So Long Insecurity Discussion Group

Week One

Week Two

Week Three

Week Four

Week Five

Week Six

Week Seven

Week Eight

Conclusion

Hey, Siestas!
Several of you asked this week about the upcoming schedule for our Siesta So Long Insecurity discussion group. All of a sudden I realized that it was just days away and I’d better hop on it! I’ve had the shelf date continually in my mind but my priority attentions to it have been shoved behind the SMT Celebration and the launch of Tuesday night Bible study. My blond brain can only sufficiently handle one thing at a time and it’s finally time for this to be the one thing.

For those of you who aren’t up to speed on the subject, this blog community was my biggest resource and, hands down, my most valuable one for the new book, So Long Insecurity. I thought it would be so appropriate and insightful (and fun) to go through it together when it comes out. Well, it’s coming out on Tuesday so we better get this big ball rolling! I’ll put the information in the form of an FAQ for those of you who find that kind of layout most helpful. So here goes:

What’s the plan?
To go through the book together here on the blog over the course of nine weeks. It will conclude the week prior to the SLI simulcast (on April 24th) and I’m anticipating God using our discussions here to add insight into the messages I’ll share that day. He’s used you so many times in this ministry.

How will it work?
Every week I’ll give you a reading assignment (roughly two chapters a week) along with one or two questions based on that material. Those who want to respond will do so through posting comments.

Who should participate?
Anyone with two X chromosomes! Everybody’s welcome! Some of the things we do together on this blog – like summer Bible study and Scripture memory – are over the heads or outside the interests of many of our female coworkers, neighbors, siblings, or friends. Not this time. This subject matter was purposely written to be relevant for any woman trying to survive this culture with a little dignity. My prayer is that, in the pursuit of dignity, they will discover real Security. (Proverbs 3:26 NLT) I give you my word it is not a trap. It is what I believe from the marrow of my bones to be the Truth. If you’re unsure you want to risk asking someone outside the Christian community to join us, grab hold of the book quickly, read it for yourself and see if you think a few of your friends might be open to going through it. No pressure. It’s entirely up to you. God alone has the power to draw people to His Son.

When will we start?
So Long Insecurity hits the stands this coming Tuesday, February 2nd. I will give everyone who wants to participate one week to get your hands on a copy (bookstores, Amazon, etc.). Then, on Tuesday, February 9th, I’ll do a “roll call” (First name and city) to see who’s going to participate. That’s always a ton of fun. In an outreach setting like this one, it will be a blast to see brand new names. On Thursday, February 11th, we’ll start our reading assignments and our first week’s discussion questions. Each Thursday for the next nine weeks I’ll pitch another set of assignments and questions on the blog until we reach the conclusion. (For those who are afraid that one week might not be long enough to get a copy of the book in your hands, keep in mind that, even if you get yours late into the second week, the reading goes quickly enough to put you right on schedule.)

What if I don’t want to take nine whole weeks to read the book?
I just knew somebody was going to ask that question. I’m laughing but I’d be the same way. You can read the book as fast as you’d like then look back on it chapter by chapter as we slow down and do it together as a group.

But what if I don’t want to participate?
Then don’t! I’ll love you so much anyway and meet with you plenty of other times on the blog.

WOW. This is about to be a reality. I just have one last thing to say, Siestas. If you hate it, you helped me write it. SHARE MY PAIN!

I love you.

*Update*
You can sign up for the SLI DG on the roll call post.*

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  1. 51
    Dee says:

    Dear Beth,

    Just wanted to say I so enjoyed your book I cried , laughed and said that is so me. I have one question for ya ..How do you handle a situation where you always feel like you have to be on guard with certain ppl ? They always seem to know just what to say to make me withdraw , they say things that really hurt me and I’m not sure how to handle it so I just withdraw and go home and think I should have said this or that I don’t want to make it bigger then what it is I’m just tiered of them making me feel like my feelings are unimportant ? HELP !!

    • 51.1
      Brooke says:

      Dee, I so stand with you on this question. I figure if you are like me, we are a little too sensitive for our own good! God has showed me that many times and it is somewhat painful to admit. I picture Jesus standing by my side at those times. Taking the insult or comment for me and with me. How does he handle it? with compassion for the speakers benefit. with understanding of where she is coming from. The comment doesn’t change my relationship with Christ! He holds my hand and loves me and her at the same time. I also know that I have been the speaker of these comments in the past and because of Christ’s example, I can have compassion. I’m not always great at this but I try in this flesh to look at Him next to me and be more like Him! Be careful not to isolate yourself. This is a defense I have used and I only go home and suffer in silence. The devil uses my pity party to really lie to my heart. Read Proverbs 18:1. It has helped me!

  2. 52
    ann powers says:

    Dear Beth,

    As I read your book i was truly thankful for being on the other side of insecurity. I Thank God for all the bible studies from you, David Jeremiah, Tony Evans, Charles Stanley, Adrian Rogers, and my local pastors and teachers whom have been contribitors of my santification process. As i read your book it brought back floods of memories of all these studies I have been apart of throughout a period of 13 years. So because of your book i fell into praise for all He has set me free from. All your stories and the stories of these precious ladies all sound familuar. What i was inspired to do is go back to my bibles from 1997, the year i began to study and journal, and harvest His words to me. I started in Genesis and worked my way throughout the bible making each verse that i had highlighted and made it personal. as i started reading all these verses compiled together that were spoken to me throughout my study years it read like a beautiful love story of me and the lover of my soul. this is a reminder to me of who i am to Him and who He is to me. i have harvested my journals every year to see His hand in my life but never have i harvested His word to see that in every book of the bible He was speaking to me in a special way during a special time. what a great thought that we have shared this life on earth together so close, wow! just think what our relationship will be like in heaven. what a gift. so thank you for all the many years of study under you and for the Holy Spirit’s inspiration to compile my love story. see ya up yonder!!!

