Big Sisters and Little Sisters

I’m really ticked. I just ran into a beloved little sister in the faith on my way to work when I stopped off at a grocery store to grab a few things. She and her family are nearly being eaten alive by the enemy. Honestly, we stood right there in plain sight near the vitamin aisle and ratted on the devil and shook the family tree for some fresh truth. As big tears rolled down those cheeks, she said one thing so emphatically that it seared straight into my bones:

“I was just thinking about you this morning, Beth. And I’ve just gotta know: have you been here?”

Where exactly did she mean by here? In that place where the enemy seems to leave NOTHING untouched. Nothing unmangled by his crushing iron jaw. The scene of the onslaught. Where Satan seems to systematically and patiently and daily and hourly go for you – heart, soul, and body, and for everything and everyone you hold dear, and for all you know – that you know – that you know you believe. That season where you can’t seem to recover because every time you start to get back up, something knocks you down again. That season that you really do begin to believe will absolutely kill you…and, in some respects, it does. It kills the old you. If allowed to, it stones to death the Goliath within every David, one welting throw after another. Welcome to the sifting zone where Satan gets so much leash that he rips to bloody shreds everything he can get his paws on…but what is really real. What is really left behind when we are stripped bare of all our earthly security and fleshly confidence.

Have I been there, my beloved little sister?

Let’s see. How loud can I say this?? I HAVE BEEN THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BOY, HAVE I EVER BEEN THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And part of me survived. And part of me died.

And the part of me that died, as painful as it was, needed to.

And when it tries to resurrect it’s ugly, deformed, decayed head, I remind it that it is dead, lest it need another killing. Because I don’t want another killing.

I don’t mean my baffling tendency to sin is dead. I deal with that old nature everyday. I can still – almost out of nowhere – vacillate furiously between self-love and self loathing until I’m so dizzy I could regurgitate. But that joint victim and victimizer in me, that violent inner working nurtured at the breast of deceit and raised in sickness with a bent on self-destruction, took what still appears over many years to be a fair beheading.

YES. I have been there. And it was so awful I still well remember almost to the detail. And this morning I was glad I did because my little sister in the faith – a MIGHTY woman of God – needed to hear it.

I got in that car so mad at the enemy and at this brazen, hateful world that I made a bee-line straight to work and clicked the words “new post.”

Big sisters, our little sisters need some encouragement. They need to know we’ve been where they are. Even if they’re not in a season of hell on earth. Maybe their house just smells like one huge dirty diaper. Maybe they just need a nap. Maybe they need a job. God alone knows exactly and truly what they need from Him but this WE can know they need from us:ย  encouragement! And, by God (and I mean that), we are going to give it to them.

Here’s what we’re going to do today. You who are 39 and under get to tell us where you could use some encouragement. You who are 40 and older and willing are going to give it to them. Here’s how it’s going to look:

If you are 39 or younger, you’re going to start your comment with “Your little sister here: …”

If you are 40 or older, you’re going to start your comment with “Your big sister here: …”

Here are the ground rules: (I’m going to warn you. When I’m furious, I can get into a bossy frame of mind and I’m there right this second. But, look at it this way. I’m beside myself in your behalf so humor me.)

Little sisters, don’t snow ball with every irritating, annoying, frustrating thing or relationship in your life. Get pretty quickly to the bottom line. I’m thinking about someone I really do love so much and want to encourage and help when at all possible but her emails to me are so long and about so many things going wrong and so many people going awry that by the end of it, all I can do is throw up my hands and say, “I am so overwhelmed, I have no idea where to begin!” Try, as much as you know how to tell us, to articulate what is really wrong. The real bottom line. Also, please look throughout the post for encouragements that may help you and keep in mind that what the big sisters write to one, they extend to all. Don’t be offended if no one speaks directly to you. Every encouragement is meant for every one of you.

Big Sisters, today is for encouraging our little sisters and that’s all. I know you have problems because I’m about your same age and I have a truckload of them. But you and I have lived long enough to know that we’re going to make it and that God IS going to be faithful and He is INDEED going to bring beauty from ashes and He will most certainly, given enough time, work every single detail out for our good and His glory. No complaining from us today. This post is a N0-Whine zone for big sisters. Life and the devil are eating our baby sisters alive. Let’s GET UP in their behalf, encourage them, and draw out our swords and fight for them. As often as you can, make your comment to all of them instead of just in reply to one of them. There will be exceptions, of course, but it’s crucial that we edify them across the board. They could all use it. You can talk to them or pray for them in your comment. Both are so Biblical and so right.

Now, listen, Little Sisters. One more thing from Big Sister with the big mouth. Get your tails in the Word. I mean it. Get your tails in the Word. NO TIME OFF. Read it aloud when you can’t absorb it or concentrate on it. Get yourself some accountability. Call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised and so shall you be saved from your enemies. Every morning.

One last thing. I left my beloved little sister with an assignment this morning and with the accountability to let me know she’s doing it. I’m going to give you little sisters who are feeling devoured the exact same one: memorize Psalm 25. Every word of it. Don’t tell me you can’t. Yes, you can. Get it printed out, laminate it, and memorize it. Say it over and over and over again. Start today. We can cheer you on and we can fight for you but we can’t fight instead of you. This victory is YOURS. The battle is meant to bring plunder directly to your personal life and family line or God wouldn’t have allowed it. Get up and fight.

Psalm 25.

I mean it.

I’m going to be asking you about it.

OK. I’m sorry for the bossy tone but I am so mad on behalf of you, our baby sisters, that I’m bruising this keyboard.

Now get busy, Girls. I have to be out of the office for a little while several times today so if we go a few hours without any comments moderated, have no fear, I’ll get back to it and get your encouragements posted.

I love you.

 

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  1. 601
    JUDY RAY says:

    Big sister here. It has given me great comfort to claim the promises of Psalm 91 and to trust in God because he knows the end of my story.

  2. 602
    Leanne says:

    Little sister: I’m 38 years old and now a single mother of four. The blog by Beth has hit a chord because the enemy has not left one area of my life alone. Ten years ago I discovered my husband was having an affair with our friends’ daughter (she was our pastor’s daughter). For 9 years I stayed even though I found out several times that they had not stopped like they said they would. Last year their relationship became a scandal with it on the front page of the paper and on the local news (too much to explain the details). I left him and now going through a divorce. We also had to file bankruptcy. I have found that problems of this magnitude are too much for people to hang around for long. Many people in my life have moved on but yet here I am still dealing with it. I now feel alone and sad. I used to be feel so close to the Lord and now unforgiveness and anger in my heart have left me feeling very unworthy of Him. So unworthy in fact, I feel that I cannot pray or read His word. I have lost much but I do know deep in my core that He is God. He is good and loving and I love Him dearly but feel so very far away. I must already thank you ladies, reading some of the other posts have helped greatly.

    • 602.1
      Sharilyn says:

      Big sister here…you are not a disappointment to God, one to be shunned because of what your husband has done to you. You are sanctified by the blood of Christ this very, very hard season that you’re going through. You are justified in your anger and bitterness but God does not desire you to live permenantly in that place. “Crying over” is not the same as crying out…Choose to cry out, and cry out again and again. Lift your hands and face to God if only to declare “I cannot, but You can, Lord.” and say this each time you feel swamped by the voice of the enemy. God will never leave you nor forsake you, little sister. He will soothe you and your four younglings until he opens up the door for that which is to come next for you. You are more than you can ever even imagine, and more again. Joy will come in the morning. In His loving arms, find rest.

