two primary things I’ll take with me:

    First, we women owe it to each other to cut one another some slack. We all know what it’s like to feel “less than” and I’m making a promise that that WILL change in my life. I’ll intentionally make efforts to edify and uplift the women in my sphere of influence. They deserve it, and so do I. I’m going to give every effort to love them with the love of Christ and that wouldn’t include wondering if I measure up to them or who has the “best” shoes, not to mention completely overlooking the fact that THEY feel “less than” sometimes, too.

    Second, I’m going to remember that men have their own issues. Issues that DON’T affect us women and I’m working very hard to apply that to my husband and begin to teach both of my boys. I want godliness for both my girls, and I want it for both of my boys, too. I think SLI really taught me that each person, and also each gender, has their own set of issues that they must deal with to be free of insecurity. While I may have known that in a peripheral way, I intend to respect that to a much greater degree than before I read the book.

    I’d also have to add that I’ll look at women who dress…um…inappropriately, much differently, too. I actually never got that that was insecurity!!! How’s that possible?! It was always just hoochie in my world. How mean is that?! But, no more. Compassions feels SO much better in the place of having mean thoughts about them! Seriously, when I read that section of the book, I was just floored at the obvious “DUH!” moment that I’d missed competely.

    So…thank you, Beth. Thank you for being obedient to our faithful, loving and always holy God. He has such great things for each of us! Praying for ALL the Siestas out there! He’s where it’s at!!!

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    God's not-so-little Dutch girl says:


    I feel the sudden urge to tell you that YOU ARE THE SWEETEST THING!Hope you had a few more subjects to watch before you had to leave. I had a “bear” of a day at Biggby coffee up here today! I had a Black Bear” & my daughter had a “Teddy Bear”.Have a great day! Love ya! Joan

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    partialemptynester says:

    Okay, so I called the Living Proof Ministries this morning, seriously, I did! A couple of hours ago…and Amanda will believe that, too, bc I’ve e-mailed her before still trying to figure out this whole blogging thing, lol! I could not wait, absolutely could not wait to get to comment on the end, the finale, the big finish, to wrap it up with a great big bow! I have been so patient throughout the book, only reading what I was supposed to when I was supposed (not like me at ALL), but I’ve been blessed, so blessed to have victory over this whole timing issue! I feel so relieved, so complete to have finished strong! I had a wee bit o’ fear that when I came to the end, I would think, “That’s it, that’s ALL there is to it?” or maybe, “I feel raw”, which I heard early on from some who finished early. Well, we are all unique and those comments were not meant personally or to point fingers…merely, I’m pointing all fingers back at me, saying, “Yay, God is victorious in this girl’s heart!”

    Ch. 17: As a pre-teen many moons ago, FEAR led my life, on a scale of 1-10, I was an over the top FEAR FACTOR of 10! I wanted to please every single person, even the stranger driving in the car passing me on the sidewalk, never seen before, never to be seen again…I was a doormat PLEASER, fearing someone around me might not be happy (as if that is supposed to some kind of goal of ours, to make everyone around us happy!). Now, I can’t say I’m down to one, but I’m well under 5…and I’m coming up on the middle-aged years, so maybe by the time I’m say, 70, I’ll be at a 1! The scripture that really resonated with me that I will be taking with me forever in my heart is: Ps. 112:7-8…and Beth translated response to it: “why am [I] free of self-torment?” “because [I] know that in the end God will work all things-no matter how difficult or devastating-out to [my] advantage”. I can trust Him on that one! “No illness, loss, rejection, or betrayal will ever get the last word.” I love it!

    Ch. 18: When the red flag of insecurity waves in the form of “a certain sick feel” or “a niggling of urgency and desperation” or “an anxious motivator”, I’ll know I can run in the opposite direction..straight into the arms of My Heavenly Father, throwing all fear into His Arms, for “my heart is secure”! On my mirror where I get ready every morning I keep this verse now, “How lovely is Your dwelling place, O Lord Almighty” Ps. 84:1 and will forever think of myself and teach my daughter to think of herself as lovely, bc God created and chose each one of us as His dwelling place!