  3. 53
    Leah says:

    I am getting started late. In the middle of the book but would love the opportunity to get involved in a discussion group. I was at the conference in Woodstock GA, and truely belive that this can be life changing. I am including my email address here in case anyone would like to join discussion group with me, since I am late starting, using the blog here as my focal point. I am a 28 year old suffering from chronic insecurity and desperetly need healing. Through the book and the conference I think I’m getting there, but it’s going to take time. More time than I have the patience for actually, haha. My email address is alaangel25@yahoo.com. Even if you’d just like to talk about the book/conference, what God is doing in your life…

  4. 54
    Linda Vaught Metz says:

    Hi Beth,

    I am about 150 pages in to your book and you speak to my heart. My own insecurities are so severe sometimes that I isolate myself just to avoid the possibility of rejection. My family had a lot to do with how I feel, but unwittingly. I can’t blame them, and I have to believe that God has a purpose for this because he created me. I know that because of the way I feel sometimes, I reach out to others who are suffering for any number of reasons, and I don’t think I would if I were less insecure. You make me cry sometimes with your passion and the acknowledgment of your own painful experiences. You are strong and such an awesome role model. Thank you for this book, and for loving our Lord so dearly.

  5. 55
    Cheryl says:

    Because I felt that insecurity was such a drain on my life, God granted me enough wisdom to continue pondering how to put this book and simulcast into practice in a real way. Thanks be to God for His true wisdom!! So I wanted to share a small but real victory that I had the other day.

    I asked my husband one day if I looked cute in my new sundress. He of course proceeded to compare it to a potato sack. As I thought of it, I was hurt that he could not say one nice thing. And as I got more upset it was then God asked me a question. “Why did you need that validation in the first place?” Well, why did I? I felt good in the sundress. What more validation did I need than that?

    So two days later when I came home from work, I went back to my room and thought about how much I liked the outfit I had worn that day. So the first thought in my mind was to go and “ask” my husband if I looked cute. I could not believe I was doing it again!

    So instead I strutted out into the living room, and announced to my husband that I looked cute today. I let him know that I was not asking him if I looked cute, but was telling him that I did! I then strutted back to my room, laughing all the way. Leaving my husband sitting there shaking his head, but with a grin on his face. Being free feels so good…

    Thank you for being another way for God to speak to so many of us.

  6. 56
    LeeAnn says:

    Beth, Your Bible studies have impacted me in so many ways! I am almost done reading “So Long Insecurity” and it has helped me in more ways than I could ever begin to tell you! I saw it on the shelf at Border’s and immediately knew your book was a “MUST” read for me! I am 20 years old and am getting married in less than 3 weeks. For the past couple of years I have slowly let insecurities creep up on me and let them control the way I think and live. I would constantly put the blame on others, and never own up to them myself. It has been a horrible journey trying to overcome them, because I had no idea how to pinpoint what it was that was making me insecure and because of this I was lost as to how to deal with it. My fiancé’ and I have had countless arguments because I would overreact, be untrusting, feel insecure when he had done nothing but affirm me, etcetera. We came near calling off the wedding more times than I can count, because I couldn’t face the fact that I had stuff I needed to deal with (Which of course those times made me feel even more insecure). I was a wreck! I was completely worn down and feeling as though it was hopeless for me to overcome my insecurities. Reading your book and connecting it with God’s Word has totally changed my view on insecurities and on myself. As soon as I prayed the prayer in Chapter 9 I felt a huge burden lifted off of my shoulders. It literally felt as though the heaviest load in the world had been taken from me. I cannot explain to you how powerful that moment was. God has given me hope. He has filled me once again with His joy and His promises. I’m not naive to think my insecurities will never come back, but when they do I now know I have a choice. I can choose not to believe Satan’s lies, but instead cling to the promises of our faithful Father. I’ve told my fiancé’ time and time again, “I will change. I am going to change.” But nothing ever did, in fact, it grew worse. This past week after reading your book and spending time with the Lord I repeated those same words to my fiancé’ but this time with true meaning and understanding. They’re not empty words anymore. I can change, and I WILL change. I AM changing. It honestly is a miracle. I know you hear this all the time, but God is using you in powerful ways to further His kingdom and draw His people closer to His heart. I am so thankful for you and your ministry!

    • 56.1
      Beth says:

      Dearest Lee Ann, I pray that Christ will continue the work He has started in you and will pour His Spirit out upon your marriage. May He raise up both of you as mighty warriors of the faith. Blessings to you, Sweet Little Sister. I hope to see you on here often!

      • LeeAnn says:

        Thank you so much for responding! That little note of encouragement meant a lot to me! I’ve already added your site to my “Favorites” sidebar. =) May God continue to bless you and your family and your ministry!

      • LeeAnn says:

        Ok well I’m taking a stab in the dark here, b/c I know you are CRAZY busy and may not be able to get back to this! But I’m starting a small group Bible study for the girls in our college group. All are new believers trying to become more serious a/b their relationship w/ Christ and overcome the baggage from their past, and I was wondering which Bible study of yours would be the best to start out w/?

  7. 57
    Carol Hammond says:

    I bought the book “So Long Insecurity” after attending the simulcast and have just finished it. It was excellent and I will be reading it again because there was so much in it I need. I loved the simulcast and took notes, but couldn’t do it justice. Is there any chance a Bible study could be made incorporating the information and Scripture from the simulcast with the book. If not, could the simulcast be made available for viewing? It was a true blessing! Thank you, Beth.

  8. 58
    Bonnie says:

    Hi Beth,
    I was at the simulcast for “So Long Insecurities”, I had never heard you speak before, but your name is well known here in a small town in Manitoba, Canada. You told a story that day of a friend who told you the reason she was afraid to go to your simulcast was because she was afraid that God would not speak to her and it made me chuckle. The reason I was afraid to go was because I was afraid that God would ONLY speak to me, that I was the only one that may have insecurities. The church I went to had 450 women in it and I’ll tell you, it would have been easier for me to walk into that building if it was filled with 450 men! I went alone, sat alone and argued with God the entire time before I got there, when I couldn’t find any reasonable excuse not to go, I went, but not very willingly. All this to say, I’m soooo glad I did! You spoke from the very heart of God and I am so glad you were obedient. Thank you for speaking up and sharing what God has shown you. It was inspiring and freeing! May God bless you as you continue on your walk with Him, love and appreciate you! Bonnie

  9. 59
    Sandy says:

    Struggled today. Sure wish I’d gotten victory over this before reaching menopause. The wacky hormones sure exacerbate the insecure feelings!