    • 602.2
      Jeni says:

      Leanne,
      I wish I could be near you to help you out physically with the load you have as a single mom. I was one (still am to a grown one), but I only had one. The other thing I CAN do is to encourage you to spend every waking possibly moment in the Word of God. You will come through this. And know that the feelings are only temporary. Most important, you have to forgive everyone involved, for the sake of your children. Know that He upholds you with the righteousness of HIs right hand. I cry out for a miracle for you and yours,
      In Jesus’ Name,
      Jeni

    • 602.3
      Janet says:

      Big Sister here: I, too, stayed with a man I knew was unfaithful (just divorced after 31 hard years of marriage), and I, too, turned away from God because I felt He abandoned me during my trials. I found that God was waiting for me patiently, and that He loved me through it all, even when I was most unlovable. Please know that our God is bigger than all the problems you are now facing. Even if it is sporadic, whenever you can, get back in the Word, because even though it feels like the words in the Word don’t “stick” in your brain right now, one day you will find that you DID indeed catch many meaningful messages during your readings, and those words will uplift you as your life turns around. And, believe me, it WILL turn around. When I look back, I see that God was leading me to make the best decisions, and that He was there with me all along. The worst is behind you now–look forward, not behind, and know that you do, indeed, have the strength to see this through to a much better life. I love you, Little Sister.

    • 602.4
      Tanya says:

      Big sister here: Leanne, you are not alone. We are standing with you. Some of the best advice a friend ever gave me is when you feel unwilling to forgive and let go of anger, tell God you are willing to be willing to forgive. Start where you are. God knows everything – what has happened, what will happen. You never have to be afraid or feel unworthy to tell Him what’s going on or how you feel. Stay close to Him. You are not alone.

    • 602.5
      Dustalyn says:

      Leanne,
      You are loved!!! Keep crying out to our Great God… Life is hard… God is good! Praying you are encouraged for this moment. Keep putting one foot in front of the other… It is my privilege to go before the throne and do battle for you. May you sense the Presence of the Lord this day.

    • 602.6
      Laura says:

      Little sis here– my heart cries out for you and I am in a very similar situation. God is enough- no matter what. I like Isaiah 54, God talking about a young wife abandoned. I am praying for you, please pray for me too. These big sisters have great advice, I plan to listen.

    • 602.7
      Brenda says:

      Leanne, I am currently married (legally) and in a very similar situation. I have two young boys and have been fighting against anger taking root. But it comes out in impatience, wrong reactions and words, anxiety, fear and worry…I know. I’m living it. But so many posts from other big sisters, as I am, help. I seem to volley back and forth between asking God “Why?” and thanking Him for empowering me to make it through one more day. I strive to not be double-minded. But nothing will sway me from knowing that He is in control. He has not abandoned me or my boys. He has a plan for our lives. My job is to keep seeking His face and His will. God bless you!

  3. 603
    Lori says:

    Big Sis here:

    As a mom of twins who are about to turn 19!, I remember the days when you are tired, lonely and just want to go do something fun with friends. But there was a time when God did not provide any godly fun girlfriends for me. My BSF Bible Study leader at the time addressed this in one of her talks and said that God may be using our loneliness to turn our hearts towards Him. So I poured everything out to the Lord and sought Him daily. He revealed Himself to me in a way I was going to need when my husband was killed a few years later. Ephesians 5:15-17 says to make the most of every opportunity. See if this is a time God has ordained for you to draw near to Him, You will not regret it. And your babies will grow and you will have more time ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. 604
    Kristen says:

    Your little sister here…. I can’t hardly stand the overwhelming pressure. I am due with your 3rd child (our “bonus blessing”) in less than 2 weeks. For a month I will have 3 kids under the age of 4. My husband travels almost every week. We are building a house and it hasn’t been a smooth journey. We are in an apt for at least another month…and I am trying to care for my 62 yr old mother that has Alzheimer’s. (Although I am blessed that she can afford 24 hr live in care) I am am just tired.

    • 604.1
      Melissa says:

      Big sister here: Kristen, it will be okay! I had three kids 5 and under at one point and am alive to talk about it. You are in the throes of physically exhausting days and it may feel like time in the Word may be just one more thing to add to your never ending to do list but let me echo the words of our siesta mama and say- Get your tail in the Word. Even if it is just writing down a verse on an index card and reading it over and over throughout the day, it will make such a huge difference in the way you parent, the way you feel and how you get through a day. I am praying for you- that God gives you strength (the kind of strength that can only come from Him) and that you are able to get some rest before your bonus blessing arrives. (((hugs)))

    • 604.2
      Nancy says:

      Kristen, my daughter is right where you are. Her newborn is four days old, her son is 2, and her daughter is not yet 4. She called me yesterday in tears – overwhelmed, painfully engorged and out of bananas and milk! But I was able to go to the store for her and go over and help get the two older ones down for naps. Wish I could do that for you, my dear. Your mom would love to be able to do that for you. I’m so sorry she can’t, but that you are caring or her too. I am praying for you right now, that God will just carry you through this difficult time, that there will be some help for you. You are doing the hardest job in the world. God shows up strong in our weakness. I ask God to strengthen you and comfort you. I pray you will know deep in your heart that even though you are bone tired, God will help you put one foot in front of the other one day at a time.

  5. 605
    Danielle says:

    Little sister here….is overwhelmed with my family. My brother, who is 2 years my senior, just got his 2nd baby mamma pregnant with his now 4th child. For nearly 15 years I have endured embarrassment, disgust, frustration and mostly….hurt….because he lives his life with an arrogance and disregard for the consequences of his behavior. His 3 boys live with their drug-addicted, pathological-liar, mentally unhealthy mother and grandparents and their life is hell. I live in fear that they will be hurt physically, because I know their hearts are broken. I can do NOTHING!!!! and I can do EVERYTHING!! PRAY! I ask that someone else prays for them. My brother is an adult who is responsible for his choices. Still I pray that God continues to seek him. My nephews are children and please pray with me that GOD will keep them set apart from the world. I love you Siestas!

    • 605.1
      Katie says:

      Big Sister. Danielle, I truly understand the pain a wayward family member can cause. I am dealing with something very similar. The damage caused to the children involved is beyond belief and almost unbearable. The pain and embarrasment for the rest of the family is very difficult as well. I was just thinking tonight that it would be easier to be the one who walks away from the Lord and doesn’t care what happens. I was a bit jealous of the easy, fun life those involved seem to have, while my heart is still so burdened and heavy. But then I remembered Psalm 73 and I know that it is not true.

      A group of us get together every week to pray for the “prodgials” in our lives. I wrote out a prayer based on themes from the parable of the prodigal son and I pray it regularly for my loved ones who have walked away. I pray they will hunger and thirst for righteousness, remember their identity in Christ and the inheritance God prepared for them before the foundation of the world. I pray they will repent and return to their Father in humility and would be welcomed with rejoicing and celebration. I highly reccommend this approach. It has helped tremendously (at least my attitude :)) I’m praying for you!

    • 605.2
      Lynette W says:

      Big sister here, literally … I am the oldest of five, and I have one sister who lives her life similarly to your brother. You already know you can do nothing but pray, and that’s a huge first step. But please, dear Danielle, remember that God loves your brother and those children far more than you are able to or can even conceive. You must keep giving the situation to Him. I know firsthand what it’s like to grow up in a physically, mentally and emotionally abusive home, and yet here I am, saved by the grace of God even though I grew up thinking He hated me. Don’t give up. Continue to pray. Every time the worry starts gnawing at you, rechannel the worry into prayer and consciously give it to God. Have as much contact with the boys as you can and tell them about Jesus, how much He loves them and wants them to come to Him and has given them guardian angels to look out for them (Matthew 18:10). Also, I don’t know if you have considered this or are able to do it, but if their living conditions are that bad you may be able to contact Child Protective Services and have them intervene.

      Either way, God is at work in the situation, even if you can’t see it. And I’m living proof (see what I did there? lol) that growing up in a bad home doesn’t equal doom. Yes, I still struggle with some things, but God’s grace is more than abundant in my life. I will pray for your brother and his kids; please pray for my sister and her son. And don’t give up no matter how long it takes or how hopeless it seems. There is ALWAYS hope with God.

