Just One Word

Forgive.

It’s time to let it go.

That thing’s gonna eat you alive.

Wasting time.

Taking too much energy.

Emphatically, deliberately, bull-headedly – put every weighty ounce of it in the ready hands of God and let Him deal with it.

AND DEAL HE WILL.

Every time you’re tempted to pick it back up again, thank Him out loud that He’s busy handling it and that, once the battle is won in the heavenlies, you’ll see it evidenced on Earth. Prepare to become that evidence.

Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your name.

Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our debts, As we forgive our debtors.

And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.

“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Matthew 6:9-14

He forces the point for our own sakes. Otherwise, what on earth would ever motivate us to forgive what seems unforgivable? He is the immortal, invisible Only Wise God. Trust Him with it.

Forgive.

Or maybe it’s just me.

I love you guys so much. Let’s do the brave thing.

PS. I had not yet had a chance to read the comments from the previous blog post (Deeper Still video) because I’ve been so busy with Tuesday night Bible study. I just read them and wait till you see an excerpt I found from one of you and how it goes with this one. You even said that you knew it didn’t have anything to do with that post but you just had to write it. SO WILD. Girlfriend, God prompted you to make the comment so I’d see it and add it to this one. Here goes:

I have been holding onto unforgiveness toward my dad for leaving me as a little girl, and for continuing to hurt me into my present adulthood. I have fake-forgiven him, held onto it with one hand and to my First Love with the other. And let me tell you, the poison that my divided heart has let into my life is unreal…

No more.

NO more.

NO MORE! PRAISE YOU, LORD! THE KING OF KINGS!!

Pretty powerful, huh? SO, anybody else ever “fake forgiven”? It’s time we did the real thing.

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  1. 151
    Anonymous says:

    I have struggled with this for over 25 years. My mother is mentally ill and refuses treatment. While she mostly focuses on me and my family she has been bad to my brother too. She stalks us. She calls neighbors, police, judges, DFACS, etc.. I feel so torn over honor your parents but when do they honor their daughter by letting her have a life. I really have forgiven her, I just don't think I will ever have a relationship with her and that is sad. Every time I see Moms and daughters on outings with grandchildren I think about what my mother is missing and has missed. Thank you Beth Maybe I haven't really forgiven her because I still feel the hurt, there is no peace

  2. 152
    susanj2008 says:

    Thank you Beth, So needed this. Our church is steeped in unforgiveness right now and the Only Way to let this all go is to put it at the foot of the cross. Leaving it there, tucked deep behind it covered in His blood.
    Thank you!!!

  3. 153
    Anonymous says:

    Back in May my husband and I found out that we were expecting our first child. We were overwhelmed with joy and excitement. At 6 weeks we saw that little heart beating about a million miles a minute and we instantly fell in love. A few weeks later on June 24(at 9.5 weeks), we found out that we had miscarried. Our hearts sank. As a result we were now overwhelmed with grief.

    It has been a difficult 3 months and God has given us peace but there are those moments that I have questioned God. I might have even blamed him and been mad at him. This message "Just One Word" spoke to my heart and I know that complete forgiveness is the answer. It is not my fault and it is not God's fault. This baby didn't belong to me, it was God's all along. We will one day meet our child again completely healthy!

    As yesterday was our 3 month mark since our miscarriage, I also found out that my sister has miscarried. Once again we have re-lived ours all over again. We have been so prayerful for her and her husband, we don't want her experience to be like ours was. We do want them to feel the "Peace that passes all understanding". We pray that they feel God's love, and that they don't blame him.

    You are so right, thank you for the reminder and for the reality check of the heart.

  4. 154
    Anonymous says:

    Was so broken hearted to discover yesterday that my dear man is struggling with porn again. I haven't approached him about it yet, just fretted and let myself be hurt. Can't stay there. Thanks for the reminder to forgive. Heaven knows I've needed a heap of forgiveness myself.