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    Jeannie says:

    1. On a scale of 1 to 10, fear has affected me at about a 7 or 8. Here of some of the most common fears: fear of failure, fear of my husband losing his job in this economy (we are a one income family), fear of my husband leaving me for someone else, fear of losing one of my children, fear of loss of health by one of my children. The thing that most resonated with me in this chapter is that my prayer is to be “Lord, I trust you. Period.” Like Beth, I often pray trusting Him with conditions such as “Lord I trust you to…” rather than simply putting my trust in Him alone. It is in Him alone that I can securely place my trust. His grace is sufficient for whatever He allows.

    2. It is in Him alone that I can securely place my trust. I can be secure and confident because He will see me through whatever lies ahead. He tells me over and over in His Word “Do not be afraid.” It really boils down to trusting Him regardless!

    45 yrs.

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    Cathy says:

    As soon as I saw the title of chapter 17, I knew it was for me.
    1. On a scale of 1 to 10, I would estimate that fear has played a role of
    an 8. Fear took root in my life as a little girl, and boy is it hard to pull out.
    What resonated with me was that trying to count on God to obey me is a hopeless pursuit which will never bring me any lasting stability. If I can’t count on God, who can I count on?
    2. I can and will count on God. I am and always have been taken care of by Him. I have surrendered this useless battle to trust Him only to do what I think is best.

    Thank you for this journey.

    Rhinebeck, NY

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    Church Lady says:

    This week has been a whirlwind. I am not a coffee drinker. So none of your coffee talk made since to me. I’m sure coffee drinkers understand though. I haven’t read the chapters yet. I just wanted to jump in and say HI!!

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    sisterlynn says:

    Sister Lynn
    Clyde Mo

    1) Fear is probably a 7 out of 10 for me. My fear of rejection and not being loved has made me act a fool or made me withdraw and not form relationships. Jesus Christ is Lord and Jesus I trust in You have been my long time refrains

    2) I love the new understanding I have of being clothed in dignity and strength. I will take this one to the spiritual bank! God is so good.

    Love you too Beth!

    • 26.1
      Yolanda says:

      I loved reading about you in the closing chapter. You bring so much joy and life to us here in blog world. I always take the time to read your comments when I see your smiling face.

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    Diane says:

    #1 – 5. The role fear plays in my life is lessening. It used to be greater, but God and I are working on it. I’m so aware of my Shadow Mission (the mission of our human nature – mine is avoid looking stupid or be perceived as dumb at all costs) that I am on the attack against it and anything that would keep me from God’s Mission for me. We have lots of work to do, the Lord and I, but we are pressing on.

    #2 – I’m a little…lot… nervous to be such an early responder (note Shadow Mission above), but I press on… I am have been so amazed and impressed by the willingness of so many women to share their insecurities. As I read the book and blog I was honored to be shown so many hearts. For me, it wasn’t so much that I continue to struggle with great and deep insecurities. I thank God that He and I have worked through those early on before they became monsters in my life. The message God spoke to me over and over was that there are little things throughout my life that need to be worked on, things that feed my Shadow Mission instead of keeping me on track with the Mission He has for me. I stay back when I should step up, I keep quiet instead of speaking, I don’t talk to someone because I don’t remember their name. Worse, what if they don’t remember me? They’ll walk away thinking, “Who was that weird woman??” Anything to keep from looking like an idiot. Even still, it’s astonishing how often I do something dumb without even trying. Mercy!! Well, a fool for Christ I aim to be. Thank you, Beth, for spurring my on in this journey out of insecurity. I have full confidence that God will carry it through to completion.

    (Can you just imagine how many times I proofread this and editted it? Aaarggg!! Shadow Mission!!!)

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      Diane says:

      Oh, I love it!!!! While I agonized over my post, making sure everything was just right – wording, spelling, phrasing – 23 other women replied. I went from #2 to #25. Thank you, Lord, for a good laugh at myself this morning.

    • 27.2
      Katie says:

      I had never heard of a “Shadow Mission”. What a perfect description of how underlying insecurities/fears can motivate us and maybe even “overshadow” our TRUE mission. Thank you so much for sharing that!