  6. 606
    Kerry says:

    Little Sister Here – Thank you Beth for this wonderful idea! I long to have a ‘Big Sister’ to talk to and get advice from.

    My question is – how do you do it all (work, home, be a mom, be a wife, exercise and stay healthy, spend daily time with God…)? I find that I can’t do it all, but all are important and I can’t just ignore some of the responsibilities. If I exercise I run out of quiet time to spend with God. I work full-time so my mom/wife/home life suffers. I’m not growing in any of these areas and feel as if all are suffering from my lack of being able to juggle everything.

    • 606.1
      Teresa says:

      Kerry, Big Sister, here. I’ve been right where you are. Went to school full time, worked full time, husband, children and house to take care of. I know that feeling of spread so thin I’m transparent. Learn to combine activities. When you exercise, listen to Scripture on CD or if you do the stair-stepper or treadmill, read while you work out. If you have time waiting in car line, talk to God and tell Him what’s going on. He already knows, but He loves to hear you telling Him with faith that He hears you and will help you. Stop thinking that quiet time has to be this long, intense time with God. My most special times with Him have been in my car on the way to work, pouring my heart out to Him as I prepare to take care of His children (I’m a nurse, so I get a lot of practice!) Use your lunch hour (or half-hour) to read Scripture or listen to Christian music. All of these things will slowly increased your strength and your belief. You will get there, one step at a time, but only if you continue taking those steps. Sometimes it feels like the next step will kill you, but it won’t. He’s holding you up and He will not let you fall. He loves you and so do we.

    • 606.2
      Heather says:

      Hi Kelly…I am on the brink of a big sister at 39 here but I could relate to your post. We have eight kids and we home school. Let me tell you how you do it all…..the GRACE of God! I could never do it all, some days I am baffled I even get it done. Speak out His name for help…he WILL hear you in your time of stress and feeling overwhelmed. I know He will, He is faithful.

    • 606.3
      Jenny says:

      Big sister here…I have been where you are…and sometimes find myself back there again! I am married, have 3 children, and work full time. God has been teaching me to start every day with Him. I start by trying to whisper a prayer before I get out of bed. I ask God to control/guide my thoughts which will guide my actions. I ask Him to give me time to do what He sees as important and necessary for the day, and the freedom to release what might not get done. I used to struggle with feeling like I had to accomplish something worthwhile everyday, or I had been a lazy slob or something. When I ask God to guide my thoughts, I experience freedom that I didn’t know before. I also ask God to help me protect my time with Him. I get up earlier than my family, so I can have that quiet time alone, with my coffee, in my favorite chair. I am still learning, but these things have helped me…

    • 606.4
      Lora says:

      Big sister here – Kerry I have been there! It is HARD to work, be a parent, wife, friend, etc, etc! Sometimes it seemed that I was just “getting through the day”, but not really enjoying the blessings God had given me. I had to learn to quit striving for perfection and also how to say “no” to things. Through prayer and God’s guidance, some things in my life had to go – maybe only for a season. Also, the house, laundry, etc. didn’t have to be perfect. I also had to learn how to lovingly ask my husband for help. Come to find out, he wanted a peaceful, less stressed wife and he was more then willing to step up. Your relationship with God is THE most important thing and spending time with HIM daily is MOST important. I have found that commiting to that time in the morning everyday allows me to have more peace throughout the rest of my day. You may not think you are growing, but think back to the woman you were 10 years ago. Are you in the same place spiritually, emotionally? I bet you have grown! So sister, just walk it out, putting one foot in front of the other. Always focusing on the cross,walking straight to Jesus!

  7. 607
    Mary Beth says:

    Big sister here….There is not a tear that you shed or a prayer that you pray that our precious Savior does not hear. He cares for you so dearly. Memorize God’s word, keep those verses with you always and repeat them over and over. God’s word will sustain you. I encourage you little sisters to find at least one or more older sisters to pray for you. As I have walked through challenges in life, it has been such a blessing to have others lifting me in prayer, doing battle against satan on my behalf. God is our rock. He is faithful. He will ALWAYS be with you each and every day, no matter what you are facing. Keep praise music on and let it encourage and lift your spirit. Surrender your burdens to the Lord – pour out your heart to Him and allow Him to carry you and lift the weight of your burdens.Isaiah 41:10 Do not fear for I am with you. Do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand, for I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says do not fear I will help you.

  8. 608
    Janette says:

    Big sister here… To my ‘little sisters’
    1. You are SO loved. Got it? — Loved!!! Overwhelmingly, amazingly, incredibly,LOVED!
    2. You are SO loved….right where you are. Got that? In the middle of your mess. Your pain. Your confusion. LOVED.
    3. You are SO loved…no matter what. Angry? OK. Tired? OK. Just tired of trying? OK. NO MATTER WHAT.
    4. You are SO loved…that you are FREE! You are SO loved and precious.
    _________My sweet little sister—if I could tell MYSELF something when I was your age…it would be this…You are SO loved! You’re loved even when you’re tired, worn-out, angry, disgusted with your boss, mad at your BFF, tired of playing Church, sick of Sunday School, and just plain ready to give up. Tired of being all that you’re expected to be…you are loved. Going through the motions without joy…you are LOVED.
    ___________________You are going to get through this. There are so many wonderful examples in the Word of emotional, financial wrecks who got through the same “stuff” we’re dealing with. If you don’t have time to read it, get the Bible on CD or mp3 to listen to in the car on the way to t-ball or dance class. Let it be the lullaby that speaks your baby to sleep (and you too)! Take the Psalms apart and SING them…
    ____________________________And the last thing I would tell the me that is your age….Get some rest. You do not have to do everything. You do not need to someone ELSE’s ideal. Besides…we live not just in a FALLEN world…but a FALLING world. Don’t expect the world’s standard to make you or your life any better.
    ………God’s Grace will carry you through
    ____(the fear when there is no money
    ———the anxiety when the baby has weird symptoms
    ————the sleeplessness when a teenager is late coming home)
    ________________When you are in the Word–you’ll see. You weren’t called to be anyone but YOU submitting to the Holy Spirit to show Christ to the world for the Glory of God the Father. YOU ARE HIS FAVORITE!
    ____________________YOU ARE SO LOVED!!!

    • 608.1
      Shar says:

      Wow! What a beautifully written sentiment. Thank you for taking the time to reply. The HS used your words to speak to me even if to no one else. Thanks for the encouragement! Love to you!

    • 608.2
      Sherri says:

      Thanks big sister, I needed that! <3

  9. 609
    Nancy Genova says:

    Little Sister here! At 49 I was born again — my struggle
    Is with DISCIPLINE! I talk to Jesus throughout
    The day but I do not take time out each day to
    Kneel un praise and prayer in my prayer
    Closet.
    I use an excuse that is I have ADHD!
    NO EXCUSES when it comes to my redeemer—
    He is always here with me!!!

    • 609.1
      Teresa says:

      Nancy, Big Sister, here. Nowhere in the Word does it say that God only hears us when we kneel and pray in our closets. Yes, uninterrupted quiet time is the best in the world. I have received untold blessings from that special time. But I have also discovered that I had to work up to it. I began talking to God in my car on the way to work and that is such a blessing to me. I don’t have anyone yelling for my attention and while I have to pay attention to my driving, it’s just the two of us spending time together. Then I found that time in my car wasn’t enough. I wanted MORE time with Him, so I began an online Bible study that I do each day. I so look forward to that time and the things I have learned. The bottom line is that God will bless the efforts that you make to spend time with Him. He will increase your desire for that time and help the discipline you need to develop within you. Don’t give up and say I can’t. Yes you can!!! If you need daily encouragement, find someone you love and trust to pray for you. Also, know that all of us Big Sisters are going to be praying for our Little Sisters. We’ve let you down in a big way, but it won’t happen anymore. We are reaching out to the Throne Room of God for each of you. You are loved more than you can ever imagine.

