Hey Siestas! Do you have a question for Curtis? I’ve been thinking it would be fun to do a Q&A with him. If you want to ask him something – about men, ministry, marriage, family, the Bible, etc. – leave your question in a comment and we’ll get him blogging!
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I have a question for Curtis:
Do you do speaking engagements at other churches? I am Director of Women’s Ministry and we are trying to build our Men’s Ministry.
How could we get a hold of you to speak on a Saturday morning to a group of men?
Thanks and many blessings!
Roxanne
Being a mommy of 2 boys I often wonder how to grow my boys to be “mighty men” of God
We pray with them, they have a daily devotional, and we use many opportunities during the day to teach them God’s truth
Howeever, is there something you remember your parents doing that really impacted you and your walk with God?
We appreciate you
This is a “man question” I’ve wanted to ask for some time. In everything I read about being a good wife and loving my husband the importance of sex is discussed. However my husband is just not that interested in sex. He is happy with once or twice a month. Should I be concerned that I am not appealing to him or is this just normal? He is only 40 and has no performance issues.
I do have a question – I hope its not to personal. I am a believer who is praying that my life has a marriage like yours Amanda, SOMEDAY!- So here is my Question:
How does a man perceive a strong, christian woman without feeling like she is trying to lead the relationship?
What is it like having Beth Moore as your mother-in-law? 🙂
Charity
I would like to know your suggestions on how I can get my husband to attend church. As his wife I do not want to nag him and force him to go. I pray that he will have a change of heart.
Curtis I have a 13 year old son that now I’m having trouble connecting with, through all his young years we were very close, then 5 years ago I had a baby boy and we’ve disconnected a bit and I hate it!! Him and my young boy are very close, he loves being an “older brother” and not the baby anymore (he’s the middle kid 1 girl oldest and 2 boys)! I try to get close but he doesn’t want to hug, or cuddle like he used to! I miss my boy and want to grow close again, without ‘nagging’ or ‘smothering’I’m trying to find the fine line and haven’t yet!!
Thank you for your resources, love the podcast too!!
What is one thing you would ask women to pray for their husbands everyday – something we might not readily think of?
Blessings.
What are you thoughts on women leaders?
And I would love to hear how you knew Amanda was the one for you.
Several men responded to Beth’s question yesterday about insecurity with issues around finances–providing for their families, having enough/more, dealing with our spending, etc. In almost 20 years of marriage, through many seasons of our finances, my husband has never been secure about them. On good days, I feel guilty; on bad days, resentful. How can we, as women, lovingly respond to their insecurity and not carry the burden when, generally, it isn’t warranted.
Thank you, Curtis.
Failure…why are men so afraid of it?
I’ve been reading all the men’s comments to Beth’s post and they are all afraid of failing.
Is it pride? Unbelief? Your insight would be greatly appreciated.
I would hate to think that this fear of failure would turn them into spectators in the game of life.
I struggle with knowing if a guy is really interested in me or if I am just reading into things. How can I tell?
Should I ever ask the guy what’s going on if his flirting, etc. seems to be never ending?
Curtis,
I’ve been listening to your podcasts — love them — but I have this one question:
Do the people in the drive-thru windows still think you are a woman???
I kid.
My question is this: I would love for the men of our church (my man specifically) to have indepth Bible studies. I just walked up the aisles of the bookstore today and it seems there is so much for women and very little for men. Are there any plans at LPM to develop those for our men? Maybe even studies that couples could do together?
Blessings in your ministry!
Dori
Hmm, how much time do you have? 🙂
My question is why won’t my husband step up as spiritual leader in our home? He is a Christian and attends church and knows this is what he is called to, but I am the one that always has to step up. I have tried not to, but then I feel like my children are not being raised in the faith. I pray for this daily, 8 years now, but not much has changed. Is there something I can do? I gave up nagging long ago!! 🙂
I’m almost 21 years old and in college. I’m not dating anyone, but what I would like to know (from a man’s opinion)is what is the most attractive thing about a woman? I hear from my awesome godly guy friends all the time that it’s a woman who is walking with the Lord!…and I appreciate that SO MUCH!…but what does that look like to a man? How does he notice a woman who is walking with the Lord? What stands out?
Thanks!:) I think all y’all are awesome!!!
Is it ever hard to work with mainly women in your workplace and in ministry? What are your biggest challenges here?
I’d love to hear exactly how you knew Amanda was “the one.” I just love those stories!
Curtis: I hope you aren’t overwhelmed by all these questions!!
Here is mine:
What bible translation would you recommend for a newer Christian man?
He has a NIV study bible that he has tried to read, but really struggles to understand. He is smart, yet also suffers from depression.
Do you think depression can make it more difficult for someone to hear the Holy Spirit?