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    Linda LaFrombois says:

    I just wrote a long response, but I think I nuked it. So I’ll go brief:

    1. I had written 7-8. I think I’ll up it to 8-9. What resonated most in Chapter 17 was your time of turmoil before God, and Him meeting you there. I had a huge battle with anxiety last summer, culminating the night following the close of your Green Bay conference in August. You had encouraged us to be authentice with God, so I finally cried to God, “I’M AFRAID” – and in came a trickle of peace. Then my Bible “fell” open to Judges 6, where the angel calls frightened, hiding Gideon “mighty warrior.” Wow.

    2. There are a few things I won’t forget from the book, and a few I continue to ponder:
    – “Are our insecurities snuffing the Spirit until our gifts, for all practical purposes, are largely unproductive or, at the very least, tentative?”
    – “insecurity: self-sabotage.”
    And, because of the passage on Gideon God gave me at the peak of fear last summer, I’ll never forget learning in your book that the word used for the woman in Proverbs 31 is the same as used in Judges 6:12 – mighty warrior; woman of valor. I want to be her; to fear NOTHING that is frightening (1 Peter 3:6), and to be able to laugh at the days to come.

    I look forward to seeing you April 24 at the simulcast! I invited a friend and I’m excited she’ll be introduced to you that day, Beth. I’m praying she meets Jesus that day as well.

    St. Paul

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    Janice says:

    Am I person number two to post a comment??? First,I want to respond to Chapter 14. My grand daughters are in need of a secure role model;I see so many insecurities in them, my heart breaks. Since reading SLI I have tried to listen for opportunities to share (young people don’t always have an ear to hear) but when they do, I share wisdom I just acquired myself. Who would have thought it?
    Second, I have decided to be a part of the solution and not the problem. After reading Chapter 14 and 15, I became aware of my negative views regarding both sexes. They are no longer “them”; they are now individuals I view with a greater sense of connectedness. My heart leans towards understanding and not criticisms or comparisons. I just love this new view of humanity. I believe I am becoming more Christ like. Thank God, since this is what God wants of us.
    Third, I feel passionate about sharing God’s deliverance from me, myself, and I. I want to share with other women whether they be old or young. Now that God has helped me to see me in His eyes, I am free to do for Him. Those old voices that shouted, “Oh, no one cares about what you have to say,” or “That’s a stupid idea,” are now whispered. They have been quieted because I am listening to Christ’s voice instead. I am beautiful and loved. I am a child of the Most High God.
    I can tell of God’s deliverance for I was a perfect example of “Don’t tell me what to do,” also known as “self-will run riot.” I did what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. God stepped back and let me because I didn’t want to do what He said either. My running was down hill because it was very difficult for me to stop. You know where I was headed, straight for the pit or for a fall, In either case, it was bad news.God let me run until I realized that I’d never get enough of it, them, this,that, or those. It was getting me, so I humbled myself and begged Him to help me stop. All I had to do was ask. He never left me, He just waited until I had had enough of what ever. He waited paitently for me. And when I called on Him, His response was often instantaneous. As a matter of fact, there have been times He answered my prayer so quickly, I looked up to see if there was a hole in the ceiling and God was peeking down at me.
    Thank you Beth for SLI. It has helped me be a better friend, mother, granny, and siesta.

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    Hannah Leigh says:

    1) On a scale of 1 to 10, I’m probably a 7 when it comes to the role fear has played in my life. I’ve overcome a lot of fear and insecurity over the past 8 years – primarily because of my relationship with Christ. Without Him, I would not be where I am today…that is for sure! What resonated with me most in Chapter 17 was the simple statement of “I trust God. Period.” I love that. There aren’t any conditions attached – its just simple, straightforward and completely surrendering to what He has in store for me. And I’m good with whatever He sees necessary, even if its challenging, difficult, and just plain hard…His word promises that all things are for our good and I’m choosing to believe what He says. Period!

    2) Something I’ve already put into practice is the very last prayer you wrote at the end of Chapter 18. I’ve been getting on my knees every morning before work and saying it to God. What a difference it has made to voice those truths to God! Another thing I’m taking with me are some great scriptures for the journey ahead as a secure woman in Christ. Remembering that God is there for me and loves me NO MATTER WHAT is so important for moving forward from here.