    • 59.1
      mary says:

      Hey this is for Sandy who just replied and for beth of course! I too am a menopausal woman. I like to call it “mental pause” because I tend to think I have been put in a nuthouse in my mind at times. Seriously, many issues from the past seem to be haunting me (insecurity over my husband’s past girlfriends being a major one, and we’re talking over 40 years ago there!)I have learned that we are ALL broken in mind and spirit at times and we need the HEALING LOVE of Jesus more and more as we age….Beth’s book was a blessing over and over again to me and was written just for me, as so many of us have come to feel. We are NOT alone, we have our Lord and all the beautiful ministering women out there who share their stories and bare their souls!!!! Praise God for you all!!!! P.S. I’d also love to get into a discussion group a bit deeper than these comments can go……I don’t want to leave my e-mail just now, but if someone else wants to get into a group of this sort, I will respond.

      • Sandy says:

        Thanks for your reply. I would love to have a discussion group also. I might even be willing to start one. What do you all think: Facebook or a forum or something else?

        • mary says:

          Sandy….if you want to start a “group” discussion, whether it be Facebook (which I am on) or online, I am READY for it….I can think of no better time to get healed from my “cracks” and to minister to other women who are cracked vessels and broken bits of pottery, who by the way, represent most of us women in the world; we need to be there for each other. I can be reached at mamakazz@gmail.com and then we can go from there ….to FaceBook or wherever!!! God Bless you and God Bless Beth and God Bless us all!!!! <3 <3 <3

    • 59.2
      mary says:

      This is for Sandy and Leah…..are you both on FB? Let’s start a discussion group!!! Leah has just contacted me and Sandy, if you are interested I am on FB and my e-mail is mamakazz@gmail.com. Hope we can communicate…..this is how the Lord ministers to us….through His other “sojourners” in life!!! God Bless You!!!

  10. 60
    Leah says:

    As I mentioned in an earlier post, I would love to talk to people about this. This is a huge struggle for me, every day and I have basically no one to talk to about what’s going on. I left my email in an earlier post, but will leave it again…alaangel25@yahoo.com.

  11. 61
    Yvonne Pierce says:

    I am hoping someone here can help me. I attended the SLI simulcast last month and it was tremendous! Beth used a verse that talked about letting old things be in the past and having a new song, a new outlook… I CAN’T find the verse in my notes! I have combed my notes and then scanned through a couple of books of the Bible and still haven’t located the verse. Can anyone help me?

    Thanks!
    Yvonne

    • 61.1
      Beth says:

      Hi, Yvonne! It’s Isaiah 43:18-19. The translation I used in the simulcast was “The Message.” Look it up! I think you’ll love it. I just recited it to the Lord this very morning on my walk.

      • Yvonne Pierce says:

        Oh, thank you so much! I was really touched and blessed by that verse. I had combed Psalms, Ezekiel and Jeremiah and was going nuts!!!

        Blessings to you!

  12. 62
    Terri says:

    Hi Beth
    I have not read your book yet but I did read an interview you did for “In Touch” magazine. Those few lines, as so many others have said, hit me where I live. My insecurity has frozen me from following God’s will many times therefore missing the blessing I could be to others and receiving for myself.This being said,I know I am being called to write a book but every time I think of starting my chest constricts and I almost get a panic attack. I feel I am too unworthy to write the story He has given me. (By the way, the book is Christian fiction geared toward young adult girls.) I don’t know if this book is meant to be published or just written for myself but I know it needs to be written. I plan to get your book and overcome the hold insecurity has on my life. Please pray that I have the courage to follow His leading. Thanks so much for following God’s will to write YOUR book and help so many. Please pray that I will do the same. God bless you.

  13. 63
    Liz says:

    I still do not get it. I am a christian that is not the part I am having trouble with. I really want this freedom of insecurity. It has such hold on me when it comes to hving a friend. I push them away beouse I have been hurt by them way more then ones. I have read the book i am going to read it again to see if my simple mind will get it the second time around.

  14. 64
    Kelley says:

    Dear Beth,
    I am on my second time around on your book “So Long INsecurity” It has helped a great deal. I just got word from my son who is in Afganistan that his base was attacked. I had just read the book once (I saw you in Tampa with my mom and daughter. She was the one who made you a sign 🙂 ) My son has had mortar fire the first day he got to Afganistan, and then his convoy ran over a IED, and the truck ahead of him blew up. I was a wreck. Then when I heard about the attack on the base, I had a better perspective of how I needed to respond to my son. It made things alot easier for me to handle when I remembered that my situations will not determine my confidence in Jesus. My hubby has CLL. It is cronic leukemia, and it is a waiting game. I have broken down and been discouraged, afraid and disappointed. And when my daughters cat died and she fell apart and I couldn’t console her, I wondered if I would be enough when she needed me (God forbid) her daddy goes home to be with the Lord. I felt inadequate, and a failure. Thanks so much for your book. I appreciated how you shared so much of yourself with us and that God has used that book mightily in my life and that effects my family in a huge way. I pray for you daily and am grateful for all you give of yourself. Have a blessed summer and you enjoy your family in the summer months. Grateful for so much…

  15. 65
    Gabby says:

    Dear Beth,

    I am 25 years old, and I know this is a super late comment because most of the comments I see here are from April, but I wanted to tell you that your book has changed my life.
    I know this might sound a little crazy, but since finishing your book (actually since I started reading the first page) I knew that God had inteded for me to read the words you wrote. I have been a very insecure person all of my life and only until two weeks ago did I realize how much of a routine it had turned into that I didn’t know it was insecurity anymore. You spoke SO much into my life, and I know that God inspired you to write this book so that He would be glorified in seeing so many women changed and redeemed. I finished the book last week and while I am not perfect in any way, I did change my thought-life, my prayer life, and my over all way of living.
    I teach High School English and sometimes my days are filled with so much relational aspects that I find myself emotionally drained and there are times when the past comes up to haunt me and my insecurities flare up like a forest fire. By reading this book I have realized how much more I need to depend on the Lord, without him I cannot conquer this insecurity or do anything worth doing. I find myself citing scripture such as “She is clothed with strenght and dignity”, and praying to the Lord “I trust YOU. Period!”
    Thank you for allowing GOd to use you, because I would continue to live in horrible, chronic insecurity if I hadn’t been challenged to a different way of life and relationship with my Saviour Jesus Christ.
    I hope this all makes sense, but again thank you and praise the Lord for what He does in our lives, He is indeed faithful and wonderful!

