I’ve Rejected Not One

I just spent the past ten weeks immersed in a group of high school girls as we studied the book, So Long, Insecurity together. It was a really sweet (and slightly exhausting, in the best way possible) ten weeks. Among other issues, I bet you could take one guess into a major theme we discussed week in and week out. Dating. Are you shocked? If you are, you might need to get some young girls around you for an hour so you can hear it for yourself. The topic of boys is a popular one. It will get any girl talking. In fact, we spent one entire week hearing all about boys from one wiser, older man and the girls were on pins and needles the entire hour and a half.

To lead a small group and to get girls talking means being authentic and sharing your own struggles and hurts, so inevitably, the girls asked me every question in the book about dating and wanted to hear all about my love life.

Questions like, Are you dating anyone? and Are there any prospective guys in your life? swirled around. While part of me would have loved to have testified about the amazing man the Lord had provided for me, I answered with a simple, Nope!

Because we were all getting to know each other and because they assumed I lived a chick flick kind of love life, I went ahead and told them a bit of my story which included that I’d never “officially” dated anybody nor had I ever had a boyfriend. To be honest, they are always slack-jawed. At 14, you still believe you’ll meet the man of your dreams in college, have 2.5 children and live in a house with a white picket fence, so to meet someone with a different story is slightly shocking.

More often than not, I’m able to encourage the girls when they think their life has gone to shreds because they either don’t have a boyfriend, or they’ve just been broken up with. I never want to dismiss their feelings, but I also want them to know that life is so much more than the boy next door. Plus, the fact that I’m living, breathing and thriving in life gives them a peace that they too will be okay even if it stinks at that moment. And that in all circumstances, God is still good, not because of what He does, but because of who He is. If that’s not a testimony for teenage girls, I’m not sure what is.

One interesting question that arose was, Is your lack of relationship/no boyfriend due to choice or due to just never feeling like it was’time? (They assumed it was due to a choice.) In other words, had I rejected a lot?

Have I rejected a lot? I’ve rejected none.

Let me just say that if I stopped right there, and took a good look at my dating circumstances, I could get so depressed. What girl doesn’t want to be pursued? Asked on a date? Taken to a fancy restaurant? Hugged (or kissed, yes kissed) goodnight? It’s every girls dream to be swept away by her prince charming. Every. Single. Girl. Whether they admit it or not.

Let me also set the record straight that I’m not against dating whatsoever. I didn’t make some rule for myself when I was 10 that I wouldn’t date until I was 27. Nor did I make a rule that I wouldn’t date anybody except my husband. It’s just turned out that way. When people ask if I’ve ever been interested in anybody, I want to laugh. If you’ve been around me more than one hour, you probably know I’ve had multiple crushes at multiple times. I’m a girl. I like boys. Enough said.

However, the truth of the matter is, it just hasn’t happened for me. Am I depressed about that? Well, no. Yes, I’m sure the Lord’s holding a bottle of boy cried tears, and lonely tears here and there, but it doesn’t keep me down and out in the mornings. Do I know why it hasn’t happened? If I did, I could maybe tell you why the sky was blue, too.

What’s more clear to me now more than ever is that the Lord, for a reason only He knows, has guarded my heart and emotions from any romantic relationship. From my perspective, they’re just not interested in me. (That was really weird for me to type, but let me help you understand a little further why I say that.)

For instance, in the past year or so about three different people have tried to set me up with one of their single friends. Listen, I’m not against blind dates, nor am I against being set up. It’s been people that I trust and know and they know me, so why not? I’ve learned that sometimes your friends know more what you need than you do. Most times I knew information had been exchanged, as I would wait for that potentially awkward phone call and two times, the set-ups even landed me a date. But what came of it? Nothing.

If I said I wasn’t a little disappointed after that I’d be lying. Of course I was a tad upset, I’m human and I’m a girl. But it didn’t break me. The last thing I want to do is run some guy ragged myself just so he’ll ask me on a date. No ma’am.

Do you see the pattern? They’re just not interested.

