Hey Ladies,
This is Curtis. I wanted to take an opportunity to let you know about a new resource for men at Living Proof. We have created an audio daily devotional called Drive Thru the Bible. It consists of fifteen 7-10 minute messages you can listen to on the way to work, dropping the kids off at school, or running your daily errands. This 2-CD set on the life of Elijah was designed with men in mind, but would make a nice resource for anyone who might have trouble finding daily time in God’s Word or who just wanted an extra helping during the day.
Since it can be difficult giving a loved one a spiritual gift they weren’t asking for, here are a few helpful hints.
How to Give a Bible Resource to Your Husband
1) Picture how you would want to receive a gift and do the opposite.
2) Don’t hold him accountable if he hasn’t asked you to hold him accountable.
-To a man this is like calling an offsides penalty in the middle of a baseball game. He won’t want to play by your rules if he hasn’t agreed to play your game. *If you did not understand the sports reference above, just see rule 1 again.
3) Try not to create a universal standard for godliness.
-His approach to God will probably look different because men are not wired the same as women. You can find a calculator and an alarm clock in the electronics department, but they won’t output the same information. I’m the only one in our family who has done all of Beth’s Bible studies (I’m on the last week of Esther right now), but sometimes I have to split one day into two because I can’t focus for that long. So, don’t expect your husband to join you in a 45 minute in-depth Bible study session right away. Jesus may be more than happy with 8 minutes with your husband.
4) Tape the gift to a Sears, Lowes, or Home Depot gift card.
-It may also help to tell him that for every day he does his daily devotional the amount increases by $5. I understand this is a bribe, but how do you think I’m training my son to go to the bathroom on the potty?
5) Do not nag! REPEAT: Do not nag!
-If you want to see if he’s using it, look in these 3 places:
a) Where you gave it to him.
b) Wherever he keeps the cash he’s been saving, but doesn’t want you to know
about (but you already know about and help yourself to while he’s at work). *Amanda would like to add that she didn’t know it was his birthday cash!
c) Check his car. He might surprise you.
6) Don’t give up.
-“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9).
*You can find Drive Thru the Bible: Elijah in the “new products” section of our LPM online store. You’ll see it if you click here and scroll down a little.
Tags: Curtis
Curtis,
When I read the words, ” think of the opposite of how you would want to receive a gift.” I got so tickled.
My husband gives most of my Christmas, birthday, etc. gifts in the sack from the store they were purchased. Plus, my first Valentine gift from him was a shop vac from Home Depot.
I love the male perspective. We need a question and answer session with you sometime.
My bestie and I were leaving our Esther study one night and said why don’t the men (read – OUR HUSBANDS!!) have a study like this. Thanks for explaining why and giving them an option!
Do you have any idea how cool this is? My man has been watching the video sessions of “A Woman’s Heart…” with me. He does not do the study, but I do. He has been so frustrated because there is just not the level of Bible STUDY (and coolness) for men that we ladies are so blessed with in having our own Siesta Mama, Beth Moore. He gets weird when Beth calls us precious, darlin’, beloved, etc… I honestly think he’s afraid he’s going to grow breasts or somethin’. BUT he is jealous. He is sick and tired of it. I’ve been asking my friend…”Why don’t they have a Beth Moore for guys?” It baffles us. So maybe this is the beginning. I’m sure going to check it out. Loved your man rules, by the way. I should probably post them all over the house. Be blessed!
Curtis-
This is great….hilarious! Now I know why you got hired 🙂 Keep up the great work. I needed this advice not only for my husband but also for my 4 year old son (who I also desparately want to be Godly).
By the way…..bribery works in potty training. M&Ms are great and if you need something more…a special toy. THere wasn't anything my son wouldn't do for a mater truck!
Thank you Curtis…I purchased this for my husband for our 20 year engagement anniversary next month. I loved the tips…had no idea to think “opposite”.
LOL!! Thank you Curtis!!1
Thank you so much for the gift-giving pointers! I think I have an idea….. 🙂
Awesome tips! And just for the record, I totally did not get the sports reference. 🙂
Will this be available at Bible study Tuesday night?? trying to save on s/h! Thnanks!! Can’t wait to get it, the first devo my man ever did was Curtis and is looking forward to another CJ book/devo, etc.!!
THANKS!