    I have also been struggling for years to forgive my dad for leaving my mom for a man and for all the hateful emails he sends me to this day because I won't say I think it's great to be gay. I don't ever attack him about it, I always just ignore those emails and send him news about the kids, but he is so angry with me that I don't "accept" him, as he says. I do love and accept him, I just don't accept homosexuality as right. But sometimes the emails are so tiring and it gets harder to forgive. Why can't he accept his Christian daughter? Sigh.

    Off to pray for real forgiveness like only God can give!

  5. 155
    Lauri W. says:

    Beth,

    You've pitched a really big one out there! And now you've stirred the pot with the whole "fake forgive" notion"…I love you for stirring the pot.

    But surely we cannot confuse "fake forgiveness" with forgiveness that is NOT accompanied with reconciliation, wounds that never ache, or emotions that just won't come along.

    To forgive is an action, a choice. To not hold it against the other, not seek revenge, not be held captive by the wrong. This choice is sometimes accompanied with all the joy of reconciliation, mended wounds and changed feelings. But there are some things that must be forgiven where that choice is made daily and the mind in obedience to Him continues to make the choice.

    That is forgiveness too, right? Even though the wounds are still sometimes so raw. Even though the reconciliation can never happen.

    I have forgiven, chosen to release it, but the wounds still sometimes ache and it took a really long time for my emotions to come along side my mind.

    Lauri W.

  6. 156
    Pam Houston says:

    Incredible!

    I have received a real sermon from the Holy Spirit by reading and "praying through" all these posts from Siestaville which has increased my resolve to "release the issue." (Quote from Judy)

    Thank you again and again Siesta Mama for giving us this amazing forum and allowing the Holy Spirit to work freely in Siestaville.

    Obviously, "its not just you!" It's us too!
    Hugs,
    Pam H.

  7. 157
    Anonymous says:

    I had loved a man for 20 years who continually made poor choices and ruined our marriage. In our last attempt to reconcile he left me once again and married another woman. I begged God to take this love from my heart and at the time was doing your workbook on the apostle John…I felt in my spirit that I couldn't be like Christ unless I became willing to wash Judas' feet just like Christ did before he betrayed Him. So for three longs years..sometimes thru gritted teeth I have prayed for him and his new wife to he happy, joyous and free. I am free today because of that test. I did learn a great lesson thru that trial. I can trust Him even when it hurts and even when I can't see His blessed nail scarred hand moving at that moment.

    Praise to the Father….

  8. 158
    Lisa says:

    Our pastor said in one sermon to fake it until you feel it. Until your head knowledge finally seeps down into you heart.

    What a great example of how God uses what we know we should do to bring us to where he wants us to be.

  9. 159
    Anonymous says:

    But what do you do when it's yourself you can't forgive? I try to give it to God but it just keeps coming back to me that… I'm not just fake-forgiving but maybe I'm just a total fake! I do love God but why would He or could He love me?

  10. 160
    GentillyIzzie says:

    OH YEAH!!!! The funny thing is I went through life thinking that i had forgiven yet in getting all the "junk" so to speak out of my trunk I realized I have anger left from twenty-five years ago. What that translated into was my idea of how or if God had really forgiven me, and of course he has and how amazing he is. I am speaking to a group of students this weekend during a D-Now about getting the Junk out our trunks and moving forward with Jesus, and Siesta Mama, it starts right there with that word FORGIVENESS!!
    Have a great weekend Siestas!!!

  11. 161
    Anonymous says:

    In sending my own thoughts earlier on forgiveness and the high level of pain and sorrow that has come to me as a result of parental abuse, and then reading what others are sharing, I am left at a loss for words. Well, with the exception of God have mercy on us. Your flock is in great need. We love you so. Praying we all are led along paths of righteousness with God glorified above all. That we will be filled with God's wisdom and guidance. That clarity will come…

  12. 162
    Marilyn in Mississippi says:

    Beth,
    You're so right when you said "That thing's gonna eat you alive"! Unforgiveness and bitterness will sure do that!