  10. 610
    Sarah says:

    Little sister here… Going back to work (have a 10 month old baby) and am so scared about going back. I was offered a fantastic job that I have wanted so badly for years, but I also want to do what’s best for my daughter. I just pray that my daughter enjoys her daycare and knows that she is loved.

    • 610.1
      Another Beth says:

      Big Sister here…
      Sarah, if you made a list of all the Pros and Cons about going back to work, it would be a mile long. So…you need God’s wisdom for this! Seek His path…I got my answer when I got pregnant again ; )

      Sometimes, we don’t get a “clear” answer from Him. If that is the case…and you & hubby are in agreement…then I suggest you try going back to work. Within a short time, you will know whether this is a good arrangement for you, your husband and…most importantly…your daughter.

      I’m sure many won’t agree with me (it’s not called The Mommy Wars for nothing ; ) but if you get enough “green lights” it might be God’s plan. If your desires are to honor God and love your family, He will get you to the place you need to be.

    • 610.2
      Susan Anne says:

      Big Sister here,

      Sweet Sarah – I am praying for you and your precious daughter. May you find comfort with our Father each and every day you drop your daughter off at her daycare. I was there many years ago with my youngest daughter(although it was short term situation) and I fretted each and every day – FOR NOTHING …. God had in under control! I eventually took a different job which allowed me to be home with both of my girls, due to a very flexible schedule- as a single mother with a lot of family around to help me raise my daughters – THAT was important.

      Raising your Daughter is one the best gifts God entrusts us Mothers with and I pray your Daughter will continue to bless you each and every day with new words, tricks, funny faces and hugs!!

      Let me assure you, your Daughter will grow up watching you provide for her and someday she will let you know how important you are to her – my daughters are now 31 and 24 and I have the Greatest gift of all, in a 2 year old Granddaughter named Paisley Anne – who gave me the Blessed title of “Nannie”!

      Praying for you sweet Sarah!!

      Susan Anne

  11. 611
    Susan says:

    Big sister here..

    Oh, the faithfulness of our God. I have read a few of the most recent posts and can say I have experienced most of them. There were times when I could barely moved, so oppressed I was, BUT GOD…pray, trust and rest in Him. I have seen answers to prayers 15 years later. Wait on God. He loves you and He is God…He will work, He has promised to. Remember the One who holds you also holds the entire world in the palm of His hand. It will work out, this season will end…pray, read, wait and rest….TRUST…and learn psalm 25!

  12. 612
    cindy says:

    Little sister here… this post has made me cry because it is exactly what i needed. Wow. God is faithful. I am pregnant with our first baby due in Sept. I’m emotional and sensitive. I struggle with loneliness. My husband is of a different denomination than me. I have no desire to tear apart the family of God. We have a great loving marriage but the other day i found a book he is reading about how dangerous my beliefs are. Ok, he is Catholic and I am Baptist. Since we have married both have become more involved in church and stronger in our faith. For some reason God has us in different places right now. Its hard, I am hurt, and frustrated.

    • 612.1
      Beth says:

      It’s such a hard thing to work through at times, darling Cindy, and it would take me much longer than this opportunity to really speak into it but I do want to at least encourage you that Keith was (in many ways still is) Catholic (as most of his side of the family is – I love them so much) and I, too, was Baptist. I say that thirty three years later and way past the fighting over it. Just hope to at least give you a small smile. I care so much. Keep praying for you guys to find unity in Christ. Not in a denomination, but in Christ. It may be that for a time you could go to a community or non denominational church. Hang on to that man of yours. I bet he’s a good one.

      • Cindy says:

        I am weeping to the point of laughter here. I have been teary eyed for days. I just love Jesus so much, He is my life, my breath, my entire existence! Oh sweet sweet Jesus, You are holy holy holy! Funny thing is when I posted this I thought of you, Beth and Sister Lynne. I am grateful for the unity in Christ that the two of you display for all to see! I am so thankful for the encouragement of my big sisters in Christ.

    • 612.2
      Sister Lynn says:

      Big Sister here:

      Dear Cindy…please hang in there! There is so much more that unites our faiths than divides us. As you said you and your husband are growing in your faith – KEEP GROWING!! As you draw closer to Christ you will draw closer to one another.

      I will be praying for you!
      love, Sister Lynn

    • 612.3

      Cindy,

      I second Beth’s words. The Lord can work powerfully through a submitted heart and praying wife. I had to give up on my judgments about my husband’s faith and relationship with God. It is hard, hard, hard in the thick of it. Yet, when you see that unity and the heart your husband truly has for God, you & your family you will rejoice rejoice rejoice. My husband was christened Catholic, but came to know the Lord in a Baptist church after we were married. We now attend a non-denominational church & are finding unity in the faith. It is a one step, one prayer at a time life we live in this way. One thing I’ve learned is to align myself with my husband as my covering and even when he is off in the weeds about something God takes care of us because He is my man’s covering! Praying for you tonight! Hold fast to Jesus and to your man – as Beth said. God is with you every step of the way, and I am 14 years in… Bless you, M

  13. 613
    Jessica says:

    Little Sister here… I am in the mist of a struggle. I want to pray more and really give total control to Jesus for my life, my husband, and my Children. I have some upset feelings towards a few family members and instead of being upset, and it bothering me I want to just pray and give these feelings to God!

    • 613.1
      Maureen says:

      Big Sister here…can I begin by saying Dear Jessica that sisters “big” & “little” struggle in the area of prayer and giving up control to the ONE who controls the universe!!!!! God gave you the precious family that you have and yes, even those you feel less than wonderful about. As I read through Psalm 25 in The Message, two verses stood out…3 & 4; “Show me how you work, God; school me in your ways. Take me by the hand; Lead me down the path of truth. You are my Savior, aren’t you?” Jessica, I love your heart in that you already know what you need…more of our dear and sweet Jesus!! I pray that you will make time (even minutes) to steal away with Him…without an agenda and be ready to hear from Him! Then open His word and DO WHAT BIG SISTER BETH SAID…begin memorizing Psalm 25…walk around with it…keep it in your car…on your refrigerator…wherever you go…!!! “We can do EVERYTHING through Him who gives us strenth.” (Phil. 4:13). Apart from Him we lose sight (trust me I have…and still do when my flesh gets the better of me…but God). I’m so grateful that you realize that your desire is for more of Him. That’s His desire too!! You are sensitive to your deepest need!! You’re off to a good start little sister!

    • 613.2
      Aubrey says:

      I’m a little sister too, but I recently said something similar to my TWO favorite mentors. I wanted to pray, yet I felt like I was at a loss for words. Both gave me similar words of wisdom: “Be still and know that HE IS GOD.” Also, stop striving in your praying. Learn to rest knowing HE IS in control and is at work on your behalf…

    • 613.3
      Stephanie says:

      Big Sister here . . . I get it. Try having a son-in-law who is not treating my little girl right. I used to struggle with the vicious thoughts I was having about him. But I pray that Jesus draws him near and that God proves him with what he is lacking. After a few days, my heart has softened toward him as I pray his will soften for me. I have also learned that only God can do things, and I just need to worry about staying on my own path. Peace to you.

    • 613.4

      Jessica, sweet little sister, how precious your heart is to God. I am praying for your heart to lean into the grace of God and His forgiveness for those who have upset your feelings. May His grace overflow in you, His love overflow from you and His peace fill your life as you learn to walk in that grace. Be patient with yourself and listen to God’s heart for those who need to be forgiven. He will provide the way. Much love, ~M

  14. 614
    Christy says:

    Little Sister Here: I am a military wife and mother of four who struggles to build and maintain longterm friendships as I move around the globe in support of my loving man. My three chord strand is quickly unraveling in the loneliness of my home. God is my best friend but He can be so darn quiet sometimes. What’s a girl to do?