  16. 66
    Sara says:

    Beth, thank you so much for letting Jesus speak through you through your book. It has done painful wonders for me. I’m a 19-year-old who just finished her freshman year of college and I’ve only known Christ for almost 2 years so this book came at a perfect time for me. It’s opened up insecurities in myself that I didn’t know were there! Now the hard part is taking them to my Savior and allowing Him to transform them! Thank you so much again. You’re an inspiring servant. =)

  17. 67
    A'ndrea says:

    I attended the simulcast and was blown away! I was ALL OVER it!! So of course I picked up the book and I’m halfway through. (I must stop and meditate as I see my insecurities exposed.) I’ve been noticing my insecurities on facebook especially. I’ll rejoice when someone wants to add me as a friend! But my insecurities are especially noticeable when I look at someone else’s number of friends and think, “How is it possible to have 400 friends?!? And I thought I was doing good at breaking 100 (with my husband’s friends considered as my own — the two shall be one, right?!)” But, praise God, I’m being delivered. So long, Insecurity! I’d like to facebook in peace!

  18. 68
    Jamie Caudle says:

    I just finished reading “So Long, Insecurity”. As with every Beth Moore project of any kind you don’t just read it you experience it. I started out thinking “Yes, this is all me”. I have dealt with it for 60 years and finally come to grips with most issues.However, I suddenly found myself weeping and wanting to finally rid myself of the burden completely and I just printed out the prayer at the end to put on my refrigerator and say daily. You have helped me more than I can say with all your studies. May God continue to use you.

    • 68.1
      mary says:

      Hey this is for Jamie Caudle..Are you on Facebook? Feel free to Facebook Friend me if you would like some extra “chat” I too have been “around” for 60 years *YIKES* and have alot to share and alot of tolerance for listening to others sharing as well. I LOVE this book and the help and healing it has given me, Praise the Lord. I am still a work in progress though, (aren’t we all?) and I am on a day to day process of total healing from the insecurity issues. When one set clears up, it seems another “crop” starts to sprout. We need to treat this with plenty of God’s Word and also alot of humor and compassion. He has that in good supply too. So, FB friend me if you like….Mary Anne Kinney Kacvinsky…

  19. 69
    Carol says:

    Dear Beth,
    Thank you for your book _So Long Insecurity_
    I had a “friend” who is a emotional predator. My christian counselor told me 7 years ago to leave the relationship. I did, except we attend the same church so she still continued to come after me even after I repeatedly told her to stop. I have decided to leave the church we have been active in for 38 years. There are tears and I hurt, but thank you for your book. By faith I believe what Gen. 50:21 says. “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives”. I’ll keep you posted and let you know how this scripture becomes truth in my life.

  20. 70
    elise says:

    just finished the book.. Wow..gonna have to read it again. There was so much to take in that it was overwhelming. I couldn’t put it down. Such a well written testament to truths that no one wants to fess up to. I went from crying to laughing but it hit some sore spots and knocked the scab right off. Now I need to “tell Jesus what haunts me” and heal and not try to bandage things back up. My heart was pierced with several quotes. Such a soul searching book. I can see this is going to be one of your greatests ever. Thanks Beth.

  21. 71
    Nikki Watkins says:

    Dear Beth,

    I am almost done with the book. I too, like countless others, am so blessed by your ministry. Keep on keeping on sistah! I really appreciate your honesty. The truth will indeed set us free!

    In his loving spirit,

    Nikki
    “I am clothed with strength and dignity. No one can take it away, God gave it to me. It is mine.”

  22. 72
    Myrna Welch says:

    Beth,
    Finished reading the book So Long, Insecurity. I read the borrowed book in two days. Jotted down things I wanted to remember, especially about not giving my security to anyone else. I didn’t realize pride and insurity went together, I just know that God had revealed to me while back that I had a spirit of PRIDE that I have been dealing with. I own a small business that is failing in a small Missouri town praying for God’s direction as the suggestion as been to file bankrupcty which I do not believe in has a Christian.
    I to dealt with sexual abuse has a small child which I have overcome with the help of the Lord. Then a 36 year marriage that ended in divorce in 2006. Now at the age of 60 I feel like my life is starting over again with the security that I have found in Jesus Christ through your book. I am highly recommending it to my daughter-in-law who has a lot of insucurities also.
    God Bless you Beth on your obedience and faithfulness.
    Myrna

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  24. 74
    Kate says:

    I had to tell you – I have this best friend. She’s my soul mate. I know you know this feeling because you write about it a lot. Actually, as our friendship grew, we knew and noticed that our words, mannerisms, ideas and absurdly comical perspectives on things were pretty similar and aligned with your (Beth) way of communicating a point. We’ve since, a few years ago, dedicated ourselves to being accountable through some of your studies. We don’t live near each other so that’s what we have to hold on to. We’re in our mid-twenties. The last text I got was an over the top – GET THE INSECURITY BOOK WE ARE DOOOINNGG THISSS NOWWW…I was like “Alright, alright…I hear you.” Half.com here I come.

    I’m sure you know how it can go – sometimes you get so excited about a new venture only to put it off, put it on your nightstand, do something “christiany” like pray over the cover so you don’t feel like you’re not neglecting it – the list goes on. Well, I didn’t do that with this book. And I’ll cut to the chase. It was awesome, I am already re-reading it, front to back, upside down and will act as if it never finishes.