    I have been having a terrible problem with a family member for years. Nothing major to most people but just a grating on my nerves when they are around….if you know what I mean. Used to it would jog my memory to even times 20 or 30 years ago to things this person had done to hurt my feelings or degrade me. I would go into the "if only I had said this or that" mode and get all in a tizzy in my brain. While the person I was upset about went merrily on their way not even knowing the bitterness in my heart.

    But you know what? Something great has happened in the past week and a half since I "picked out" my Scripture verse for the last half of this month. It is Jeremiah 29: 11……"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end." When that "certain" someone comes to mind now and a bitter thought follows ,I have started praying this verse as from myself. In my mind I just say about that person…."For I know the thoughts that I think toward you…(from ME)…thoughts of peace and not of evil". And it just seems to calm my spirit. I have been thinking…ya know, if God can have thoughts of peace toward ME….me, who I know doesn't deserve anything good from God…..then surely I can have thoughts of peace and not evil towards someone who has wronged me so much less than I have wronged God !

    May God bless you greatly as you so faithfully give your time and energy to bless others!

    Marilyn…in Mississippi

  13. 163
    Teri says:

    Real Forgiveness = FREEDOM!

    I've been called to supernaturally forgive offences that "the world" percieves as "un-forgiveable". Only through Christ and believing His Word was it possible for me to completely forgive. I am FREE! Thank you, Jesus!… I am forgiven, therefore I can truly forgive and be set free!

  14. 164
    Heather says:

    Girl if God didn't just to speak to my husband and I through this post….I can't even begin to tell you what we are going through right now w/ of all people…members @ our church, including leadership. My husband & I had God lay on our hearts just this morning through the daily devo email I receive, through a quote on daily calender I have, & now this…wow. Brings tears to my eyes. Know that God has used you in a might mighty way today!!!

  15. 165
    Christy says:

    Oh Beth, oh Beth. I'm sitting here with tears streaming and not even sure why, well I know I have unforgiveness in my heart and through you GOD's convicting me (again). As I facilitate Esther with 11 other women in my class God's moving me in ways that I knew he would, yet never quite expect him to do (or should say surprised in the ways he does it).

    Thank you for sharing, THANK YOU JESUS for forgiving ME, for far worse than what I hold grudges over.

  16. 166
    Anonymous says:

    and then keep on forgiving until your desire is to see that one blessed. Forgiveness is liberating! Just DO IT- Do IT Do IT…Jesus is our example.

  17. 167
    Anonymous says:

    You know this blog post is evidence that the enemy is working overtime, binding folks to bitterness and probably sitting back and laughing about it. I have just experienced the release myself…did make me feel better until I had to face the person again and again and again….well, you get the picture. Trust and respect are gone and will have to be regained as TIME goes on…yes, time may be a long time for trust and respect. BUT in the mean time, I have been called to be cordial and respect"ful" to this person. I hope to oblige!

  18. 168
    Tisha says:

    Thank you for allowing the LORD to use you to speak to us. How He must love us so!! Our church is going through a tough time right now and this is exactly what I needed from the LORD. Exactly and right on time as always. I say again, how He must love us so!!

    Much love,
    Tisha

  19. 169
    Anonymous says:

    There is a beautiful song by Fred Hammond and Commissioned entitled "Running Back to You". The lyrics give me so peace and comfort.

  20. 170
    Anonymous says:

    Amen! And I continued to be amazed at how God has you "open your mouth via your pen" so that folks hear exactly what God has been wanting them to hear. Go ahead, ask me how I know!
    Peace,
    Kim Feth
    Apex, NC

  21. 171
    Shellie Paparazzo says:

    What's really awful is when you realize you "fake forgave" someone and you thought it was real. I hate that. Now, I always worry that when I forgive someone that I haven't really.

  22. 172
    jackie806 says:

    Amen! God has been speaking to me about fake forgiving and I keep struggling with it, over and over again. It is interesting that you included The Lord's Prayer because on the day you posted your blog, I was leading a Prayer Class whcih also included The Lord's Prayer and the difficulty of forgiving!