    • 614.1
      Spiritmom says:

      Big Sister Here Christy: I too am a military wife of 17 years and mama to 4 precious ones. Two are teens now so I have a bit more freedom. It’s so hard to be away from family, and move from friends who ARE your family and of course your church. Sometimes that ache of lonliness is almost too much to bear! But Christ is enough! He is! And pray for new friends, they’ll come. They are in the same boat you are. You will be just fine, because military wives are so tough! Praying for you.

    • 614.2
      Cynthia says:

      Big sister here. Look at the website http://www.justmoved.org and find a group of other women who have moved. It will change your life.

    • 614.3
      Suey says:

      Christy love. thx for your post.
      My hubby and i lived in Saudi Arabia*military camp and California for 10 years not months total.

      justmoved.org that helped me find a great small group
      love
      Mrs Sue Caldwell

  15. 615
    andrea t. says:

    Big Sister here:

    I longed for a big sister to pray with me…
    A titus 2 Woman to lead me, teach me, hear me…

    Girls! Your God is ALMIGHTY…
    Your prayers do not go unnoticed!

    Romans 8:26 lets us know that even your groanings from the depths of our soul are heard by the Holy Spirit and brought to God when we cannot speak.

    Sometimes we need to just say the thing, ya know? Nehemiah 2:5-7 examples us to spell it out to our God.

    Give It ALL To God, Girls…!

    I would tell you 1,000 times to fall on your face and give it to HIM, HE’S LISTENING! HE CARES! HE RESPONDS!

  16. 616
    Lisa says:

    Little sister here: After a 16yr marriage my husband left me to be with my friend. Thru all of this my oldest daughter went to live with her dad and has turned away from the Lord & our relationship is broken by her choice. I have alot of fear for my 14yr old daughter that she is going to follow the same steps. I struggle daily with rejection, feeling loved & I so long to have a relationship with my 19yr old again. I know what scripture says & so many times fear & doubt rule my mind. It’s hard for me to stand & believe when I don’t see any change…

  17. 617
    CJ says:

    Big Sis here….I am amazed at the many stories I continue to read on here. Stories of weariness…stories of affairs…stories of finding one’s way….stories of caring for multiple generations. It is more and more obvious with each post in which Beth asks some personal questions of this community that the enemy is alive and well….doing what he does best…messing with people (God’s own). What was it Melissa said….He has to know how hard it is to be us!! I can’t get that out of my head. He does know how hard it is to be us….even His Son lived among us as the living Word. As I read through scripture and read about the various characters in the bible, what has gotten my attention lately is how many of these bible characters were weak….and sinned some pretty nasty sins. Even David, the one after God’s own heart, was not white as snow. Why do we think we are going to be any better at living and doing less sinning? BUT every one of these characters realized their weaknesses and their sins and drew even closer to the Lord. To be honest I am relieved to know the most famous bible characters were weak and sinned. It gives me hope that in my weaknesses and sins, there IS forgiveness and love in the God of the Bible.

    Also, Sisters, I have read many entries about questions about personal ministries. I realized years ago (20 years) that my ministry was where I was at the time. I was married without kids, so my ministry was my husband….it required me to change, not my husband. And I have seen him change over the years. I was working in the corporate world, so took that on as my ministry. The Lord did NOT give me the calling to teach/preach/etc., BUT did call me to live and work according to His word. I have seen many colleagues over the years ask me what was different. I have apologized to some coworkers and asked for forgiveness over the years because I was called to do so….not necessarily because I was wrong, but because the Lord showed me to do so due to their perspective. There are SO many ways to have a ministry, it is not all about being a teacher/preacher, it is about being a neighbor….a wife….a mother….a daughter….a sister…a prayer warrior…a volunteer….a friend. It is not about talking….it is about sincerely listening to others….making eye contact…NOT letting email or a phone call disturb you in the time of another’s need. There are SO many opportunities for ministry in our world, I think we miss out on so many of them because of our perspective being blinded by the enemy. What is the saying….sometimes when you help others, you are helped.
    Love to all the sisters….big and little…may we bind the enemy for the Glory of God!!

  18. 618
    Missy says:

    Big Sister here…

    Little Sisters, you are so loved! Here are a few things I wish I could share with you personally:

    -I remember as a young woman hearing a more mature woman speaking at church. She said, “I want to be around women who have survived, not arrived.” I so get it now–many, many years later–though at the time I thought I was about to arrive! (Nope!) Darling Little Sisters, we’ll arrive when we get to Heaven! We can learn to know Christ’s peace and joy more and more here without the stifling pressure of trying to have it all together. None of us do!

    -I heard Beth say to keep “face forward” with God during times of great suffering. Don’t turn your back on God, and don’t let the enemy steal your faith! It IS more precious than gold. Your God WILL bring you through times you don’t feel or think you can survive. I’ve been there.

    -You are BEAUTIFUL!! Yes, you really are! In addition to imploring God to help you to spend time with Him each day and to draw you close to Him, nurture the beautiful body God gave you. Care for your body in ways that only you can; this is critically important in times of great stress. Find some routines that you enjoy and can establish as a younger woman that will help nurture your health during this life.

    -More on nurturing your body… movement & exercise help so much during times of great stress. Experiment with a few things that sound good to you–maybe it’s taking a walk or a jog. Maybe you can swim in a friend’s pool while she’s on vacation. My pastor takes “prayer walks” with God and uses this time to get real and honest with Him; being outside in nature can make a huge difference. A wonderful international ministry I’ve found is called Holy Yoga, classes are held in churches either at no cost or on a donation basis. Holy Yoga is about connecting with Christ as you worship Him with your body. See if there’s a class near you at holyyogafoundation.com, or there are DVDs with Scripture messages available too. Revelation Wellness is another Christ-based ministry that offers classes in churches and workouts online to nurture your body and spirit.

    -For you fabulous Little Sisters looking for a mentor… if you are in the Phoenix area, Phoenix Seminary’s Center for Women with Vision offers SoulWork, a nine-month series of classes developed by Holly DelHousaye, wife of Phoenix Seminary President Dr. Darryl DelHousaye. Holly and other lovely women serve as mentors to small groups of women during the SoulWork process. The SoulWork chapters are also available to purchase online if you’re in another part of the country–Holly graciously shares tons of what she’s learned in becoming a mature daughter of God through all of life’s challenges.

  19. 619
    Alaina says:

    Your little sister here is really struggling with parenting. I have a 9 y/o boy, 6 y/o boy/ girl twins, and a 4 y/o boy and I feel the devil is on their backs, as well as mine and my husband. :(. Please lend some advice on how to raise godly children AND how to get them to love one another and not fight all the time!

    • 619.1
      Tamara says:

      Big Sister here.
      I have four children, and my older two used to fight continuously. They really are seeking attention when they do that, so I started the “what I like about you” game. We simply had to go through the members of the family and state three things we like about them. I was strict about it being personal, so they couldn’t say “I like the shirt you are wearing.” It helped me to speak encouragement into my kids and helped them to encourage each other. We did not have a set time for it. In fact, we mostly played the game in the car. I also taped scriptures they were trying to memorize to the steering wheel so that we could review them at stoplights. Did the figting stop? Not totally, but I can say in all honesty that I am living with a 14 and 16 year old right now who do not fight much at all. Some of this is just a stage.