I don’t tell you this to gain any sympathy or to even have a pity party. I’m so over pity parties. (Until my next one creeps up on me!) What I do want you to know is that those boys not pursuing me is not a reflection of me whatsoever. It’s not because I’m fat, or ugly, or don’t dress cute enough, or am not outgoing enough, or am not godly enough, or whatever reason we girls can come up with. I truly believe it is the Lord protecting my heart.

Although it could be easily labeled as rejection, it’s simply the Lord’s protection. At least that’s how I’ve seen it.

I don’t know why He’s chosen to protect my heart for so long. I do know that it’s His grace in my life. I do know He alone has spared me from many broken hearts. I do know that He is building in me something beautiful. I do know that He is sanctifying me through and through and molding me into the woman I am to be one day to my future husband. However future that may be. I do know that marriage is a legitimate desire of my heart that I believe He’s placed there and that He will be faithful.

I might not be able to testify to the girls about the amazing man the Lord had blessed me with, but I am able to testify about His faithfulness despite my circumstances. He is good.

I know that I have rejected not one date, nor has the Lord ever rejected my heart, my desires, or me. And He won’t reject yours, either.

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  1. 51
    Carri says:

    Thank you so much for reminding me that I’m not the only one. Like the others posted, this was gods timing for me to read.

  2. 52
    Tabitha says:

    I’ve been struggling with this a lot lately – I forwarded this post to my mom and she said I could’ve written it to a tee 🙂 I believe God has put my future husband in my life, but the timing right now is completely unknown and somehow the wait is even more difficult now that we’ve met! I woke up this morning thinking a lot about it, and this is the first thing I read as I sat in a cafe waiting for my friend. I started to protest in my head a few paragraphs in, “but God, you’ve brought him into my life, so when…?” At that moment I looked up and noticed a little plaque on the wall that said “Be still and know that I am God.” I knew that was meant specifically for me this morning. I shut up and read the rest of the post. Thank you for allowing yourself to be used by God for me this morning – it was exactly what I needed to hear. So unbelievably thankful that my Lord provides for even my smallest of needs! I hope you can also find these encouragements on days of particular struggle. Thank you.

  3. 53
    Nicole Graves says:

    Lindsee!!! And this is why I love you! I love that you are completely genuine,real, and content all at the same time.
    You ARE being protected and I will continue to stand and pray that until His perfect timing and His perfect man comes along, He would continue to overwhelm you with His passionate love for you.
    Now, if LPM wouldn’t mind lending you out for a while..you can come to Dallas and do a Bible study for my daughter and her friends! 😉
    Love you girl!!

    1 Cor 2:9 “However, as it is written: “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him”–“

  4. 54
    Kim says:

    Ugh, ugh, ugh…SO SO GOOD! You blessed me. Thank you for writing this, Lindsee!

  5. 55
    KMSmom86 says:

    Thank you for your post. I was single until I was almost 28 years old. I said that I had to wait awhile, but look what I got!!! He was tall, dark, and handsome; most importantly, he loved Jesus most of all. We had 25 (mostly) wonderful years together. Today would be our 26th anniversary.

    My sweetie died on November 29, 2011 as a result of injuries sustained the previous evening in a work-related accident. God has been so faithful to me and our children! We miss him terribly, but we KNOW where he is and that we will see him again one day.

    M.J. in Lovington, NM

  6. 56
    Anita says:

    thank you for being so brave and sharing such a personal part of your life. What an incredible testimony you have! You have no regrets or “If only” moments and that is so rare and precious today.

  7. 57
    vanessa says:

    Wow! That was great! Thank you for your honesty!!

  8. 58
    Lyn says:

    Beautifully said, sister! Keep on the godly path…

  9. 59
    Keesha says:

    Lindsee,
    Such a well written post. You gave a voice to so many women. Your story was also my story. I am 37 now but did not date untill I met my husband. Like you that wasn’t by my choice but by God’s mercy and kindness. I too remember asking the Lord “why” many times and in His gentle way, He would always remind me that His timing and plans were best. He was all the way right!!! I met my husband and was free to move forward without baggage and an uncluttered heart. We celebrated 8 years of marriage this summer! Take it from someone now on the other side of things, wait for His best. It is so worth it.