    I so want to let it go – for good.

  23. 173
    Anonymous says:

    Siesta Mama,
    It is of my Birth Mama I speak. Just when I think I've finished forgiving her for one thing, she's onto the next. I'm trying. Only in His strength…

  24. 174
    Anonymous says:

    I have known for years i need to forgive. Question – how do you forgive a person who is dead? Forgiving my mom for not taking up for me took time but was accomplished. Forgiving and trusting my stepfather took a lot longer but was do-able. But, forgiving my father that's the tough one – he deserted me at 5, not making time for me after the divorce, then dying when I was 12 – not being there for me when I needed him to protect me from the mental abuse from my stepfather. I know that my God can do anything and forever I will sing – You are good – You are good – O Lord my Father – You are good!

  25. 175
    sharoni says:

    Twenty-five years ago as I was walking thru the carnage of a divorce with two tiny children, I remember the day a wonderful saint on the 700 Club was sharing about forgiveness and a neat action to take in the privacy of your own home between the LORD, you, and the "invisible" person you needed to forgive sitting in a chair across from you. It was one of those rhema moments straight from Holy Spirit, and yes, it set me and my household free…. Free from my own rebellion and marrying against the LORD's leading, freedom from all the years of abuse and nightmares, freedom from the monster that stole my little girl's innocence, freedom to forgive him for holding a 44-magnum to my face, freedom to forgive him for grabbing our 6 month old son out of the crib & taking a butcher knife to his chest & threatening to fillet him open unless…, freedom to let it all go, and freedom to move forward!
    When I realized that I would literally hold the person I refused to forgive in a prison and place a barrier to GOD working in his life…..that was way more than I could stand. Thank-You, Jesus for the wonderful teaching and mentoring I had my entire life that prepared me to receive this word from You at that unique time. And Thank-You for showing me that I also needed to forgive myself for rebelling against You and simply – sinning.
    Forgiveness really is a choice. We either believe He is Who He says He is, and will do what He says He will do, or not. Not saying it's easy for all of us all the time…please! That's what grace is all about. Thank you, Miss Beth, for your obedience to the voice of Holy Spirit and bringing this reality to all our wonderful siestas!
    In the infamous words of Tiny Tim, "God Bless us all, every one!"

    "And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom," ~Anais Nin~

    Bless you!
    Sharoni

  26. 176
    Anonymous says:

    I still, after 20+ years, continue to do the "fake forgiving" thing. I continue to pray, read, and stuff it down, but it's still there. Intellectually I know it's wasting time and energy, but it's a long way from my head to my heart. I don't know what else to do except perservere.
    I pray one day I can let it go and live in freedom, but I'm not sure even what to pray anymore.
    I am thankful that you guys have overcome.

  27. 177
    flo smyth says:

    Just read this yesterday and let me tell you it knocked me back in my chair ! God always amazes me when He comes thru w/a word for me. This thing was I was holding on to was driving me CRAZY !!! Thanks sooo much for sharing what He shares w/you.

  28. 178
    Anonymous says:

    I agree with the comment/s about forgiveness, yes, but sometimes reconciliation, restoration, and the possibility of being connected to the one who caused the suffering is not safe or wise. If what I am learning in Christian counseling and via books such as the Boundaries books by Cloud and Townsend is true, then there are times when separation is necessary. It takes two for reconciliation…the one causing the hurt needs to repent — right? I've been encouraged to remember that enabling and being a peacekeeper is not honoring instead it is dishonoring to all including the one who is causing the suffering. This is so tragic when it involves elderly parents and you don't feel like it is wise to have contact with them. God help us…

  29. 179
    Shawnna says:

    Beth…I read this post only today (on Saturday)…but you wrote this blog the day after I had a dream about witnessing to someone who I am struggling to forgive…I'm still struggling with it and know I need to (borrowing a phrase) let go and let GOD!