Thank you, Curtis! Loving rule #1!. How true it is, how simple it is, and yet how very hard it is to put into practice! Thank you! This sounds great!
Blessings <><
Wow- what great insight! Thanks for sharing from the male point of view. I would not have ordered the CD’s if you had not included your comments. Thank you!!
Perfect! Perfect!! PERFECT!!!
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Thank you also for the awesome reminders. You are totally correct.
I second the idea of “Curtis Clips”. I have been married 20+ years and I still repeatly do silly things like the “offsides during baseball” Your perspective would be encouraging and helpful.
Thanks for listening to the Lord about providing devotionals for our husbands in such a doable way.
Can I just add that behind the toilet is also a good place to look? seriously.
Curtis,
Thank you for such a wonderful resource. I appreciate your insight as I think I will order one as PART of my husband’s birthday gift. Like the idea of taping a gift card to it!
This would also make a great gift for our church’s pastor and choir director, who are working with a number of our Beth Moore womens group and prayer ministry team to do a healing service. They are coming in VERY early on a Saturday morning.
Thank you for the encouragement.
Mary Ann
Woodbury, MN
This sounds like such a great resource. Sometimes I find it hard to encourage, rather than push, my husband to stick to a daily devotional in the midst of busy life! What a blessing this is!
Thanks
-Katherine
Thanks Curtis you are wonderful to do this for our “men” and thanks for the tips!!! My husband is always asking about Keith and I think he would really like to meet him – I have mentioned you and Amanda before – after this I’m sure he will be interested in hearing about you and your part in the ministry. Thanks again – I’m getting one for my husband and one for my son and maybe all 3 of my son in laws – we’ll see what God can do for this group!
Thanks again
GG2002
This is totally random… but I thought of you all! My husband and I just had our 20th wedding anniversary last week on the 14th and we are going out of town today for the weekend to celebrate!
I have been counting the days! : )
However… this morning I woke up with the WORST cold! (sneezy, itchy, red eyes, sore throat, horrible sinus headache… let me tell you I’m looking real kissable LOL)… I called my Mom in tears for a little prayer then ran to Walgreens desperate… and I saw the Neti Pot! I laughed remembering your post… after I read it I thought never in a million years!
But I tell you Siestas today I was in need of a miracle… so I had to try it! And… it wasn’t near as gross as I thought! Hoping it will do the trick! : )
Will be there Sunday Can’t wait to put some praise on! : )
I don’t have a husband (at the moment-waiting on God still), but your “tips” are a great male perspective on how to handle, deal, other wise communicate with the opposite sex. I’m still trying to figure yall out…
Genesis 1:27(NAS)
God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
So thanks a bunch at least for that!
Curtis- I understand bribing my hubby with a Home Depot gift card…..but M&Ms work just as well. That is my solution to potty training! 🙂
Curtis, Thank you for the study and I greatly appreciate all your advice on how to give it. I would have really done it wrong big time. I wish I would have had this before Christmas would have been a good add on Christmas gift. Oh well I like the Lowes, Home Depo advice. I think I have it fixed for hubby now if I can just figure out how to give it to my two 32 year old sons and not come off as know it all, I think I will use the same gift card approach. Thanks I just know God will bless your message.
Thank you for this CD study of Elijah. My hubby is starting a new job that for a while means he will be driving an hour and a half sometimes two hours commute until we can move closer. He is looking for sermons and stuff to listen to so this will be the perfect “Congrats on the new job” gift. Fortunately I already know he wants it. I love the list by the way, especially #1 and #4. 🙂
You know the best part about this post to me? It’s that I married no ordinary man and none of your rules applied or were even necessary in the first place. That makes me so happy!! These are the kind of gifts my Chris appreciates and actually uses–just like your study, Curtis. He’s ready for the next one.
Praying for your family!
With Joy,
Holly
Curtis,
Great resource… Let me help translate your excellent 5-part message to those women who don’t have as many males in their lives as I do…
OK, Girls, here’s whatcha gotta do….
1. Tape the CD set to a brand new vaccuum cleaner and give it to him for his next landmark birthday or for your anniversary.
2. Stick it in with some dirty laundry until “ripe”, then toss it on the bedroom floor with the other clothes. Don’t say a word, and pretend you have no idea how it got there. It’s reverse psychology – he’ll actually pick it up.