    What was strange that I even thought up the idea to find this blog and write it – the night I finished the book…I had this crazy dream. You can get freaked out if you want, I’m sure you hear tons of funny things – but this was kind-of neat to me. I appreciated it, I can say.

    I had a dream that you (Beth) were on a campus with me somewhere and spread out on the campus were my various family members. You had a pen and a notepad and were having me list insecurities to you about all of us. I started with me, then I went to my husband, and my children, and soon my parents and then my siblings. The thing is, you weren’t the prominent answer or “solver,” you were the catalyst and when I woke up, I felt not only a better, more confident understanding of my (insecurely – inappropriate) vulnerabilities and also, I was able to see those I loved the most quite clearly. I felt a deeper sense of connected, love and understanding. It was neat.

    We all definitely have our fair share to stomach and carry – I am a mother-by-married to three beautiful children. That job itself – taking that on I basically begged for 8 million insecurities to come my way, lemme tell you! But God is good and I know that step-parenting can be a selfless job – I say that with humility – saying that at the end of the day, my need for “Lord-reliance” is quite hefty…he’s the one who loves all of me, whom I need to sustain womanhood, livelihood and servanthood. This all sounds good, but you as well as I know these battles are daily. I am working on getting them weekly! The blameless bloody portrait of the cross is my axiom – my attempted first foundational thought because that’s why I’m serving…that’s why I’m here.

    With all that said, in a nutshell, this book is long overdue and I praise God he’s given you the mediums and avenues to use that readily distasteful, distracting monster called media to reach us all. Your voice is stronger and will stay that way. We win in the end. It’s great watching the Lord love you in how you work through your sisters.

    Warmest regards.

  25. 75
    Kristi says:

    Beth,

    I am 29 years old. I am going through a divorce with a 2 1/2 year old. I never thought I’d be in this place in my life. I always desired to be a wife and stay-at-home mom so my dreams are shattering. As the wife of a professional athlete, I understood and connected with your comments about their hearts often times being in shreds. My identity was found in my husband for eight years, while I put myself on the back burner. Now I must face my insecurity and find out who I am and what I want to do with my life from this point on. I’m in chapter 10 of your book and am hoping and praying that healing is finding its way to my heart, soul, and mind.

    May God bless you for writing such an honest, insightful and helpful book. Thank you.

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    Leah says:

    Upone request, I have started an informal discussion group on facebook. If you’d like to join, you should be able to search “So Long Insecurity” and pull it up that way. Otherwise, you can search for me through my email, alaangel25@yahoo.com and should be able to find it there. Email if you have any difficulties.

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    Rebecca says:

    A small group of us bought the book at the simulcast event and are starting our read-through together tonight! Better late than never to pursue security!

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    Debbie says:

    Beth,

    I have just started your book for our church’s book club. I’ve joined the book club in order to meet other church ladies, otherwise, I’m sorry to admit, I wouldn’t have bought your book. God does work in mysterious ways because I’m only on Chapter 6 and my insecure heart has been exposed. It’s as if you wrote this book knowing exactly who I am. Thank God I’m not alone in my insecurities!

    I’m wanting to buy a copy for one of my friends who is not a Christian but who desperately needs to read this! Her insecurities are clearly worn on her sleeve and I think your book would help her. All I need is the courage to give the book to her. (I’ll bet you can guess what one of my insecurities is!) Please pray for her to have a receptive and open heart. She just struggles so much and needs God in her life. It’s painful to know that she’s so unhappy and struggling so much.

    Thank you for your book. I’m looking forward to finishing it and then re-reading it over and over. Thank you also for having the courage to write about your own insecurities so we women can know we’re not alone and that there is a way out from under them.

    God Bless

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    Cindy says:

    Dear Beth,
    I just finished So Long Insecurity. I am an insecure woman facing divorce after 29 years of marriage. I am facing head on one of my biggest fears- my husband stopped loving me and found a younger one. I am facing the real fact that maybe someday my daughters will accept this other woman. Thank you for reminding me that our God is bigger than all that and will work eventually work all this ugliness for His Glory.
    Thank you for writing a book just for me and helping me in this journey called life.

    May God Continue Blessing You Richly,

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    Ann says:

    Hi Beth,
    I have done several of your bible studies, and loved every one of them. When I heard about this book, I KNEW I had to read it. Well, let me just say that it has not only changed my life (which I don’t believe I’ve ever said about ANY book), it has also saved me. About one week into the book, as I was feeling so much stronger, my best friend “dumped” me. Broke off our friendship. I was devastated, hurt beyond compare, lonely, sad, you name it. Before starting this book, this probably would have been something I wouldn’t have been able to recover from for a long time, and I would’ve been an emotional wreck for weeks or months. Thank God for you and this book. I am becoming a strong “dignified” woman and am weathering this storm with much more grace than would have been possible before. My heart hurts every day, but my hope is that God will keep molding me into a woman “clothed in strength and dignity” that my daughters can be proud of, and a strong wife for my husband, because he deserves that. I am almost done with the book, and am thinking about re-reading it. I want to buy a copy for every one of my girlfriends, it’s so amazing. Beth, thank you for your ministry and your heart for women like me.

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    Min Taylor says:

    Mrs. Moore,
    I just finished Chapter 14 with tears streaming down throughout the chapter. I picked this book as my summer “must read” after seeing it on the intouch.org website booklist. I THANK GOD, FOR YOU, your insight and having placed this book in my view. I’ll be 50 soon and am at a very low point in my life. I accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior at the age of eight but I’m afraid I have not reflected his love and light in how I have lived my life. As a matter of fact I was thinking I couldn’t stand another year like the last 50. I am single, no children, “long handle spoon” relationships with family, very few “friends”, was laid off from a job of 13 years June 2009 and was recently re-hired (PRAISE GOD) but to be honest I have to repeat the scripture in my head that roughly says, work like you are reporting directly to GOD because other wise I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed in the morning and YES I did try to find employment elsewhere and even went back to school to get recertified in something I use to do. I guess the last sentence was written to convey the fact that I can’t seem to be still and rest and be secure. The man I “dated” for 15 of the last 20 years is marrying someone else (I know it would have never worked out with us but it still hurts). 6 years ago, after getting into a Bible study group and reading the truth of GOD, I terminated the physical aspect of the relationship. I was sad but I didn’t feel bad anymore however, Satan never lets up, making me constantly second guess that decision. Thank God I didn’t give in.