    I’ve been reading this book in addition to doing your Esther study through my church and all I have to say is “WOW!” God really wanted me to know that while “it’s tough being a woman,” God is the rock that keeps us steady and secure. (I love it when God orchestrates themes for me to focus on in my life…this has been an incredible experience!)

    Thank you for this journey Beth! It has been a blessing to be a part of this community and I look forward to more of these opportunities in the future! God Bless 🙂

    Hannah, 25
    Lansing, MI
    Happily Married

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    1. There was a time when fear was 10. Not now though. When it was at that level, it was the most terrifying time of my life.
    This whole chapter was so beautiful and resonated with me. I have underlined pretty much from 329-334; because it is where I am now and I just kept reading almost saying yes yes yes down in my heart to the truths you have written as I read.
    So many of these verses, you mentioned I have clung to the past two years but none as much as Psalm 46:10. Be still and know that I am God. As you said…No matter what.
    On page 328, when you said you less often pray “Lord I trust You to…” to simply say “Lord, I trust You. Period.” That said it all. Amen.

    2. To reflect on this journey… It has been an incredible one and one that will never end. To walk out my life knowing I trust God no matter what. To just walk that walk one day at a time, “clothed in strength and dignity, smiling at the days to come.” That means so much, oh so much because there were times I thought I couldn’t smile at the future because I was too busy looking back in the past in regret or loss.
    Oh God is so faithful and good. He is mighty to save and has plopped me right out of darkness and into His marvelous light.
    I have just loved this study and I thank you, Beth Moore for writing it and including the beautiful prayers in Chapter 9 and on page 346.

    Blessings to all,
    40’s married

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    Becky says:

    Brentwood TN
    WOW, just finished the book,and honey, that was ‘NOT’ a messy book, no way no how. It spoke volumes to me about an issue I have lived with all my life. Now I know I’m not alone.
    1. on a 1-10 scale.. there are times I’m an 8…then Lord. Help. Me. there are times I’m a 10 totally over the top. I’ve all through my life have been insecure, I’ve felt unwanted, unattractive, stupid and just plain dumb. Now, here I am a grown adult woman with children, I still feel at times unwanted, unattractive, stupid and just plain dumb. But fear grips me at times, it sends me so over the edge. In chap 17, you talked of your fears,(and thank you for your transparency) and how the Lord took you through them, had you played the thing out in your mind. Whoa Baaaby, that was very helpful for me. This book has shown me a lot of myself, and taught me that you and others I learn from and have deep respect for deal with some of the same insecurities as I do.
    2. I think what I will take with me is that God knows what hurs me, what scares me, and I just need to tell him all about, even though he already knows. Just Trust Him, period. Beth, that is a hard one for me, but through a season of fear recently, my momma told me, while she was dealing with hard times in her younger years she had to just say to the Lord, “Lord I’m just gonna trust you.” Now here you are saying ‘Lord, I trust you, period.”

    Thank you for writing this book, if you hadn’t I would still think I was alone in this dark world of insecurity, I wouldn’t know the helpful tools to deal with it. And I certainly would not know to even think of playing the thing out in my mind to the otherside with my God. Thank you sweetie.
    Love ya girl.

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    Anonymous says:

    1) I’d say a 7 or 8. I had a wise counselor say to me recently that you should NEVER make a decision based on fear. Wow! I never thought about how fear came into my decision-making process, but as I reflected on that I realized that I am tempted to make many decisions out of fear. I am glad to know that fear is the “man behind the mask” of insecurity. The gig is up! I know the antidote…trusting God, not to do what I think is best, but trusting him…period! Good stuff!! I plan on using the scriptures to solidify that truth in my mind and heart. I also love the idea of going through the biggest fear to the outcome and knowing that God can carry through your darkest fear, even if it comes true. This comes at a good time for me, because as we speak I am awaiting a call from the doctor. His news (about my possible infertility) could be good or bad, but regardless of the outcome, I can trust God.

    2) I think one of the biggest things that I got out of the book is the realization of what is going on behind the scenes of my insecurity. I know the triggers now. I can sense when it is rising up within me. I have the tools to stop it from taking over. I have scripture to meditate on to fight the battle. I don’t have to live with this ugly beast anymore. My security was given by God. I am clothed with strength and dignity. No one can take that away!!