3. Tell him it’s “some audio clips by a guy named Curtis with living proof about hanging out with ‘Moore’ attractive women.”
4. Stick it under YOUR pillow.
5. and 6. Hold up all meals until he completes the series on the spot…(Sorry Curtis, everyone knows this is the only way to really get what you want from a man!!!)
Haha! from Di : )
define nag
does it mean repeat?
does it mean repeat with a whine?
what is nagging, how many times can you repeat before it is a nag?
lol, I need to know!
Hi Curtis, As one of the older Siestas I just wanted to say how valuable your tips are! After I had been married several years, I heard someone say, no wonder your husband doesn’t want to do anything for you. Changes are he never does it right! The kids are not going to die of malnutrition from one night of hotdogs for supper. Let him do it his way. “His ways are not your ways” 🙂 It would have saved me a lot of headaches and gained a lot more respect from my husband if I had learned that earier! Men are different that doesn’t mean they are wrong! Thanks again for your post!
Curtis, that was a hoot! And so refreshing to read because I’ve been there as a wife. I am old enough + some to be your mother. Took me a long time to learn much of what you said. Last thing I gave my hubby was the book, The Power of a Praying Husband. I simply left it in the seat of his recliner and never said a word. (That last part took me a loooong time and much heartache to learn.) He never said a word, either. I think he read some of it. I’m thankful for little bits of hope the Lord gives me. He is a Christian, deacon, church goer, etc. but I want him to delight in the Word as dear Beth has trained me to. I ask you this question: How many husbands and wives ARE on the same page? I don’t think I am the exception here, although we have friends who I think are.
Blessings to you and your precious family and thank you for making available resources for men. There is a great need there.
Amazing, I was just wondering last week . . . is there a resource I could give my husband to (quietly) encourage him in his faith? I had no idea where to start.
I guess I’ll have to buy him a CD player for his car, too. LOL! It’s an old car and he only has a cassette player!
this looks like an awesome study. I would love for my husband to have this, he has to drive 45 min to and from work every day. Thanks for the hints as well. I have 4 sons and of course hubby so i can use all the advice i can get on communication with men of all ages!
hidden stash of cash huh? i think i need to go diggin:)
have a great day!
I love the drive-thru idea Curtis! My husband loves to listen to stuff while he drives. Who’da thunk you were so funny? I should have known! You fit right in with the siestas…My hubby would agree with the ipod suggestion too. Hey! The Farmers Wife had a very good idea did too she not? PLus I was excited to read about the hubby that is doing the love dare with his wife. Praise God! LaVonda- I hope you find your hidden treasure! I Love you all! A merry heart doeth good! Keep the Curtis clips comin!
I think it is way cool to hear from the male perspective! I totally get his sports analogies – word pictures that I needed today. Would love to get the story behind the cover photo. Thanks Curtis!
Curtis,
Thanks for such great tips and for making a cool CD. This is one my husband and our Bible Teacher would love. They love classic cars!!! That alone will catch their eye.
A special thank you for reminding us that our husbands think and act much differently than we do. Some times I must say that I look at other couples in the church and compare them to ourselves. Some men seem to be so grounded in the Word and so spiritual that I wish my husband were like that. I know that he is a work in progress, JUST LIKE ME!!! Sometimes I forget how long it has taken ME to work on MYrelationship with Christ.
It is so encouraging to know that I am not the only one going through these issues. But let there be no mistake that I love my man like crazy (after 26 years together) and would not trade him for any other!!!
Can’t wait to hear from you again Curtis. God Bless you and your sweet family.
Lori
I think I just needed all of that advice to remind myself about my man.
Today, I said something to the tune of…look at morgan sleeping she is so beautiful. He glanced real quick and said yeah. I was like dude that is where we are so different I just store it all up in my heart. Then, he says well I am sorry you are so much more righteous than me. That is not what I meant but that is how he took it…lol!! I learned after the first year of marriage not to be the bible police and start handing out tickets if I noticed he wasn’t having “his quiet time”.
Can’t wait to get this!
Curtis taught this last fall, and I loved it. He’s a dynamic speaker who is very easy to relate to, and brings a mighty word. I haven’t heard the edited version, but no doubt it will be an easy way to get in a devotional before you take on the day–Elijah had some serious lessons for everybody, and Curtis had a powerful way of presenting it.