    Most of all it’s very comforting to know that the thoughts and feelings I have had for SO LONG were not mine alone. I’m so glad I now know I’m NOT crazy just need work on the insecurity and that I’ve held the key to security all along, Jesus Christ. I’ve dog-earred the pages with scripture references and hard truths and will continue in my Bible study group during the school year. THANK YOU FOR LETTING GOD USE YOU.

    GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR LOVELY FAMILY.

    Min

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    Katelyn says:

    Hey Mrs. Beth! I just finished your book this weekend as I had a little “retreat” with my family out at the lake. I am only 17, and thought this book wouldn’t apply to me as much, but more to woman, not just teenagers : ). I decided to read it because I would much rather hand this over to the Lord now, then 20 years down the road! I want to live in full freedom from insecurity, and although I am not there yet, God truly used your book to help me break down some of my insecurity walls. So many days I have said out loud, “God gave me my security, and no one else can take it.”
    Thank you so much for letting God use you!!

    Katelyn

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    Jeanne says:

    I have just started reading the book and it’s July. Looking forward to what the Lord has in mind. My insecurity has grown into a tethered mess. I’m a wife, mother of 2 and can’t maintain a friendship due to my insecurities, ADD and lack of memory. I pray, read the Bible, am involved in the church, in Bible studies and still make the same mistakes over and over again! Desperate to be well, loved and healed by my Lord.

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    Olivia UMUGWIZA says:

    Dear Mrs Moore,

    I am a Rwandan who is currently living in Cape Town, South Africa. I’ve only done one of your Bible Study, and I came across this book, not really hoping or thinking too much! I haven’t finished it yet, and I must say, I keep on praying that prayer, over and over again…and all the time, I wish I could share it with my fellow countrywomen…I think your book talks to all of us, with such humility but yet a lot of wisdom! Are your books translated? Or your bible study? I would so love to share it with some of my French speaking friends…
    Be abundantly blessed, along with your family and the Siestas!

    An admirer

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      Beth says:

      We are so blessed to have you here, Olivia. We’d try to serve you in any way we could. Most of the books have been translated into Spanish and, little by little and one by one, into other languages. As far as I know, I don’t remember translations into French. I have been to Cape Town a number of times, by the way, and I remember it so fondly. God’s richest blessings to you, Sister!

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    Sandy McCoy says:

    Dear Beth,

    Just finished reading So Long, Insecurity! It seems that God has used your words through this book to offer solutions to end my lifelong struggle with insecurity and boy am I pumped!! (I thought for a moment my family must have blogged about me as a resource for your book! HA!)

    I’m new to your blog and find it refreshing to know there’s such a godly support community for us!

    Today I am posting on my bathroom mirror the words in the middle of page 244 from the book.

    Thank you for allowing God to speak and live through you!

    Sandy

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    cheri says:

    I just finished your book earlier today it really touched some nerves, every time I get anxious now I take a look at the root to see if it an insecurity. One of the things that was really hard was reading about your worst fear, I’m living it I am very insecure of a women who has stepped in n plays mom in my children’s life n they let her, I play second fiddle at best in my children’s life. It’s a living night mare n no matter how hard I try its there. When u talked about your husbands co worker coming up to him n greeting him, I thought back a couple months ago to my sons graduation, him n I were hanging together n his dads wife bounced down on the field n put her ARM around him n is all about having her picture taken w him, I swear he put his ARM around her more than he did his own mother.

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    Jackie Cooper says:

    WOW WOW WOW!!! I tell you this book has pulled every emotion out of me! Ok so like I’m sitting on my patio since I promised God that sometime today I would get alone and do the prayer guide to the book “So Long Insecurity”…bad decision! So there I sit on my patio alone crying, scribbling notes and underlining everything…and talking to myself…how do you know me so well Beth?
    I have neighbors!!!! what will they think!The next minute I am laughing so hard (snorting) I can’t breath! Picturing you Beth in those shorts with heels!!!I even wrote in my notes ROTFLMBO! (Rolling on the floor laughing my butt off). I had to come inside my house…the neighbors must have been listening or maybe even looking! I don’t care what they saw or heard! GOD LOVES ME! He made me just like I am! I may be a bit messed up in my thinking but I’m getting better! Thank you JESUS! Thank you Beth! I’m gonna go out first think and buy several of these books to give to friends! I’ve been telling them they all need to go buy one…their to insecure to go buy one and walk through the store. Hmmm wonder what everyone wil think of me as I walk through the store with about 5 or 6! LOL
    BEAUTIFUL! BEAUTIFUL! BEATIFUL! I’m getting FREE! 😮

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    Michelle says:

    I just finished your book in a total of 3 days I could not put it down. I laughed and cried and in the end I feel so much stronger, I know I still have a long road to go but I TRUST JESUS!!! and I know he will be there for me. I am so glad that I picked up this book, I have being going through a rough season lately but this book really helped me,thanks you so much.

    Michelle

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    Jamie Rigmaiden says:

    A friend gave me this book when I was going through a rough time, and my first reaction was, “What? I’m not insecure.” Not even two pages in, I realized how deeply misguided I have been and how much I’ve needed the love of God to teach me to stop hating myself. This is a book that I wish I had been given a lot sooner, and I plan on giving it to any future daughter God may bless me with. Thank you, Beth!

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    Amy says:

    Dear Beth,

    So Long Insecurity is the first book I have read by you. My small group is starting your study on Esther (tonight actually!) and I came across your insecurity book when looking for that. It literally jumped off the shelf toward me although I was slightly insecure about buying it! Every word spoke to me and I thank you so much for your candid and humorous writing style. I can’t wait to start your next study.