    Thanks for leading this journey! Onto the simulcast!! 🙂

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    Redeemed says:

    Beth, you ARE sweet. Really you are.

    1. Fear is HUGE with me. On a scale of 1 – 10, I’d say a full-on 10. The enemy knows he can use this with full effectiveness with me, and I’m so stinkin’ tired of it. So. Very. Tired.

    2. I’ll take strength and dignity with me. After what life has dealt me, I know now my dignity is my God-given right and I’m not giving it up. I’m not giving up my security in Christ, because if all the things I feared finally took me down, Christ would still be my life line. He’ll never let go.

    I’ve so enjoyed this ride. (And you really ripped the cover off your own book? that just makes me laugh so hard)

    And I completely get the coffee thing…my last name is Coffee. Really! 🙂

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    Bev says:

    Beth when I read you ripped the cover off the SLI paperback, I started laughing then I thought where is your Kindle eBook SLI when you need it?! No Kindle…your iPhone must have an edition. No, Kindle or iPhone, then what about Nook eBook too. Your books are available in so many formats–thank you!

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    Lyli Dunbar says:

    We are doing Esther right now, so SLI is next on my list. My comments on that will have to wait. But, I couldn’t resist saying that I personally think you are a sweet as they come.

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    Shelley G says:

    Shelley G
    Lakeland, Florida

    Question 1

    Honestly, I woulda have to say a 9! Even as a child I had a fear of something. The thing that resonated with me in this chapter was that I don’t have to let anyone have the right to take it from me! God gave my peace because He wants me to have it! I think it’s high time I quit worrying about what others think about me and only worry about what God thinks about me. I love all my family and friends to death but I am sick of having to feel like I need to be something I am not to please them or to feel loved by them. I am empowered by God and accepted by Him

    Question 2

    This journey has been a good one for me. I have learned alot about myself and women as a whole. I have also learned not to be so hard on men, they are just as insecure as we women are. I am so grateful to have been able to go on this journey as a group then by myself. Even though we are not together in person we are together in heart and mind. I think I have a new found love of my fellow women and will now think differently and personalize each woman that I encounter. I love you girls and this had been eye opening and fun

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    Heidi A. says:

    Midland, TX

    1. Before my divorce that came about after my husband told me he was in love with someone else when my son was 6 days old, fear was about a 2 in my life. After I realized that he was never coming back, fear became a 10. But I am still not afraid of dying or getting hurt or my son getting hurt or someone breaking into the house. The fear that has gripped me for the last 13 years is that I can’t really hear what God is telling me. I don’t really know where he is trying to lead me. At the time I married my ex, I had been praying and praying and I felt like at that time that His answer was that this was the “one”. I wasn’t as sure myself he was the one but when I felt God answer my prayer, I stepped out in faith. The marriage required moving and leaving my family and becoming a military wife but I thought the answer was he is the one. When he had the affair and left me then I was left doubting that I heard the answer right in the first place or trying to sort through the idea that God knew my ex was going to do this to me and He told me to marry him anyway. So I don’t trust myself to hear God’s voice. That’s my fear.

    The thing that resonated with me was the self talk of “and then what”. This is how I lived for so many years with fear as only a 2. I have played out worst case scenarios (and best case) in my head for as long as I can rememeber. Not so much out of fear but because I like to have a plan. I got stuck on the “and then what” when the answer to that question became….that really wasn’t God’s answer to your prayer. How do I figure out what do next if I can’t hear Him or see Him leading me?

    2. I have felt more peace about all of this over the course of reading this book. Not a huge ah hah moment, but just a quiet peace that snuck up on me after Chapter 9. I didn’t feel it right away. As a matter of fact I felt awful right after that.

    But here is what I will tell you. After you told us to quit reading ahead, I did. I could have read this whole book a long time ago but after I quit reading through it so fast and letting it absorb more, I felt more at peace.

    Thanks for doing this. I would have never even done Chapter 9 if I had just bought the book and read it on my own and I would have finished it in a few days and I would have gotten much less out of it. These weekly questions have made all the difference in the world.