    • 619.2
      Bethanne says:

      Dear Alaina, was touched by your post as this is something all mothers long for: the growth of faith and the love of Jesus in their children, and harmony in the home. I would encourage you in the same vein as almost all these other posts: the answer is in the Word. As you commit yourself to total instruction and saturation in God’s truths, pray for discernment for each of your children as to what the Lord would have you teach them specifically from His Word. Pray these scriptures over your precious babies and incorporate them into daily devotions over breakfast or whatever time works to have them gathered together. Encourage scripture memorization using these strategic passages with your children- there’s nothing wrong with rewards here if it helps! :). You WILL see change in them- praise God He promises us HIS WORD NEVER RETURNS VOID. Also I would tell you to diligently guard all things that enter your home(media, children’s literature, etc.), to keep the enemy out so he does not have a foothold. Am praying for you dear sister, you can do it through His leading. It is His will, so be encouraged! Much love in Christ.

      • Alaina says:

        Thank you both so much for your words of encouragement! I have started making the children write verses to fit their wrong behavior. I hope they will learn from the Word!

        • Bethanne says:

          Thank you Alaina for your response – you made my heart happy! Loved what you said: having them”write” verses to fit “wrong” behavior! That’s so great! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

    • 619.3
      Bethanne says:

      Dearest Alaina, a big sister here with a word of encouragement. Your post so touched me because it is the heart of every believing mother to see her children grow in the faith and the love of Christ, as well as to cultivate harmony in the home. I would say to you that the answer is completely and totally The Word. As you commit yourself to total saturation and personal growth in reading and studying God’s Word, pray over each of your precious children individually and ask the Lord for discernment and specific scriptures for each of them that address their relational and spiritual needs. Pray these scriptures constantly over your dear ones, post them in the house or their rooms, incorporate them into daily devotions with them together over breakfast, or whatever time you can all be together as a unit. Encourage your children to memorize these scriptures too – giving rewards for this is effective and acceptable! ๐Ÿ˜‰ This process of total scripture saturation works – our God promises HIS WORD WILL NOT RETURN VOID!! ๐Ÿ™‚ I would also suggest you diligently guard all things that enter your home(media, children’s literature,etc.) to be sure the enemy doesn’t gain an opening or foothold to sow dissension or any other destructive force in your family. Now is the time, while your children are still young, to be sure rules are firmly in place about what will and will not be allowed to have influence in your home. There will be fewer battles in the teenage years about these boundaries if they are established now. Blessings, strength and wisdom to you my sister, and much love in Christ!

      • bethanne says:

        So sorry to post twice Alaina. New at posting and thought I accidentally deleted the first time! Blessings!

  20. 620
    Mindy Scroggins says:

    Little sister… I struggle with a deep root of shame. I have healed and recovered so much from my childhood sexual abuse, but the shame that I am a monster, bad, not good enough, remains. I never struggled with this in my career but I am now. It has affected every area of my life. God has stripped a lot from me this year, friends, my old identity, he seems silent thru it all. But I know this stripping is part of the process to rid me of my shame identity to force me to find my true identity in his word my true identity in him. I need prayer to stand in it to be comfortable in it. To not just know in my head but believe in my heart that I am ENOUGH. That I am not a monster but a good kind person. That I am truly loved, accepted and forgiven.

  21. 621
    Adrianne says:

    Little sister here…..in the last few months, I have been under a season of warfare that has knocked me down when I least saw it coming. Satan truly studies us to find where he can hit us and he keeps those fiery darts coming just as we regain our footing. I’ve experienced this over the last three months, and I need prayer. I’m struggling with fear, anxiety, uncertainty, as well as marriage problems on top of everything else. I have my head and my heart in the scriptures everyday and sense the Lord speaking to me during this season, but I don’t see an end in sight. Thank you for your prayers and encouragement.

  22. 622
    carrie says:

    Little sister here….loving all the encouragement and have shed tears with you over the various heartbreaks.

    I’m a single mom of 2 boys. Never married. 2 different dads. Ended a 7 year relationship that God had spoken a firm “NO” to for almost all 7 years of it and now obediently planted in this season of singleness I feel He has called me to. I’m 32 years old and have grown tremendously in the Lord over the past couple years, but fear siezes my heart when I think of a season of singleness potentially being a life of singleness. Could I do it if that’s what He called me to do? And if not, will the good Christian man I so fervently pray for be willing to accept a former bad girl who has a past bigger than Everest? In my heart I know and believe that Jesus is enough. But its a hard thing to grapple with some days. Everyone says “let Jesus be your husband.” And to be honest, I don’t know how I feel about that advice. It’s supposed to comfort, yet I’m oddly unnerved by it.

  23. 623
    Heather says:

    I am so glad I just squeak in at 39 for the little sisters cut off! My husband and I are going through major financial struggles. He has been basically jobless for the past year and a half and we have eight kids. He got a temp job for the summer but after this-we are back to square one. We are unsure of what to do, where to go, nothing seems to be happening here for us. He has had numerous interviews but it has been one no after another.

    • 623.1
      Deana says:

      Big Sister: Heather I’ve been there and its a hard road but the Lord is your provider, your source for everything. Gotta pray that job in, stand on HIS promises that say you are highly favored, you are the head not the tail,that God would put your husband before great men. (Ps 5:12, Deut 28:13, Prov 18:16) You are righteous so remember this: I have not seen the righteous forsaken or their seed begging bread.(Ps 37:25) Also remember life and death are in the power of the tongue so speak LIFE to this financial low. I had to look for a job that I could do from home so that I could stay home with my kids, it might be an option for you too. There is so much home oppourtunities out there that could help your family. Now that we are out of that financial low, I love helping other moms make some money and stay home, its become my ministry. Hold on my sister, its just a season, I’m praying for you.

  24. 624
    Dana says:

    Thank you for this post, Beth. Little sister here. I’m a stay-at-home mom to three kids, ages 4 and under. Our son, three years old, has had a multitude of health and development issues. While he’s doing significantly better, the stress has worn me down. My husband works a stressful job with long hours and travel. Bottom line- I’m tired. Exhausted. Your post is encouraging though. Much appreciated.

  25. 625
    Aubrey says:

    Little Sister Here: I feel lost. My kids are getting older (though, yes I know, they still need me). Ministry life has taken on a new unfamiliar face. My marriage has faced a few challenges (husband drinking) I NEVER saw coming. For so long, it was business as usual…taking care of little kids, working on staff at the same church for many years…life is taking on a new appearance, and I feel like I’m grasping for new direction. I’m sad.

  26. 626
    vanessa says:

    Little Sister hereโ€ฆ

    I have been so blessed by this post and comments. I have learned from reading through the comments, that we arenโ€™t alone sisters! Satan would have us think that but we arenโ€™t. We have sisters in the body of Christ. We need to reach out to each other. We were created for relationships! Thank you all who shared. God Bless you all!

  27. 627
    Carolyn says:

    Big sister here. God is already at the end of your life and knows your whole story. Hit your knees and praise him, everyday. Nothing we can go through could be worse than Jesus on the cross. We are here cheering you on!!!

  28. 628
    phyllis says:

    Big sister here…Jesus is enough. He is our portion. He is enough.
    Listen to Beth….being ripped apart by the evil one is no fun, but it is allowed. Let the selfishness, self-esteem, worldliness, materialism, goals and desires all die. It leaves room for more of Jesus.
    Jesus is enough. Dear God, Surprise the little sisters with Your immense love today. Give them the gift of faith. Protect them from evil. Hold them close, so that they will know the peace of Your presence. Thn, You will be enough. In Jesus’s name, Amen

  29. 629
    Erica says:

    Little Sister here – I am a pastors wife for 7 yrs now and my husband wants to plant a church. Right now he is without a job looking to go to seminary. He is a stay at home dad to our 9 month old and I am the bread winner working full time. I struggle daily with resentment, anger, and bitterness. I never thought ministry would lead us here.