    I have prayed each prayer and repeatedly say, “I am clothed with strength and dignity…” because it is going to take a lot of work and prayer to get over my long rooted insecurities that have become so vivid and apparent after digging into your words. I am struggling though…so much! After reading your chapter toward the end about your worst fear I feel stuck. I was moving forward through the book and now I am frozen and don’t know how to get through this part of the healing which seems critical to letting go of insecurity and trusting God. You so bravely wrote about how you would confront your worst fear and how you could think it through and then you felt released. I can’t do it…my worst fear is that I will be alone forever. I am 35 and single. I am an only child. I have had many relationships, but they have all failed and fueled my insecurity to no end. One just recently ending in May which was so fitting to find some relief in reading your book. I just can’t walk through the fear of being alone without a husband or child someday…or without any family at some point. I just end up sobbing when I try. I just don’t want to believe that would be God’s will, so I can’t trust him. But on my own trying to meet men and make relationships work obviously isn’t working either. How do you work through that fear?

    Blessings on your ministry, I am so thankful to God to have come upon it.

    Amy

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    Judy says:

    Dear Beth,
    I just finished your book a few minutes ago. I believe that you wrote it, “for such a time as this” in my life. My heart is full right now and very thankful to God for His timing! My insecurity was spiraling out of control before I even knew that the root was insecurity. It has been affecting my wonderful husband (whom God has specially equipped to be strong at this time to help me through what I’ve been experiencing) and my feelings toward other women. Each chapter has brought me closer to healing and I feel that, through prayer, I’ve had a real breakthrough by today!! Thank you so much for being so vulnerable. It has been invaluable in my life and I have already been recommending your book to others. I know that I will have to take one day at a time but now I have hope and increased trust in God for the future!
    God bless you for all you’ve allowed God to do in your life!!

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    Michelle says:

    I just had to leave a comment. My husband and I were taking our precious 9 year old daughter to church camp over an hour away from our home yesterday. We decided to let our 15 year old son, who has had his permit for less than a month, to drive. I grabbed my copy of So Long, Insecurity on the way out the door for company.

    The drive over was uneventful. The sun was shining, son was relaxed and enjoying playing chauffer. My husband was calm and rational as he talked our son through getting onto the interstate for the first time.

    We stopped for a bite to eat on the way home. As I watched the sky turn dark gray, then green, I nervously asked husband if maybe he should drive home. He rolled his eyes at me and reassured me our son could handle a little rain (he might as well have said “Calm down, little lady”, so condescending was he).

    Sure enough, we got on the interstate and it just poured buckets. At the halfway point, we exited the interstate for a hilly two lane state road that twists and turns. We were driving down this road with semis coming toward us and cars passing our van as we hydroplaned toward home. I could see a look of stark fear in my son’s eyes in the rear view mirror.

    The irony of all of this? I’m in the back seat reading chapter 17 titled “What Are You Afraid Of?”

    When we finally made it home, husband and I both literally stumbled out of the van and hugged each other. I am not kidding you. As we were holding onto each other like prisoners who just escaped the death sentence, I told him the title of the chapter I’d just been reading. He laughed so hard….

    By the way, I loved loved loved the book! Thank you so much for writing it. The Lord has really used it to open my eyes to some things I’ve needed to work on. Thanks again,

    Michelle Skow,
    Lebanon, IN

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    VB says:

    I just finished reading your book which found me in the wierdest of ways. I picked this book up a few weeks ago after what I was determined would be the last time insecurity will show me up in my relationship with my fiance, and I believe God did want that to be the last time. Honestly, by the first few pages, I was sure someone leaked my personal journal to you and you decided to make a book out of it. I was so embarassed seeing myself in those pages, but more than that I was relieved, because I knew freedom had come. In the last few months I had been asking God if I was ever going to be free. Your book was an astounding yes. I said the chapter 9 prayer last week and i genuinely feel a change. I am so much less secure it almost feels unreal. But I know its here to stay… the lies were exposed so openly in this book and well, light always overcomes darkness that much is true of me right now. Oh and it couldn’t have come at a much better time as I am about to walk down the aisle!! I’m so grateful to God I laughed and cried so much during the process of reading this book, but those were just tears and laughs of relief. I especially was blessed by the chapter of wanting to me omnipotent and omniscient! oh dear… Girl you shouldn’t tell on us like that!! Lol! I tried in the first few months of dating my fiance to control him… yep you guessed it… he’s stubborn even to himself so you I’m sure you can guess how those tantrums ended.
    Well I could go on and on! But today I wrote pages in my journal just thanking God for sending me a door of hope in the troubled wilderness that I recently found myself in. Insecurity is such a lonely torment, because its not like i can really understand it enough to even confide in anyone about it. Most of the time/ energy is spen trying to hide it!
    God bless you Beth, this book has left me with a passion for my sisters and friends. I’ll review it for my church’s women’s magazine. Just so that other people can get the healing and freedom i found.

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    Sheila says:

    Beth,
    I purchased your book, So Long, Insecurity, but I have not read it yet. I am having a major struggle with insecurity. Over the past several years I’ve been ill and have had several surgeries. My husband passed away suddenly in 2008.

    I’m a Christian woman and I thought the former strongholds involving the root of rejection had been dealt with. But I’m seeing old insecurities come back since I’ve met a new male friend.

    I know my security lies in the Lord not in things or another person, but my heart and spirit apparently do not know this.

    Thank you and God Bless.

    Sheila

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    LeAnne says:

    Beth,
    Thank you so much for your obedience to the Lord in writing this book! We (a group of about 16 women) are starting our fifth week of working through SLI together! It has been amazing and the Lord is really moving in our hearts. Your transparency and love for healing and complete confidence in our Savior has been a great example to all of us. My battle cry is now “Hello Security, so thankful you are my good friend”! Still working thru my own insecurities, but I am trusting God for BIG things here!!

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    Sally says:

    Beth,
    I just finished reading SLI, my neighbor/friend gave it to me.. I thank God for using both of you in my life. I have spent 28 years of married life afaid my sweet husband would leave, we have never had problems other than my own insecurity. I always felt I was afraid of him leaving due to my own father leaving as a result of
    divorce. So I always assummed it would happen to me. This has been such a blessing to know I am not alone in this matter. And to know God is in control and I am claiming his healing. Thanks again I cannot express in words how lifechanging this book has been. Thanks

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    Jamie says:

    Beth,
    I attended your SLI simulacast in Feb., but have just now finished your book. I can’t tell you what it has meant to me. Thanks so much for sharing your struggles, so that the rest of us could benefit.