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    Tricia says:

    1. Fear has played an “8” in my life. Psalm 112:7-8 stood out to me the most. [She] will have no fear of bad news; [her] heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord. [Her] heart is secure, [she] will have no fear; in the end [she] will look in triumph on [her] foes. Wow, do I want that for my life – I will have no fear and I will have a secure heart. The other verse that stood out to me was Proverbs 31:25. “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” I want strength and dignity to be the words that people use to describe me.
    Another thing that really spoke to me was not thinking “What will I do if…?” but instead thinking “What will God do if…?” My life will change if I immediately think “What will God do” rather than “what will I do”. He will do it better than I ever could.

    2. Chapter 11 is the chapter that has changed my life. I did not realize that I had the power to choose if I felt insecure or not. I just thought I had no control over it. I will now say “My security is mine to keep. You cannot have it.” when I start to feel insecure. I’m a woman of strength and dignity. No one can take that away from me either. I’m so thankful for this book. It has changed my life. I feel like a new person. I still battle insecurity on a daily basis, but I’m able to overcome it because of the wisdom I have received from this book. Thank you Lord, for leading Beth to write this book.


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    WorthyofLove says:

    Dear Beth,

    I just had to comment about the “sweet” thing. I don’t know about you, but I love a little “salty” with my sweet. Nuts are salty!! You are one of the dearest “nuts” in my life. Thank you for just being you.

    San Antonio

    “Salt & Light”…Siesta….”Salt & Light”

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    Kristin says:

    I’d say my fear level is about a 7. I could really relate to playing out worst case scenarios. I also have some of the same fears…children dying, husband leaving, but I know…no matter where this journey takes me, He will never leave me nor forsake me.

    A lot resonated with me throughout this book, but two things really stand out. One of which I have said over and over these past few weeks. “You can not have my security. It is mine from God, and I am a woman clothed with strength and dignity. Also, I loved the chapter of comparing our “digging” to Eve eating from the tree of good and evil. Ouch!!!

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    Erin says:

    Erin 24, Tyler

    Fear is tricky. I am just now, at this stage in my life, realizing what a destuctive force it is. It is the source of worry and the stealer of peace. It is great at camouflaging itself as 15 different issues yet all the roots trace back to pride.

    My favorite part, even though it is broad, is simple “God is my security, and in Him, I can not be shaken.”

    I like the verse you ended with: I read that this morning in “When Godly People Do Ungodly Things.”

    Thank you for your heart, your faithfulness, and your willingness to teach us. You make me want to love the Lord and the Word more, and you make vulnerability noble. I don’t know you, but I love you, and I thank God and ask His blessings upon you!!

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    Cara says:

    I have gotten behind but plan on finishing up this next week and going back to answer the past couple questions I missed. When I click on the link though it says page not found? I am doing something wrong or is it too late to go back?


    • 43.1
      Amanda says:

      Cara, for now, the best thing to do is put “So Long Insecurity” in the search bar and it will bring up all the old posts.

      • Maryount says:

        Amanda, HOW EXACTLY do you do that?

        • Michele says:

          Maryount – Make sure you are on the home page (go to or click on “Home” at the top of the LPM blog page).

          On the right side of the home page, you should see a number of links (titles in brown bars). In that list, you should see “Search for:” and an empty box. Click in the box and type “So Long Insecurity”

          Then click the search button next to it, and it will take you to the results page where you will see all the SLI post titles listed. You can click on any on of them to instantly go to that specific post.

      • tcal says:

        Oh Okay!! Thank you Amanda! You rock!!!

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    glenwood says:

    1-3 or 4 not a large part. I am one of the lucky ones.
    2-By and large, I still don’t like change I don’t initate.I might the change after the it is over but possibly not in the beginning. I know God has the best plan but I still like to either be the one in control or to know what is coming/where I am going.