  10. 60
    Maryellen says:

    Let me encourage you ! I walked in your shoes. I didn’t date until I met my husband and I was 45 years old.
    We dated 2 years and we got married when I was 47.
    We are almost married 5 years now. I would not trade those years. (And understand they were painful at times) But the appreciation it created for my marriage is remarkable. I know it has enhanced our relationship. I never, never take it forgranted.
    My husband it a Godly, caring, gentleman who loves the Lord with all his heart and loves me. God has that man for you. Allow him to bring him to you in His time.
    HE WILL BE SO WORTH THE WAIT – GOD’S BEST ALWAYS IS !

    • 60.1
      Michelle G says:

      Thank you so much for this ray of hope. I will be 41 on Saturday and I struggle with the loneliness and wondering what is wrong with me and on and on. It is definitely a burden on my heart. I keep wondering if He forgot about me :-/

    • 60.2
      sunshinedays says:

      I just wanted to say thank you for this encouragement. I turned 45 this year and I want to believe that God has someone for me out there. I haven’t given up, but I get so discouraged sometimes. There are other things in my life going on right now that make me wonder if ANY of my dreams will ever come true. I keep telling myself if there isn’t anyone out there for me, I’m doing OK, but I also feel like He has given me this desire for a reason.

    • 60.3
      Carole says:

      Thank you so much for posting this. I am 45 and am still single. I have watched and celebrated with my friends as they have married. I have now also watched as my nephews and friend’s children are getting married. It is very difficult to still be single. I too wonder if God has forgotten me and what is wrong with me. I know God has a plan and cling to that. Your post has been the encouragement I really needed today. Bless you and your husband!

  11. 61
    Warm in Alaska says:

    ((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))) Lindsee – did you feel that? It’s me sending you a very big hug from Alaska — and I’m pretty sure I’ve never cyber-hugged anyone before; but I so appreciated your heart, your honesty, your openness, your sharing. That took guts and all I heard on this end of it was a heart that loves Jesus and is dripping with His grace.

    From one who didn’t walk down the aisle until I was 29, let me say that I relished my time before marriage – just like I’m relishing this season of my life, with a husband, three kids, two dogs and an ongoing house remodel that doesn’t currently allow me to enter the kitchen (day ten, but who’s counting).

    I love knowing you’re embracing everything you can in this stage of your journey. So awesome! Lots of love, Warm in Alaska.

  12. 62
    Donna B. says:

    Speechless…love your heart. Thank GOD you are mentoring younger girls. The world of girls needs you and the faith God gave you. Thank you for sharing and allowing us to love you more! xo

  13. 63
    Gayla says:

    You are one amazing young lady! I’m saving this to share with my girl’s ministry team and my own daughter some day…she’s 4!

  14. 64
    Betty M says:

    Lindsee,
    Thankyou for that post! I would like to be a grandmother in the worst way but God has seen fit to protect my daughter and my one son’s hearts! I also have a 38 yr old disabled son who is not married and probably will never marry. My daughter tells me that she is complete without having a relationship with a man. She and our youngest son just have not found the mate that God has in mind for them but they are both perfectly happy as single adults.
    Thankyou for your testimony that life can be happy and ocmplete without marriage and indeed it is much easier to serve God as a single person.
    Blessings to you Lindsee!
    Betty M

  15. 65
    ForeverHis says:

    I think I just fell in love with you! You are such a wonderful, honest young woman of God. I bet your mama is so proud of you. Thank you for sharing your sweet heart with us. I am old enough to be your mama, in fact my youngest child is older than you, and I have a friend who is almost my age who I am sending this to. She needs to know this. You are a jewel.