  30. 180
    Annalou says:

    I find that I agree with Darla. Each new time my oldest stepson does something new to hurt the family (or himself, his kids, etc…) I find that I have to choose to forgive again. Again and again and again.

    Refusing to enable him is hard, especially knowing everyone else thinks your just being mean and spiteful, when You know you've just put this person in God's hands and leave them to Him.
    But I will continue to lay each new offense at the foot of the cross.

    Thank you, Beth, for the fresh reminder that GOD will deal with it. He is SO trustworthy!

    Anna

  31. 181
    Anonymous says:

    Five years and two ulcers later, I am trying to forgive and forget and move forward. You always seem to know what I need to hear.

  32. 182
    Anonymous says:

    Beth, this is a little off this blog subject, but…..actually can be tied back into the subject.

    I just listened to the "Refuge in the Storm Pt. 6" lesson on Life Outreach International web site.

    You say you have been "called to teach, not to take up a homeless shelter". I think there IS teaching in working with homeless shelters. After all, it is not what we teach with our words that others are moved by, it is what we teach with our support and lives that others are moved by. I think too often we get caught up in what we are supposed to "tell" others instead of what our lives are supposed to "tell" others about Christ.

    I remember the story of you combing the hair of the man in the airport….it was not the words that taught anyone anything, it was the act that taught someone something. You captivated a section of the airport starting with the man, then the airline employee and probably so many more you will never know…and they will never know you or your teachings. But for a mere moment in time, you expressed Christ's love more than any words could ever do.

    This reminds me of the cross….Christ didn't say much on the cross in words, but he said volumes in the act!

    Just two cents worth!!

  33. 183
    Linda says:

    Unforgiveness is paralyzing- spiritually, emotionally, and somtimes physically.
    Forgiveness is freeing and the key that unlocks the door for God to mold our heart as He would have us see the world…
    Love it,
    Linda Tavares
    -Richmond, Va

  34. 184
    Just Me,Pilgrim says:

    I want to forgive.
    SO badly, I want to forgive.
    God knows that. I tell Him all the time, I pray, "Lord PLEASE HELP ME forgive those people that hurt me. Please!"
    But it doesn't come.
    I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

  35. 185
    Heather @ Life Abundantly says:

    When I read this, I prayed for God to show me where I may have done this. I think I have actually done this to myself. Although I have asked for and recieved the Lord's forgiveness for the shameful life I used to have and have even told others I have forgiven myself. When I have to face myself in the mirror, I want to remind that girl of the hurt she has caused and how she doesn't measure up. But to the rest of the world, I try to put on the smile of someone who is free from her past. Oh, Lord, please help me to lay this at Your feet and not pick it back up.

  36. 186
    Sarah says:

    Thank you !!!! I read this this morning. Tonight I have been crying out to the Lord for help because I am so angry with someone in my life because I know things are not going to change – I've been asking the Lord how do you forgive when you know it will happen again and the apology is just to appease you it's not really sincere. All the sudden he said go read the blog again – what was it about – forgiveness!!! Isn't he amazing!!!!!! Thank you!!!

  37. 187
    Anonymous says:

    Amazing. You know, I was at church tonight, the message was on something unrelated to forgiveness,
    but at the end of the service, before communion. our pastor had us hold out our hands and give God the things that we hold onto ourselves. I immediately found myself thinking about the issues that continue to hurt my heart…..a daughter who has denounced Christ and her family,
    and family concerns that are a normal part of life — inlaws, sisters, etc. Dealing with sisters in Christ who have a hard time not being frustrated with each other. I found myself just giving it to Him once again. I give it but then I take it back and think about it, ponder it.
    I was just getting ready to go to bed but just had to check out my beloved blog at LPM, and there was your post, Beth. I know that it spoke to so many but it was truly amazing to read after all that's been going on in my life. Bless you and praise God that you are tender to the leading of His Spirit and that you share your heart with all of us. Your ministry of writing Bible studies,
    God's Word and His Spirit are the things that God has used to change my life. I am in awe of His grace,
    mercy and power. Thank you.