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    DeniseK says:

    Fear is one of my BIGGEST insecurities!Especially a couple of years ago. In the past year, the Lord has worked in my heart and mind in ways I NEVER thought possible! I use to think of God as more of being “up there”…now He has shown me that He is ‘in me’. The power of the Spirit within me has helped me to overcome my fear of failure, abandonment, and rejection. But I can say it can still creep up on me, before I even know what happened. These last four days, for some reason has been extremely depressing for me. I have a history of depression, to the point of attempting to take my own life several years back. Through the miracle of God, He decided He wasn’t done with me yet here on earth. Well just these last four days, I’m not quite sure how,when, or why…that same depression hit me like a TON of bricks! It is funny how you talk in Chapter 17 about everyone leaving you, and you feel all alone. I guess mine is the opposite. My fear is me leaving everyone, and not one person ever noticing or even remotely caring. That feeling of not counting and mattering enough to ANYONE!Including my kids and husband. To think that I won’t ever be missed and noone cares, is like a heaping pile of torture to my soul! I know I am priceless to God, and cherished in His eyes, but let’s be honest, I want to feel cherished by my own loved ones eyes also. To know THEY would be devastated if anything happened to me. I believe we all want to feel priceless and irreplaceable.I want to know that sadness would surround those that love me, if God where to take me today. Not that my life is merely for existance only. Feeling worthless from my loved-ones, is my biggest fear. That irony is, I KNOW my family loves me, so why feel worthless?? I am a working on that part…the Lord is working on my heart as I write this. I have been praying and reading scripture, filling my soul with God. Thank you also, for your last two chapters. IT came at the perfect timing in my heart and especially with this unbearable depression. I will forever cherish the way God speaks through you, Beth…God Bless you and your precious family. I am clothed with God’s strength and diginity, and yes…He did handpick me…

    • 45.1
      Katie says:

      Dear Denise
      I’ve been in your same position of being overwhelmed with depression and wanting to take my life. About a year ago, the Lord gave me Psalm 30, and I cling to it as a promise. Verses 2 & 3 say: “O Lord my God, I cried to you for help and you restored my health. You brought me up from the grave, O Lord. You kept me from falling into the pit of death”. God rescued you from the pit once, and He will do it again. Trust me. I’ll be praying that your depression will lift.

    • 45.2
      Rene says:

      Denise, thank you for sharing that. It’s good to read some of these posts and know I am not alone in my thinking. Whenever I think they would all be better off without me, I imagine shaking those thoughts off like a big dog shaking off water – in slow motion. It sounds like you are on the other side now where you can reach up to God because our enemy knows his triggers well and it’s great to recognize it for what it is. For me, it’s just water I can shake off. That doesn’t mean I don’t go off crying in the bedroom for awhile but this whole memorizing scripture verses has been an amazing breakthrough for me. Sometimes I can actually do some memory verses and feel better and other times I can’t but the doing is coming a lot faster than before. Again, thanks for sharing. God bless you, Siesta!

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    ali says:

    Dublin, Ohio

    Fear! Yes, yes, yes. Just today, I was at a “play date” with my 2yo son and my 7mo daughter. My son threw a hard plastic toy ball across the room TWICE, once hitting one of the little girls. Both times he threw the ball, I told him NO even before he threw the ball.

    I was so embarrassed. I mean, when the ball hit the girl, the room got quiet. I was so humiliated that my son proved to be the terror of the play date.

    I left the party feeling so insecure – AFRAID that I wasn’t as good a mom as the others. AFRAID that the other moms would judge me or think differently of me because of my son’s behavior.

    Man, satan was all over it. He knew that my son’s behavior would be just enough to eat away at my security as a mom. So I’ve spent the rest of the afternoon repairing my esteem. Mainly, I’ve tried to justify my son’s behavior (he didn’t throw the ball out of anger, he thought she wanted to play catch, we play catch at home together all the time, etc.), but really, I simply need to start realizing that one measly event with my son DOES NOT mean that I am any less of a mom. God adores me and my son NO MATTER WHAT. Period. End of discussion. And the fact that I allow satan to eat away at me like that is showing a complete lack of faith in a God who loves me unconditionally. Heck, HE loves me so much that he gave me this little 2yo boy to care for. And that’s pretty stinkin’ cool.