  30. 630
    Sarah says:

    Big sister here.
    I proclaim that The Lord God is faithful. He’s got it — whatever it is– covered. Relax. Trust in Him. Listen to his voice. Read his word, his love letter in permanent ink written to You. Take heart. TRUST and OBEY.
    Wait on the Lord while you move forward in faith doing what He says. Step by step. Great is His Faithfulness.
    My life has had some twists and turns. It didn’t look like it was supposed to look like. It still doesn’t. And it’s a good life; I am blessed. God is not finished yet, with me or my loved ones.
    It’s all part of the process to make me more like Jesus. All of it.

  31. 631
    Chantel says:

    Little sister here… husband without a job for six going on seven months with no leads on any jobs, 2 small children and I have type one diabetes…God is faithful and He has given me much land/inheritance and I am struggling in this spiritual muscle work out to not lose the land that God has given me and to keep my eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of my faith! I thank God for you, Beth Moore and LPM. Thanks for your prayers and encouragement.

  32. 632
    Heather says:

    Little Sister here… the past nine months have been so gutwrenchingly painful for me. My faith is all I have and it has been weakened. I know this because I find myself confused, fatiegued, frustrated and unable to hear God clearly. I went to my pastor and he offered his advice that God was calling me to give up burdends that were not mine, be still and listen. So I did. I began to pray for clarity and for God to speak to me. A few weeks later I had a dream. I never dream. My last dream was a year ago, I was in Heaven with Jesus and I woke with a peace like no other. In the second dream (one week ago)I was standing in the middle of a corn field and looking at, a brighter than any white I have ever seen, long skinny tornado that was comming at me. I was not afraid of it and just stood there as it came closer. It passed over me and all of the corn was layed down, not uprooted or tossed around. I was left standing in the middle of this not moved by the tornado at all. Then I woke up. I looked up pictures online of the tornado and what I saw was what was considered to be what a tornado looks like right before it becomes a “true tornado”. I am sure that this was a message from God Almighty Himself. I am pretty sure I understand the message but would love some confirmation from my Big Sisters. Patiently waiting on the Lord, Little Sister, Heather

  33. 633
    Molly says:

    Little Sister here…..Mother of five. Our oldest is 17 and struggles with peer pressure and questions God. We are strong of faith but I am just tired of the Devil winning when it comes to our teen. Praying that God shows us guidance.

  34. 634
    Kara says:

    Little sister here… Thanks for this post. I’ve been reading as much as I can and have been encouraged by both the Big and Little Sisters. I feel comfort in knowing I’m not alone in many of my struggles.

    Just wanna share a little of my testimony. I was baptized when I was 11 and for years struggled with whether or not I did so for myself or others. About 10 years ago I rededicated my life to Christ. I often had trials come that, looking back, were helping me grow in my walk with God and to mature me. These weren’t easy as I went through them, but necessary. Fast forward to now, I still have trials, however it seems like I take 2 step forward with Christ and Satan’s right behind to knock me backward a thousand. It’s getting hard to deal with. I know and trust God has a plan, just very discouraged right now.

  35. 635
    Jeanie Roberson says:

    Big Sister: Precious little sisters, my heart is broken for all you are going through. But even more important God’s heart is broken too. And He weeps with you. He is the Ancient of Days and there is nothing that you are going through or have gone through that He is unaware of and will deal with. I know many of you are at the point where you believe you can’t go on. I’ve been there. I’ve cried out to God and said take me home right now. I can’t do this. But He spoke and said, “you can’t but I can. Trust me.” Let Him be strong in your weakness. He promised that He will. I remember Beth giving us the passages below in one of her studies and it was like a shot in the arm to me. The author of Hebrews is speaking to a group of Jewish Christians that wanted to give up and return to Judaism. They had been persecuted, ostracized, their property had been taken away, they had been thrown into jail. And he says to them, I know you better than that. You are not the kind to give up. Press on, because the reward at the end is worth more than any of the heartache and suffering that you are having to go through right now. That is my prayer for each one of you, “hold tight to the full assurance of hope until the end. Our hope in Christ is both sure and steadfast and will serve as an anchor for your soul.”

    Heb 6:9-11

    But, beloved, we are convinced of better things concerning you, and things that accompany salvation, though we are speaking in this way. For God is not unjust so as to forget your work and the love which you have shown toward His name, in having ministered and in still ministering to the saints. And we desire that each one of you show the same diligence so as to realize the full assurance of hope until the end, so that you will not be sluggish, but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherit the promises.

    Heb 6:17-20
    In the same way God, desiring even more to show to the heirs of the promise the unchangeableness of His purpose, interposed with an oath, so that by two unchangeable things in which it is impossible for God to lie, we who have taken refuge would have strong encouragement to take hold of the hope set before us. This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, a hope both sure and steadfast and one which enters within the veil, where Jesus has entered as a forerunner for us, having become a high priest forever according to the order of Melchizedek.

    I want you to know I am praying over each one of you and will continue to pray for you!

  36. 636
    Maryann Barnwell says:

    Little sister here…32 yrs old. Been at same job/career for 10 yrs this fall. Work for the gov’t. So very stifled spiritually by gov’t red tape, poor management, etc etc. I loathe going to work every single day. Most days I cry or get beyond angry. It pays so well though and I feel so trapped by the money. I am applying elsewhere to other jobs that pay LESS THAN HALF of my current pay just to get out of there. . . to get some fresh air, some positive vibes…anything to keep me from wishing my life away. I’ve applied to my church, to nonprofit agencies, but I keep getting turned down. It’s a horribly, toxic environment at my office. I feel so very stuck, and it’s simply Jesus and Jesus alone that keeps me going back there every day, Monday thru Friday. Please, please pray and encourage me. God bless y’all. . . and Beth? Oh man, I love you to pieces. Keep on keeping on lady! ~From one Southern belle to another ๐Ÿ™‚

  37. 637
    Stacy says:

    Little Siesta here: The enemy has me by the throat and I can’t breathe. i just kicked my husband out an hour ago. What am I’m going to do. My kids are in Texas and my best friend is out of town and didn’t take her phone. I feel like screaming and crying and so alone. I’m done with his secrets and lies. What will I tell my kids when they come home. Why does the enemy have to circle me like water circling a drain. Oh God, I love you so. Please protect my heart and my soul.

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    Marla says:

    Little sister here…I am a perfectionist. My husband and I come from 2 very different cultures, and don’t always see things the same way. He is super laid-back, I always must be on schedule. I like a neat clean house and everything in order. Yet I struggle with how much of my perfectionism is because of my “need” to feel in control, and how much is really just who I am. Is this something I can change? Did God intend it to be this way? I can’t just sit back and do nothing, as there are definite responsibilities in life that can’t be ignored…

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      Kim says:

      From an Older Sister:
      I was the same way at one time (in my 20s and 30s) and so stressed about having everything exactly in order and on time. It caused a lot of problems in my home. God is in control of all things, yet it’s easy to feel like we have to be in control. I know why I had control issues, from things in my past and from growing up feeling like none of the adults in my family were in control or safe to depend on. The Lord has healed me of many of my issues and now my home is peaceful and I’m much happier and healthier. I’m not talking about neglecting things that HAVE to be done, but on the other hand it wasn’t worth losing my marriage over how quickly the dishes were put away or by keeping my home spotless. Unfortunately my healing came from a lot of pain that the Lord allowed into my life and I wish I had sought His help sooner and possibly avoided the pain. I would encourage you to seek His guidance for a healthy balance of meeting responsibilities and enjoying time with your husband in the life the Lord has given you. Our control issues have the power to affect our health and everyone in our lives. I thought…oh well it’s OCD, I can’t change. Well, I probably COULDN’T change it but He CAN and He DID! Praying you grow closer every day to Him and in the knowledge of His will for you.