    Thank you again,

    Lawan
    Phil 4:8

  16. 66
    Tiffany says:

    Lindsee, Thanks for sharing! I’m 30…and am the same boat. 🙂 I like the way you put it. You have a great out-look on life! God is using you! Keep it up! 🙂

  17. 67
    Deb says:

    Thanks for this, I wish I had confidence like yours. I’m 39 and never married and I find it really hard sometimes. I struggle with making friends too and while I know God’s love is enough that’s hard for me to feel emotionally. I praise God He has shown me through your example that it is possible. Thanks.

  18. 68
    alice says:

    I wish I could have read something like this as a high school or college girl. I did meet a good, godly man and have been married for 17 years and have two daughters. But before that…not much of anything, and I felt so “other.” One reason I think this is your story at this point in your life is to be a wonderful testimony of Christ’s love to these young girls. Thank you so much for sharing.

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    melanie says:

    lindsee – rest assured that i pray for a daughter-in-law like you for my 2 sons, aged 22 and 26, every single day. i gave them to the Lord when they were born. i KNOW he has the girl for them and i KNOW he has the boy for you. thank you for having the courage to share your story with the girls and with us.

    many blessings to you

  21. 71
    Tara Hannon says:

    A perfect post!!!! Please know that you are not alone! I am a new 30 year old, who struggles with this same thing, because I too feel that the Lord has given me the desire for a loving husband & family; however it hasnt been fulfilled…yet…as you said God is faithful!!!! A recent breakup w my 1st boyfriend completely shattered my heart, but the Lord has been good. I have had to look at it like a local christain radio host said ” man’s rejection is Gods protection” I think you said something similar! Thank you so much for your post, honesty, & encouragement!!!
    May God bless you my sister in Christ & bless your faithfulness.
    Tara

  22. 72
    Lyndsey says:

    It was so refreshing and encouraging to read your post today! I am in so in you’re same boat, its hilarious! Course, I have two years on you:P Thanks for the reminder that I’m not the “only one”! I’m so glad that you have such an amazing outlook on things. Keep pressing on, and trusting our God with all your heart! Those young girls are so blessed to have you in their life!

  23. 73

    Lindsee, this has sooo much to share with young girls, even women who are waiting on the Lord for their man from God.
    There was a period in my life that God kept men ( I was a grown single divorced woman) out of my life and now with time behind me I felt God did this because I would have to easily given my heart away. Later I did give my heart away to the man I had been married to, in a restored marriage and a man who serves and loves the Lord now. HE (the Lord) knows our hearts <3

  24. 74
    Sammie says:

    Lindsee, Last December, my wonderful 42-year-old daughter married her soulmate. She had waited a long time, but the wait was worth it. The years she was alone and lonely were difficult in so many ways. She had almost given up, but God brought a wonderful man into her life, and they are extremely happy. And I now have another fabulous son-in-law. God’s timing is so perfect.

  25. 75
    Monica says:

    AMEN, SISTA!! I LOVE the perspective God has given you in this. Continue to proclaim His goodness in it. He’s so amazing. 🙂

  26. 76
    Leah says:

    Hi Lindsee,
    Thank you so much for your post, it brought tears to my eyes as I read it, since you wrote the words on my heart and mind. As I wait for my first relationship at 27 years old, and fight off the sometimes embarrassment of not being as experienced in my love life as some of my friends, it is so good to know that I am not alone! I was listening to a sermon by pastor Mark Driscoll, and he mentioned that when you are single, instead of soley thinking of all the things you want and long for in another person (ie. I want to find someone to make me happy, to share life with, etc), ask God to show you areas in your life that you could improve (disciplining myself in reading the Bible, pursuing holiness, etc). Ask God to refine your own life so that you can serve your husband and uplift him in his own faith walk. I have been asking God to show me areas in my life that need refinement in order to benefit my future husband and it really turns it from being a self-focused time of waiting to an other-focused time.