    • 46.1
      Jenn says:

      I’m so glad you said that. I have a two-year old boy and I struggle with the same scenario you just mentioned. I’ve left play dates recently and just cried. I am afraid of what others think of me as a mom and what they think of my son. I want to explain his intentions and make sure they don’t think he’s a bad kid if he throws something, thinking it’s a game of catch and accidently hits someone else, etc.
      Oh, man. I’ve been convicted to rest in God’s love for me and for Judah and not worry about what anyone else may think. I don’t need to make excuses or feel so embarrassed. I just need to take each situation as it comes and try to do my best to love Jesus and love Judah.
      Anyway, I understand what you are saying and that exact situation…
      God bless you and your precious little boy.

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    Tamara says:

    1) I would give fear about a 7 or 8 in my life. Right now I’m afraid of losing a very positive relationship due to changing circumstances, not because of bad terms. This leads right into the next point. The thing that hit home to me is trusting God. This is something He is working on with me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been on my knees just this week handing over the same issues in my life. It’s been a vicious cycle that I’d like to break. I want to get the point where I give something to God and actually allow Him to keep it… what a concept. Needless to say, I’m a slow learner.

    2) I will take God’s healing of my insecurities. I have had such a great time lately being able to go through life feeling secure about me. Doing things I never thought I would do and being comfortable around people, it’s been such a release in my life.

    Highlands Ranch, CO

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    January says:

    Fear – 8
    What most impacted me from this chapter is the fact that so often I allow my fears to control me. I can only think so far as the worst possible thing happening. I never allow myself to think past that situation, to the grace that would be present on the other side. I’ve already had the opportunity this morning to share this that I just learned with a friend who struggles in a similar way. Which leads me to the next point…

    I’ve heard the Lord say to me along the way, “Healing will come as you begin sharing your story.” My hope as the journey continues is that I would have courage to walk in faith and allow God to use my pain/past to encourage others, rather than sitting back in paralyzing fear. I hope that my healing isn’t just for me, but is redemptive for others along the way.

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    Hey Siesta Mama:)

    I would say that the part fear has played in my life up until now on a scale from one to 10…is around a 7. It has driven a ton of my decisions. Now, I think it’s starting to change. The more I dwell on the promises of God, the more what Jesus said to the disciples makes sense, “Take courage! It is I.” It is Him:) p.323, what real trust is, p.325, being still and knowing He is God, p.329 “God has promised…grieving, yes, but as those who have hope…purpose”:) These parts of Ch 17 resonated with me the most.
    Reflecting over the journey as a whole, I’m glad I took part in it with you and the Siestas. Any book worth reading should leave me with a desire to know the Lord and love Him better than I love Him now. That is exactly what this book study has done for me. I wrote in the margin of my book after reading the ending prayer, *TO KNOW HIM* What you said about worship being simple focus earlier in the book struck me. Obsession, it can be about us or others or it can be all about Him. I’d rather be obsessed with Him.
    Blessings to you Siesta Mama, The Lord uses what you write and say to teach me truths, I am thankful for this ministry.

    Blessings, ((HUGS)), Love in HIM,


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    Ellen from Colorado says:

    1. Seven out of ten, my biggest fear is that I am unimportant. That’s why I’m driven by success and praises from others. I care so much what others think of me and that I make a big difference in the world. I cannot stand dissent from anyone. But I am starting to grow a back bone– not one of pride but dignity! The largest take away point for me from chapter 17 is the explanation that “she can laugh at the days to come!” Boy, does that change my world!!

    2. Overall, because I most struggle feeling unimportant, remembering Proverbs 31:25 in whole, “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come,” reminds me of this entire journey through SLI. I thank God for the freedom we have found on this journey together!!!


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      Debbie says:

      1. What a great chapter Beth, thanks for reminding me that God does take care of us no matter what. My worst fear DID come true when my then-husband of 17 years traded me in for a younger model. As devastated as I was, I knew God would take care of me and He did. I remarried 7 years ago to the man God had been holding in waiting for me. He is my perfect partner, we are as different in areas that don’t matter as we are the same in areas that do. Our marriage is a dream, our life is hard and full of trials but by God’s grace we’re marching though this journey together.

      2. What I will take away from this study is a renewed sense of urgency to foster security in the women/girls in my circle of influence. I will work harder to be encouraging to them and to be a better role model for them.

      I was encouraged as I worked my way through the study to find how much progress I’ve made over the last several years. I still have miles to go but “all things are possible with God” (Mark 10:27b)


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