Thank you for this opportunity!
Wow! What an opportunity!
Curtis, my question is along the same lines as comment #14 by anonymous.
Other than praying, what would be the most important things I could do as a wife to set an example or quietly encourage my husband to draw closer to God.
He attends church and small group with the family but rarely cracks open his Bible which obviously means he does little to fulfill his role as leader in our home.
Thank you so much for your input!
I would also like to know how to get my husband more involved in church. I stopped nagging years ago and am now leaving it up to God. He will go to church with me, but it would be nice if we could be more involved together.
I have been married to my husband for over 20 years. Although he attends church and says he is a believer, he never picks up his Bible or pursues a relationship with Christ as far as I can tell.
He smokes, swears, and has not been the best influence on our children. To be fair, he is very generous and has a good heart once you get through his rough exterior. Quite frankly, I don’t understand him. They say women are hard to figure out but I think men are an enigma. Many women in my church have expressed similar concers regarding their husbands lack of commitment to Christ. Is it a man thing or are today’s men just hard hearted? It is as if hearing the Word preached Sunday after Sunday means nothing the rest of the week. What do you think?
Curtis:
What can I do (if anything) to help my husband grow in the Word. He seems to be apprehensive about getting together with other guys only from “church”. I think he thinks that he doesn’t have anything in common with them. That they are somehow different from him…he seems to have developed an image of them. He will usually do the couples thing with our small group and that’s great but at the same time I feel like if I am not involved he won’t do something on his own. I feel like he depends on me too much in the whole Christian life and I want him to see that God wants to talk directly to him…God doesn’t want me to be how HE hears from him. I know how important bible study is with a small group and I think it would be great if he would join in but it’s something that he is just not comfortable with. What is it with guys anyway and their lack of desire for relationships with other guys. He really is an Alpha Male in every sense of the word and I totally love his confidence and his sense of self and who he is……..Any suggestions? Thanks so much and I love that we can get some input from a guy. Lovin’ your podcasts! Thanks for sharing.
In His Grip – Theresa
I have always wanted to ask a godly man this question, but I didn’t have an anonymous way to do it. My husband is a wonderful committed believer. He is definitely the leader in our home. I would love for us to pray together as a couple daily. Is there a way I can instigate this habit without offending or disrespecting him? He always takes the lead and prays during our communion time or when there’s a crisis or to show his support if I have something “big” going on during the day so it’s not that there is a fear of praying with me or anything. I just think it’s about establishing a habit. I’ve been afraid to just ask because I don’t want to come across as nagging or like I’m trying to take the spiritual reins. (I tend to be more disciplined in other areas so it’s not like I would ask once and not have to ever do it again.)Any insight from a man’s perspective would be gladly received!
I do not have a question for Curtis but wanted to tell you that I have subscribed to your podcasts and have listened to 2 so far. Love them! Looking forward to more.
Forever His,
Lawan Rivera
Phil 4:8
How has the role of father to Annabeth been different than the role of father to Jackson so far? What do you already foresee as future differences in raising your daughter vs raising your son?
What do you think is the biggest obstacle in “our generation ages 20to 40 years old” especially men either attending church or openly professing their Christian faith?
I have a question ( been wanting to ask this for a while)
When do you know if you are under spiritual attack or you are just fighting life and yourself? I ask because shouldn’t you know what your fighting?
Geri K
Do you spank?
What’s it like being Beth Moore’s son-in-law?
What’s your stance on stay-at-home Dad’s and working mothers?
“Did you have any hesitation marrying Amanda knowing she was Beth Moore’s daughter?” (…due to her…what do I call it?…fame?…celebrity status?…etc.)
I don’t mean any disrespect, I’m just wondering because not everyone can handle living in a fishbowl, and although you are marrying Amanda, you also marrying into the whole family.
Maybe another way of putting the question would be “What’s it like living in a fishbowl?”
Elle B
to piggy back on the indepth bible studies for men…it would be great for chldren too. My kids need and are hungry for more than bible stories and crafts. Where can we get such stuff?
Ages 10,8,,,the 5 year old still likes the stories and crafts.:)
Curtis I have a 17 year old son who at this time in his life he wants to experience other religions. He seems to be leaning towards Muslim. Me and my other children are Non-Denomination. How should I handle this.
When you were a teenager what was your relationship like with your mom and dad? What did you want differently from each of them? I have a 14 year old and would like the perspective from a godly man of what I can do or not do to help him become a man of God.
Thank you!
Kelsey,
Maine
Dear Curtis,
It seems to me that Men’s Ministry within ALL our various denominations is just not reaching/serving the men as much as various women’s ministries reach/serve women. John Eldrege (Wild at Heart) made a compelling case for the tame nature of traditional men’s ministries being a turn off to the God given nature of most men. Do you find this true? And if you do, what do you think can be done to create vital and nourishing men’s ministry for our starving husbands?