  27. 77
    Michele Bone says:

    Lindsee,

    Thank you for opening your heart and being transparent. I read this post to my 2 oldest daughters (15 & 16), who have never had boyfriends (which I might add, is much to my delight). It was so much more credible and meaningful for me to be able to share this coming from someone, who in their eyes, is young, beautiful and much more “up to date” (no pun intended) on things, than their (ahem) almost 40 year old mom! ; )

    Thank you for sharing. I want to add something more, another reason God has chosen to protect your heart is so that you may testify to all of these young, impressionable teenaged girls who are looking up to you and will listen to you! He saved your heart for such a time as this. He knew exactly how He intended to use you, and there is no doubt that you are doing exactly what you are meant to be doing!
    Thank you so much for being willing to follow His plan for you and being willing to patiently wait on His perfect timing and not rush it! Praying for you tonight and grateful that I am able to share this with my girls!!!

    I would love to know if you used a version of So Long Insecurity especially written for the teen girl, or if you just used Beth’s original book and applied it to the teen set? I would love to do a small group for my girls and their friends using this study!

    I Loved the book and it helped me so much!

    Love to you, “Miss” Beth, and all our siestas!

    Michele

    • 77.1
      Lindsee says:

      Hey Michele! I just used the original book that now has a workbook. However, I’m not sure of the timing, but they are going to release a teen version. Either way, it was a great study that they loved!

  28. 78
    Cara says:

    Lindsee dear!

    Thank being so vulnerable, brave, and real with those teenage girls and us reading this post. I’m in the same boat as you, with nearly the same story only I’m almost 31. It’s just so nice to know that there are others out there with this rare experience. It’s been a battle for years not to feel ashamed about it or that something was wrong with me. But now, I’m so thankful for the wisdom and protection that God has given me. I don’t know if He has a man in mind, but I know His love by definition means His actions are only and always for my best.

    I thought a point Beth made in the Esther study about what were waiting on was really encouraging. In session 5, she mentioned how Isaiah 40:31 shows that it is those who wait on the LORD in there circumstance, and not the resolution of their circumstance, (husband, job etc) whose strength is renewed.

    Keep it up girl and God bless you richly!!

  29. 79
    Lisa Mottin says:

    What an encouragement you are to others…but be encouraged too, friend! I prayed for my future husband since middle school. We went on our first date when I was 27 years old…and we were married 5 1/2 months later! God gave me everything that I had asked for…and then some!! We have been married for 3 years now, and they have been the best 3 years of my life! Trust God and be encouraged:o)

  30. 80
    Evie says:

    Truly admirable!

  31. 81
    Karen says:

    I hit 50 this year! By God’s grace I have lived as a single lady without the deep sadness many face. I have moments or days when I wish for that companionship, but I’m blessed to be surrounded by family and friends who love me. I’m so thankful!!! It has also helped to have so many married friends who share their blessings and challenges. Thanks to all of you who mentor young ladies! They need godly women to counteract what they see and hear in our culture.

  32. 82
    Ruth Olsen says:

    WOOT WOOT Lindsee!! Cheers and prayers from a Siesta whom the Lord kept VERY single until I married a widower at 41 years old. Here’s what you wrote: “Although it could be easily labeled as rejection, it’s simply the Lord’s protection. At least that’s how I’ve seen it.” And by God’s Grace, I also saw it like that (NOT without times of doubt and struggle, but indeed). I followed the advice of my spiritual mother who was well known for saying, “God has not lost your address, girls. Stay busy waiting on/serving HIM.” And by God’s grace, I sought to do that.
    Like you, he brought many younger females into my life in each stage whom I truly adored sharing with and ministering to…and I was almost always the oldest single gal in a group. (and then brought me into a family of ALL BOYS, LOL!!)
    God’s best for us may be marriage, may not be, but we are all Ladies in Waiting on our King for HIS BEST.
    SO, I cheer for you in your service to God’s Kingdom. THANK YOU for your ministry to US ALL HERE. You are a treasure and this perspective and experience of yours is SUCH an important testimony.