Loved this post, Curtis. And I love your wife!
You’ve done ALL of Beth’s studies?! I’m a bit envious.
Boy you called me on that one, I am so bad about holding my hubby accountable when he did not ask me too.
Looking forward to hearing the Drive Thru Bible.
Traci
Curtis,
Thanks for the post. I know my husband will enjoy this and it will make a good gift for some other men in our family.
This is perfect for my husband! He drives so much for work; he gets a new company car every 2 years at 100,000 miles. The audio concept is great and will keep his attention because he is stuck in the car. I will just put it on the passenger seat with a note.
Anon, know that I have prayed for you this morning. I pray that God’s new mercies will overwhelm you with joy today.
Galations 6:9 – I love it! Thank you LPM and Curtis for ministering to men!
Ordered it, can’t wait! It is a delicate matter….the giving of gifts meant to prod our hubby’s spiritual growth. It is hopefully with a pure heart that I keep Max Lucado’s Daily Devotions in the bathroom. 🙂
When is Curtis going to put out a Bible study for men in the workbook format? My husband is nearly dying for something like that just for men!! He's on his 3rd Beth Moore study and although he loves them, I know he'd enjoy a study from a man's perspective! 🙂 Thanks again Beth & Curtis for teaching us how to our swords!
Aww Curtis – I’ll have to set you straight on the no nagging! The other night my dad, husband, and I were having a conversation about how husbands need to be reminded of things when schedules get busy. My dad said, “We just need a little nudging and guidance from time to time.”
I said, “Dad, do you realize that if you take the first letters of ‘nudging and guidance’ you can make the acronym NAG?”
Then I thanked him for the permission!
Thanks for the humorous reminder that I’m not in charge of my man’s spiritual life….I’m not…you’re right I’m not. Sounds like a great gift, and the Sears card w/ it will certainly add to its attractiveness.
Thanks for thinking of our guys!!
Cynthia in OK
Hi Curtis,
Way to go. Please keep chiming in as it is soooo helpful. When you touched in LIT class regarding mens attention span and compared your devotional which as you showed, next to Beth’s, looked more like a pamphlet. I let you know after class how that lifted a spiritual burden off my shoulders with great relief with that insight. This is important stuff for us Siestas! If I may respeat myself to you, with your wit, your humor, your passion, your insight and your humility you have been nothing but a mighty blessing to LPM and a blessed addition to the already fabulous Moore clan.
Hope to take another class from you one day.
Many, Many Blessings,
Christine Roskamp
Houston Siesta
Dear Curtis,
I don’t believe we’ve met, but after reading your post I see how perfectly you fit in with the Moore bunch (and I mean that in a good way!) Thanks for your words of wisdom, us wives can be a “little” impatient and overbearing sometimes. Will check out this resource, Thanks!
Congratulations on becoming a Daddy again! Give your precious little wife a hug for us all and remind her of how beautiful she is right now, because at this late stage of the game, she’s probly not feelin’ it.
God Bless You All!
Veronica
Curtis,
Thank you soooo much for your insight. I have been on a search for "The Beth Moore for Men" for some time. I haven't found anything to compare yet. My husband did watch one segment of Jesus the One & Only but he slept through the last half. He just doesn't love, love, love her like I do.
Thank you Curtis. I am so excited about this wonderful devotional resource. I have ordered 2 one for my daughter and one for her husband. They can both listen to it on their way to work. My daughter was going to out weekly Beth Moore Bible Study for several years, then it became necessary for her to go back to teaching upon the birth of their third child! We miss her at our morning study and she misses it. This will be a great addition to her drive to school. And she and her husband will be able to share this together!
Blessings to the Jones household upon the upcoming new birth!
Dear, dear Pastor Curtis- please keep the miesta perspective coming! We siestas need it terribly!
I'm so glad you and Amanda haved teamed up with Siesta Beth & LPM. It's a beautiful thing *sniff*
I ordered the product for my hubby. He really dug the Bible study "Deepening a Father's Heart." His response was that it is the kind of Bible study a man needs- not too long, not too short, but just right. What a blessing!
Keep it up! Like I said we (male and female He created them) need it desperately. I'm so tickled about this, can you tell? 🙂
It’s on its way here, Curtis. Thank you so much…for the CD and great advice! Will try to follow!
Chris