  38. 188
    Anonymous says:

    Beth, I have been dealing with this very topic this week. I actually deal with it every time I have to be with my mother-in-law. I have been married to her favorite son for 28 years and she has NEVER liked me or accepted me. I started out wanting to have a loving relationship with her, but she is not capable of having one with me, so it has never happened. She sits in judgement over me, believing me to not be good enough for her son, talking badly about me behind my back…she has even tried that many times with my husband and he has asked her to stop, and she said she will not stop, so we have minimal contact with her now.
    This has led to bitterness and anger and hatred for her in my heart. I have 'fake forgiven' her, but I haven't really forgiven her because I don't know how to do it. How do I let go of this bitterness? How do I let go of expecting things to be different between us, that she will ask for my forgiveness and admit her faults and how her actions and attitudes have hurt me all these years?
    Does my forgiveness for her mean that what she has done didn't matter?
    Please pray for me to be able to understand this concept and forgive her for real.

  39. 189
    Heather F says:

    I normally don't write comments but this has God written all over it! Thursday September 24th the man who murdered my fiance 4 years ago plead guilty. It was such a relief that he finally admitted to it. I have forgiven the man, but there are constant worldly thoughts that I have to ask God to take. It is a constant battle but I have chosen to let God take care of it because he can handle it SOOO much better than I can. And I am so thankful that He is with me!! Thank you for your word, Beth, it is just confirmation that God is always there.

  40. 190
    Anonymous says:

    The following book might help for anyone who can't afford counseling…

    Healing Your Family Tree (a destiny-changing journey toward freedom, forgiveness, and healthier relationships)by Beverly Hubble Tauke

  41. 191
    the Provident Woman says:

    Great post

  42. 192
    Anonymous says:

    Oh yes! I have fake forgiven. Its a terrible feeling to be fake. But about 6 months ago I forgave for real and God changed my heart! He is AMAZING! I now hang out with this person (my husbands ex) and we call each other and have become friends… I honestly LOVE her!! She is the sweetest thing ever and I can't believe I listened to Satan for so many years and made myself so miserable and then just by listening to God for a minute He began to build peace in me and opened my heart and eyes to see what He sees.

  43. 193
    ~A says:

    To the Siesta who posted just a couple comments above this one about her mother-in-law… I was just coming on here to write the EXACT SAME THING. Honestly, your words could be mine…you describe my situation right down to the limited contact. I feel for you. I know what it is like to be in your shoes and I am praying for you. Please pray for me too.

    To Siesta Mama Beth, I have the same questions…what about a "repeat offender" who is bound to us by family ties? How do you forgive then…when it seems likely the behavior will happen again tomorrow. And the next day. And the hurts will be there day after day. I don't know how to truly forgive a person like that because I feel like I am putting myself in a position to be hurt again and again. I so desperately want to do what God wants me to do. Help. 🙁

    It does waste so much of my time and energy and can be so consuming. I don't want that anymore!

    Anne
    Lorton, VA

  44. 194
    Jennifer says:

    i haven't read the blog in several days…i've been enjoying the company of my parents this week. so when i saw this today, it made me stop…my brother-in-law an sister-in-law are divorcing. it will be final on thursday. i know they have momentarily moved on…i think there are issues that will come up for years to come, but that's not the point. i'm in mourning. i'll still get to enjoy the relationship with my brother-in-law. however, the relationship with his wife has been severed…and not by my choosing. or my childrens' choosing, for that matter. anyway, i'm finding myself stuck…i'm not mad at either of them…it is what it is. i'm simply devestated that this relationship is ending…theirs, ours, my childrens' with her…and i can't figure out how to move past that.

    i know with nearly 300 messages, this one will get lost in the shuffle. maybe just sending it out there will help move me beyond the mourning. maybe.

  45. 195
    Anonymous says:

    How do you know when you have REALLY forgiven someone…I don't want to harbor unforgiveness and have probably "fake forgiven". I want to forgive, I really do, including myself.