  33. 83
    Blair says:

    Thank you so much for being so authentic here! It is so refreshing and encouraging to read this. I’ve always been in groups where the leader is always talking about their dating experiences but I have never been able to relate. I can relate to you Lindsee and I’m so grateful you wrote this. It is so easy to get discouraged when all your friends are in serious relationships or are constantly being pursued while you are sitting on the side-lines. I know the Lord’s plans for me are perfect and husband or not I will choose to keep my head up and as you said it “believe that the Lord is protecting my heart”.

  34. 84
    Laura says:

    Lindsee,

    God really spoke to me through your words. Thank you for sharing with us.

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    colleen says:

    O Lindsee, how I wish I had met someone like you when I was in my teens to tell me what I have just read. I believed that having a boyfriend was the most important thing, and that having one would make my life perfect. The fact that I didn’t have a boyfriend and boys just plain didn’t seem to be interested in me, meant that there must be something wrong with me – I was too fat, too ugly I just wasn’t good enough. This belief and overwhelming desire to have a boyfriend led me to make some very poor choices and I often found myself in very unsafe situations/relationships. Even marriage didn’t help heal my self belief. O the regrets! But God has poured His grace on me and blessed me with a wonderful husband and 3 beautiful sons. I am 51 and now see myself through God,s eyes and know just how beautiful I am to Him and how much he loves me. My passion is to help young women find their identity in Christ and in this way be protected from the stuff I went through. If I can help just 1 young women in this way then my shame, pain and mess ups will have been worth it. Lindsee you are a beautiful young women, a much loved royal princess. Thank you for what you are doing for our baby sisters.

  36. 86
    Stephanie McConachie says:

    This was perfect timing! I feel like God lead me here because he knew I needed encouraged. I can remember saying some of the same things about God’s timing and him guarding my heart. Yet, the wait has been long and the trials have been many and I have gotten really tired more than once.
    Yet, God has always been faithful to come close if I come close to him!
    Please pray for me that God will renew my strength and that my eyes would be on him just as I try to encourage others to do.
    I will pray for all of you tonight before turning in.
    Thank you from a sister.

  37. 87
    Okie Murray says:

    Lindsee, What a beautiful gift of expression God has given you, as well as a gift of acceptance. This dicussion of acceptance could fit in with anything that has been withheld from us, whether marriage, children,job, friends…whatever seems to be the norm for everyone else except for us. Praise & God’s word keeps me content. We are dancing and singing this month, because Beth is coming to Charleston,SC, Aug 24,25, No. Charleston Coliseum.Any of you girls would be welcome Buy your ticket and come.1-800-254-2022, or go on line. See you there. We’ll be in the pink tee shirts!

  38. 88
    aussie monica says:

    So encouraging, Lindsee! I’ve never really heard or now likely never really listened to this perspective…I have 3 girls…thankyou!

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    Sandi says:

    Wow! Thank you for being so real! I can see why you are so beloved by those you serve! I know that God has a husband for you that will be revealed in His perfect time! You empower women through your testimony! I love it!

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    Carmen says:

    Really? I am not the only one who has not ever dated? How can that be? I thought it was the thorn in “my” flesh. What a blessing this post was, it gave me some much needed perspective. I turn 38 this year and my last day was in 1994! I feel so dejected at times and wonder what am I doing wrong. My insecurities get the best of me. Sometimes I even think people don’t take me seriously because I am 38 without a husband and/or children. I feel insignificant in a group of husbands/wives. Thank you so much for this post.

  41. 91
    Mimi of Six in Al. says:

    Lindsee. I love your positive attitude. I am blessed from reading your post. You showed so much faithfulness toward God. Your heart, soul and mind are in the right place. You empower me. Thank you.

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    Michelle says:

    Lindsey,
    Thank you so much for sharing. I am going to have my 16 year old daughter read this when she gets up. You are adorable. What a plan God has for you and all of us in Siestaville can’t wait to see it unfold.
    I am a high school teacher and I see so much the need for young girls to have a Godly mentor in their life. Someone closer to their ages that they feel they can relate to- cause you know we were born old! Enjoy this season in your life and thank you again for sharing.