    There’s a song that’s been whirling around in my head for the past week — Matt Maher’s “Hold Us Together” — and it speaks of Christians sharing their hearts and supporting each other, and through that, strengthening the whole body of Christ. I think you’ve definitely done that through this book. I feel encouraged and strengthened beccause you have LIVED it,and come out on the other side.

    And,Beth — I truly wish we COULD sit down in a coffee shop somewhere and talk! 🙂 It would be so much fun; I’d love the chance to share stories and laugh with you awhile!

    God bless you!

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    Julie in BC says:

    Dear Beth….

    Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. This is my 1st time writing and reading your blog. I hope to return here many times, to hear the journey so many of us are on and to support and be supported at the same time.

    A dear friend of mine told me about this book a few weeks back, after sharing with her my struggles over this past year of an extremely difficult friendship I am in. Bless her heart, the book was exactly what I needed in so many ways. To help me better understand myself, but also to help me better understand where women in general are coming from.

    I am now getting together with 2 lovely friends of mine to study the book together. I am so excited!!! So as I journey again through this book, I know I will come out at the end on my road to security. (I read the book so fast the 1st time, as I just couldn’t put it down, now this time, I am going to dig deeper with my friends as we study it together.)

    May you have a wonderful summer….and thanks for writing this book for us…I’ve said over and over to my husband, that every single women on planet Earth needs to read this book!!!!

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    Mandi says:

    Beth,

    I have finally finished your book So Long Insecurity. I loved it and God spoke volumes to me through it. I wanted to share with you a quick story concerning the book. I took your book to the pool with me one afternoon. Of course, the pool is the one place where insecurity abounds and thrives. I got situated in my chair and pulled out the book…my first thought was “should I take off the paper cover so no one will know what I am reading?” Then I thought..”Are you kidding me!?” How insecure am I, that I would not want anyone to “think” I am insecure! Boy, did I need this book. I went to the beach just as I read the chapter on repeating to myself how lovely am I God’s dwelling place! I spent the entire time telling myself “I am lovely”. It works! Thank you for being God’s instument through which I heard His voice. I so greatly appreciate it.

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    mary says:

    Hey there Girls and Beth! I have enjoyed your book to the point of buying more and more copies to share with friends and associates. I have put a couple out at my local Curves and they have “disappeared” and I am so glad of that!! I have recieved so much help in my own battle with insecurity due to the Lord leading Beth to write this wonderful book. Now, as I am slowly (VERY SLOWLY) starting the road to healing, I am eager to share this good news with other hurting sisters!!! Praise the Lord for this book Beth Moore!!!!

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So Long Insecurity Discussion Group

Hey, Siestas!
Several of you asked this week about the upcoming schedule for our Siesta So Long Insecurity discussion group. All of a sudden I realized that it was just days away and I’d better hop on it! I’ve had the shelf date continually in my mind but my priority attentions to it have been shoved behind the SMT Celebration and the launch of Tuesday night Bible study. My blond brain can only sufficiently handle one thing at a time and it’s finally time for this to be the one thing.

For those of you who aren’t up to speed on the subject, this blog community was my biggest resource and, hands down, my most valuable one for the new book, So Long Insecurity. I thought it would be so appropriate and insightful (and fun) to go through it together when it comes out. Well, it’s coming out on Tuesday so we better get this big ball rolling! I’ll put the information in the form of an FAQ for those of you who find that kind of layout most helpful. So here goes:

What’s the plan?
To go through the book together here on the blog over the course of nine weeks. It will conclude the week prior to the SLI simulcast (on April 24th) and I’m anticipating God using our discussions here to add insight into the messages I’ll share that day. He’s used you so many times in this ministry.

How will it work?
Every week I’ll give you a reading assignment (roughly two chapters a week) along with one or two questions based on that material. Those who want to respond will do so through posting comments.

Who should participate?
Anyone with two X chromosomes! Everybody’s welcome! Some of the things we do together on this blog – like summer Bible study and Scripture memory – are over the heads or outside the interests of many of our female coworkers, neighbors, siblings, or friends. Not this time. This subject matter was purposely written to be relevant for any woman trying to survive this culture with a little dignity. My prayer is that, in the pursuit of dignity, they will discover real Security. (Proverbs 3:26 NLT) I give you my word it is not a trap. It is what I believe from the marrow of my bones to be the Truth. If you’re unsure you want to risk asking someone outside the Christian community to join us, grab hold of the book quickly, read it for yourself and see if you think a few of your friends might be open to going through it. No pressure. It’s entirely up to you. God alone has the power to draw people to His Son.

When will we start?
So Long Insecurity hits the stands this coming Tuesday, February 2nd. I will give everyone who wants to participate one week to get your hands on a copy (bookstores, Amazon, etc.). Then, on Tuesday, February 9th, I’ll do a “roll call” (First name and city) to see who’s going to participate. That’s always a ton of fun. In an outreach setting like this one, it will be a blast to see brand new names. On Thursday, February 11th, we’ll start our reading assignments and our first week’s discussion questions. Each Thursday for the next nine weeks I’ll pitch another set of assignments and questions on the blog until we reach the conclusion. (For those who are afraid that one week might not be long enough to get a copy of the book in your hands, keep in mind that, even if you get yours late into the second week, the reading goes quickly enough to put you right on schedule.)

What if I don’t want to take nine whole weeks to read the book?
I just knew somebody was going to ask that question. I’m laughing but I’d be the same way. You can read the book as fast as you’d like then look back on it chapter by chapter as we slow down and do it together as a group.

But what if I don’t want to participate?
Then don’t! I’ll love you so much anyway and meet with you plenty of other times on the blog.

WOW. This is about to be a reality. I just have one last thing to say, Siestas. If you hate it, you helped me write it. SHARE MY PAIN!

I love you.

*Update*
You can sign up for the SLI DG on the roll call post.*

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