    Darlene

  46. 196
    katiegfromtennessee says:

    Greetings Spiritual Mom Beth!:)

    I wanted to tell you first, I thank God for you and other godly teachers in my life because God has given you Truth and He is now your obsession, and then He appointed you to turn and point us to that Truth and freedom; For such a time as this, He has used you and others for His glory:)

    Ok, I have had to fully forgive those who have grievously hurt me in my past. I knew I needed to forgive them, but it was like I still held onto to part of that bitterness. But God is gracious, and has shown me those places in my heart that still need to be cleansed, and Has been able to grant me the ability to forgive. Now, I pray for them to know Him. It grieves me to think about what eternity in hell without Him would be like. I'm soo glad I'm saved!

    katiegfromtennessee

  47. 197
    gretchen says:

    Romans 4:20-21 (NIV)

    He did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had power to do what He had promised.

    This verse really spoke to me this time around…. I love God's Word — it is so perfect!

    Gretchen
    Virginia Beach, VA

  48. 198
    Sarah says:

    This speaks loud and clear to me again…………….What is it with you Miss Beth? First on your video of Esther- it's tough being a women ( oh! yes it is indeed) Just finished about forgiveness and His timing and keeping your mouth shut when it's not his timing. This woman's post hit home with me, I know exactly how she feels. I have done the fake- forgiveness for years and you only end up hurting yourself. I now have seen that Forgiveness is the only way and I leave the rest to Him, when judgment day comes your dad and mine will have to stand before the Lord and no matter how much we dislike/ are upset all our emotions God will be much harder on that person. We need to let go and let Him do what he plans with these people. It's so stinking hard I know and again I recently have the same situation with a family we adored and still do told us not to hang out with them anymore. REJECTION HURTS SO MUCH!!!! why?????? only He knows, so I must forgive and let Him do what he has to do in my life and in theirs. Why does LOVE hurt so much………………..
    I wanted you to know Beth that when you are talking on your videos I get it/ I understand all you tell us and too funny you did your hair with a fork. Now that was so hilarious……….I about died. I didn't know you could get big hair with a fork.

  49. 199
    Laurie says:

    Beth, thank you so much for following God's lead in your life! You've taught me so much through your obedience. This post goes right along with what's going on in my life too.
    My father sexually abused me when I was seven. I held that against God for years. Why didn't he stop it? He's God! He could have so easily stopped it. Didn't he care? Was everything I'd ever been taught at church a lie? Why didn't he stop it?
    Through some good Christian counseling and growth of my own, I realized that I didn't need to know. He's God. Unexplainable, unimaginable to this feeble mind. A few months ago, the old question came back to mind…not in anger but just in quiet wonder. "I wonder why He didn't stop it." And a quiet voice answered, "I did". Then he brought to mind all the stories you hear on tv – all the kids who are abused for years and years. My abuse was once. Once. I'm not making light of it because my family situation was *perfect* for this abuse to continue for years. My father was not a Christian and not a moral man either. This really was the perfect breeding grounds for that kind of abuse to go on for years. And God stopped it. Maybe through hardening my father's heart, maybe through guilt – I don't know. But it did stop. God protected me!! PRAISE HIM!! I was SO. WRONG. in my anger against him for so many years. I was angry when he was protecting me. Forgive me again, my sheltering Heavenly Father.

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    puzzlepiecesista says:

    Dear Beth,

    I haven't been on the blog in like FOREVER, because I haven't had a computer, anyways, I'm on today and I decided to browse through the older posts…..this one landed a very hard blow to the head and heart.

    I am having an awful battle right now with FORGIVENESS, or should I say FAKE FORGIVENESS. It has been and all out battle of my mind, will and emotions.

    It's time to let it go, it has cost to much….

    Taken to much time and energy…

    I am such a stubborn woman and I know I've grieved the heart of God by holding on to unforgiveness.

    Today with God's help, I choose to let it go.

    Pray for me.

    I love you so….friend. Thank you for a word in due season!

    Angela – Redmond, WA

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