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    Maureen says:

    Lindsee…I could just bust with godly pride to hear your words…spoken to young gals who really need to understand that God is working in your life and you trust Him completely to give you the things His heart desires and ultimately, because you’ve been obedient…the things your heart desires!! I have to say that I’ve just been surrounded by young people who are deeply in love with Jesus and I’m calling them/you my little mentors…in a big way!! Thank you for your candid reality put on paper for sooooooo many sweet young eyes to see!! God IS faithful…all the time!!

  44. 94
    Maureen says:

    I forgot to mention that I’m really, really missing connecting with you all for the Nehemiah study. I’ve lagged behind…out of town…taking work home and just plain crazy busy!! But, all that to say, I am still in the study, and loving every minute of it. Is the next Blog gathering on Tuesday, 8/7?? Hoping to chime in and observe and even participate!!

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    Julie Hodges says:

    Lindsee, girl you make my heart smile and a big Amen! thanks for sharing your heart and for those young ladies and us us who are (some of us not so young) but still all girl!!!

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    Shon Tetik says:

    Lindsee it’s too bad you don’t know my daughter, Whitney. She too went for many years “dateless.”. Literally between the time she graduated from high school until she met the man she married this past March–and she graduated in 1999, so do the math–she dated no one. Not a single date. She met her husband in March 2011. And it was a match so completely ordained by God there was NO WAY any man could take credit! A beautiful union orchestrated and blessed by Christ. So if you ask her today, was he worth 12 years of waiting? She would answer, “oh yes!” And as you said of yourself, I believe God was protecting her heart all those years. Protecting her from rejection and hurt that may have ruined what He had in store for her future. Because He does have a plan and a hope for us–and it is GOOD!! Bless you Lindsee! I’m so thankful we have a God who loves our sweet daughters enough ( like a good Daddy would!) to protect their hearts from unnecessary pain.

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    Denise B says:

    Thank you for your posting Lindsee. I turned 50 this year and have never desired to be married. I believe I am single for a purpose, and I love my life. God has blessed me immeasurably more than I could imagine. I used to go through the lonely times, but I started seeking more of God and the loneliness went away. I don’t suffer with it anymore. God is in the protection business. His hand has been on my heart and my body all my life. He will continue His work in each one of us if we let Him. God is good and He is great! His plan is awesome – wait for it!

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    GJ says:

    Lindsee – What a treasure you are – and how I appreciate your ministry so much. You are so wise for such a youngun – and this wisdom is from above – which makes it glorious.

    Love & prayers,
    GA Jan

    PS: As a mom to sons I can say this – you are going to be a delightful daughter-in-law. WOW!!!

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    kbfitgrl03 says:

    Thank you so much for this. Everything you have written is exactly my story too. I do remember praying as young girl for the Lord to protect me(after seeing friends/family go through unexpected pregnancies….I just did not think that He would honor such a request for 20 plus years. But I am so thankful that He did. Such an encouragement to know that I am not the only late twenty-early thirty something gal to experience this.

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    Erika says:

    I am blessed by your honesty! I didn’t meet my husband until I was 30 and married around 31. Where you are in the country and where I grew up that was old! Many whom I graduated with were on their 2nd child by the time I was married. However the years God worked on my heart and strengthened and changed me in my 20s I would never take back. I had time for adventure and living overseas. God works in and on us no matter single or married. My insecurities really surfaced after marriage- weird right? But God takes all that we are even my idol of marriage and demands that it stays at his feet.

    I was a overweight single girl and God still brought restoration and life through a husband by way of eHarmony;) His path for our lives is always an adventure and I’m excited that you are pursuing Him!

    Can I say my lesson about finally dating and getting married was to stay flexible and open. I had unintentionally baracaded my life with busy activities: grad school, children’s minister etc. That I didn’t express a need or desire to be interrupted by a imperfect man. God humbled
    Me and said follow me into the scariest thing no matter the outcome and I finally went on eHarmony and had my first date and kiss at age 30:)

    Blessings to you
    Erika

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