Perhaps Curtis Jones and Keith Moore can do for men what Beth Moore,Amanda Jones, and Melissa Moore Fitzpatrick do so well for women? The MoJoFitz women lead us to Jesus and I long for the men I know to have traveling companions that they can relate to and learn from in a way that complements their nature. Thanks for your input.
Why do Christian men only want to associate with Barbie dolls?
Hey Curtis,
Nice to talk to you. You are from Springfield, native? I am from Mtn.Home, just a hop, skip and a jump. Do you have family in the area, I know your parents are in springfield still.
Nice to have someone from “home” on board.
My husband is having a spiritual crisis and he has fallen away from the church! There are many reasons (very zealous parents when he was younger spending days at church and not putting family first/christian co-workers in his field stabbing each other in the back to get ahead/etc./too many more to list) He insists he is waiting to hear from God…he wants to have a personal relationship with a living God and he wants to know God is there! He says he needs to hear from God and that alone will “fix” it!
I am desperate…we have two boys who I want to raise in the faith and at a church (we have not found a church we like since our move and he won’t help me look anymore)!
The more we talk about things and I try to help him the more confused and upset I get. I need some advice!
I have been in prayer about this for some time! I have also been in prayer about other situations going on in our life…I am wondering how long do I pray about things! I have been praying about these other things for 6 years now and I have not heard from God!
Please help!
Siesta’s
thank you for your prayers for me on Friday.
I am feeling much better thank you again.
PORNOGRAPHY: What’s the draw!??! Seriously.
My husband struggles so much with this battle. Can you offer insight, advice, etc.? Thanks so much.
Curtis:
Hey, I can’t get the podcast thing going on my computer….of course not computer smart could be the problem….daugh
Can you help me out here? How can I lsiten to your lessons on the computer.
p.s. my brother’s name was curtis, this is sooo weird.
Becky
Curtis:
I have two sons age 20 and 13.
can you suggest some Bible studes for them?
Example: we ladis have Beth and others as our mentor/teacher.
who do you have?
RS
Hi Curtis,
so nice that we get to ask you things? My question is not as deep as everyone else’s but I am curious as to what version or study bible you would recommend to women?
thank you for taking the time for the siestas
blessings
What is the best way to encourage the spiritual growth of my husband without being pushy? He is a believer, but it is sometimes hard not to think he is only half-connected to the Vine (aren’t most of us, really…). And I don’t want to be critical of him! I think a lot of it has to do with our differences as male and female. Women tend to be more “feelers” than “doers”. As a “doer,” I’m afraid he relies a lot on himself to forge on in life and not as much on the power of the God we follow. How do I reconcile our different personalities?
Prayer, obviously…
Any other thoughts from a male point of view?
Thanks!
My question is about the Rapture and the Tribulation would like to know more about it. Also how is to hang out with the Moores espically Beth?
She probably keeps you all laughing.
CAROL ALBUQUERQUE NM
Thanks for this oppurtunity to ask questions
Why do guys seem to “get over” us so much quicker than us girls get over them?
How has being a Christian dad impacted how you see God as your Father? Do you see Him in a whole new light? Or is He the same to you as He’s always been in your faith?
We have a small church whose women have gifted, organized, humble leaders ready to step up and organize a women’s ministry so they feel connected, enouraged, and in touch with each other regularly. However, the pastors at our church aren’t ready for us to form a “womens ministry”. From a male perspective, can you give a guess as to why they’re hesitant? I don’t get it.
What’s the one practical thing you wish women would do more of and then the one practical thing you wish we would do less of?
Richest of blessings to you,
Gretchen
Siesta OC GREAT question!!!
Also, Why are men so bad with communication? Is that the universal question???
How do you really know that he is the one for you? I’ve been through a divorce and pray that I would someday have a 2nd chance at love. But, how do you really know? I did not ask for my divorce. I did all I could to try and save my marriage. Thanks Curtis!
Much love and blessings!
I was reading the comments and questions and saw one posted by another “anonymous”; on May 19 at 4:12pm (central time). It is about her “man question” and regarding her husband’s desire for sex. My husband’s desires in this area seem to be exactly what she wrote. I read this question and thought she had read the very question on my mind! My husband is younger than hers, and we have had much of God’s healing and honesty in our marriage already. I have wondered in the past if this has had to do with sexual strongholds in his life but after much discussion and communication and healing and God working MIGHTILY is us BOTH, this does not seem to be on the list at this point. It is very hard for me because this uncertainty causes me to struggle with wondering about his desire for me.