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    Julie from Texas says:

    Big Sister– awwww I always wanted to be a big sister! Lean on Christ for everything… He will provide for all your needs. Looking forward to taking a group of my big/little sisters to see Beth and Travis in Austin!

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    Sherrie says:

    Big Sister here, First let me say I am free and it is Christ who set me free. If you are a daughter of the King of Kings and Lord or Lords you too are free. Life is hard and don’t kid yourself for minuet that it isn’t. However, our God is bigger than ANYTHING life can send our way. He sits on the throne and He is in control.
    You see anxiety, fear and doubt (just to name a few)are strongholds the enemy will try to use (if you allow it) to undo all that God has done. When we except Christ as our Saviour we have given Him our heart. Now LET GO AND GIVE HIM YOUR HEAD! Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God: 7. and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Be anxious for nothing is God saying just that be anxious for nothing. Don’t let the enemy have the head give it to God with the heart.
    You see we have to LET GO AND LET GOD. Letting go is hard our pride makes it that way. Letting God have control of whatever it is that tries to control us has more rewards and peace than we can imagine.
    We have to allow God’s grace and peace to work in our life. Live life ONE day at time don’t look back don’t look ahead live in today.
    Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body and be thankful.
    Whatever you are dealing with in your life LET GO AND LET GOD. We don’t deserve His grace yet He finds us worthy and sent His only son to die for us. His grace is like a water fall never ending and always flowing. Stand in it my little sisters and get soaked to the bone and stay soaked.
    Proverbs 3:5,6 (I pray this one when life is crashing in) Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. 6) In all your ways acknowledge Him. And He shall direct your paths.
    Trust God with all your heart give Him your head and ALLOW GRACE AND PEACE TO WORK! May HIS GRACE AND PEACE be with you little sisters!

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    Anon says:

    Little Sister Here…
    My little brother brought his new girlfriend to meet us this weekend. Trouble? His SECOND divorce was finalized just a couple weeks ago. Now, he’s spending the night in her room when there is another one planned, available, and ready for him. How do I explain this to my 3 young, impressionable, passionate about their faith kids in the morning? Where is the line between ignoring it all or calling him out on his behavior? My heart is breaking.

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    Cheri-Beri says:

    Big Sister here:

    Hebrews 1:3 says, “He holds everything together by what he says . . . ” (MSG) It’s so true!!! Get in His word. I can’t begin to tell you the struggles I went through about 5 years ago. It mirrored exactly what Beth writes about in this blog. But this I promise, His word held me together. Completely together! His word transformed my life and praise His Name, I will never be the same.

    The thing is, I’m no mental or spiritual genius. This transformation is for everyone who will go to His word with their hearts open to receive. It’s the most painfully beautiful thing I’ve ever experienced. Don’t let yourself miss out.

    (((((hugs))))) from your big sister!!

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    Bonnie says:

    Big sister here: First I want to thank God that I can offer you encouragement. I seem to learn things the hard way. Please know that when you ask forgiveness for “whatever” that God forgives. The lesson for me was also forgiving myself. I felt so unworthy of God’s love that I did not let any healing take place for years! Don’t be like me. Embrace the joy and peace our Father freely gives to those who believe in Him! Second, when the enemy is attacking draw close to God. Call on Him daily, by the hour and even by the minute if you need too. HE will see you through. He does hear. He is by your side! Third, give thanks to God for His abundant blessings in your life. Be grateful for everything even when it all seems a mess. God can make those messes into the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen! Let’s give praise and glory to God in the storm. For in Him, you are made strong! And finally and most importantly, PRAY. It is the single, most effective thing you can do in any situation or circumstance. For only God can move mountains. And only by daily prayer, can you forge the most intimate and personal relationship of your life. The one with our Savior and Redeemer! I love you little sisters!!

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    Sharon Crouch says:

    Big sister, here.

    GOD loves you. The God of the universe who spoke the world into existence loves you.

    God LOVES you. This same God sees every tear and hears every prayer of His children. The tears break his heart. However, he came in human form to prove his love to us.

    God loves YOU. I can tell you from experience that there have been days that I have not felt worth loving. But no matter what we have done, God loves us.

    Remember, feelings change. People change. Situations change. But almighty God, who loves us more than anyone can, never changes. He never leaves us or forsakes us. And He loves us. That will never change.

    Almighty God, please show yourself strong in the lives of my little sisters. You alone are the only one that can truly understand what we need and why things happen. Help us to seek you with hearts of humility and acceptance. Help us Lord, to stand firm in our faith despite the fiery arrows of Satan. Help us to put on our shields of faith and the rest of the armor in order to fight the enemy. In the precious name of Jesus, Amen.

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    em says:

    Little Sister: thank you so much for this post.. I am struggling with basically everything & really really frustrated I am struggling.. I know God’s word in my head, but if I am honest, I stuggle with believing it’s for me to apply & take to heart. I know God has me, but truly choosing to walk out His plans over my own have been so isolating & kind of heart breaking.. I feel like I have been stripped & I don’t even know what to do with the person I am now. I guess I just want to know that I am going somewhere, and that He hasn’t forgotten me. Some things have happened recently that have made me doubt 2 big choices I made a year ago & really really really prayed about. I desperately want God’s will for my life, far above my own.. I am just super discouraged & really struggling & just wanted to ask if that’s something others have felt, and what you do to keep walking with God? I have honestly just been hiding/avoiding it all, and I know that isn’t the right response. I am just confused.

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    Zoey says:

    Your little sister here-

    I’m 19 and I struggle so much because my parents have never really been there for me. I don’t know what a biblical household looks like and my heart hurts from not having a mom to talk to or have a relationship with and I don’t know if I will ever have a relationship with her. I wish so badly I had an older biblical woman in my life, but I am so thankful for LPM and blogs like this! My heart also aches so deeply from the absence of my father. Also, I’m struggling with handling the abusive situations I was in during high school and I’m so afraid I’ll never be able to have normal relationships. And, I have made some really awful and sinful decisions in response to my circumstances that have left me even more heart broken. I desire so much to live for the Lord and to seek Him, but it’s gets so challenging when thoughts and memories about what I previously wrote come up and leave me wanting to just curl up in a little ball. If you ladies have any advice at all, please feel free to share it with me. I would appreciate it so much!

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      Molly says:

      Zoey, I am also a little sister. The past is so very difficult to let go of. Especially when it was a difficult one. I was a lost pregnant teen. Looking in all the WRONG places for love and comfort. I want you to know that whatever circumstances you have God will handle it. Look to him. Read the Bible. Pray. Know that you are not your past. He loves you!

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    Judy says:

    Big sis here……this is what I wish someone would have said to me when I was younger……”keep your eyes on Him….don’t let people pressure you and feel as though you have to meet their expectations…..you never will. Don’t let family members or in laws stress you and make you doubt who God created you to be. Don’t feel responsible to “fix” everything………it stunts the growth of your children and we are not meant, no matter how competent, to be the fixers. As women, I think that we tend to have that urge. Most of all, trust that God loves you and shows mercy, grace, patience and direction when we seek Him and want to please Him. His plan is always better. Get into a good Bible study, I think Beth’s are just the best…….do your lessons……I do mine at night when everyone is in bed……and when you are in the car…..play praise music. When you feel
    Especially afraid or in need of comfort, I literally lie down in the floor of my family room and pray. I talk to God and he listens. Don’t be afraid to confide in people you trust, a shared burden is half a burden. Sometimes we can be embarrassed about our lives or problems, satan would love that…..
    Once I share a need, or worry, with God and a friend…..I feel so much better. Know that God will
    Protect you and be with you through anything and everything. He loves you and will uphold you with His right hand. These times will pass, I promise. I so wish that I would have realized how true that was when I was younger….His timing and plans are perfect. I pray for you, life can be hard, frustrating and scary…….God is faithful and can help us find joy in the hardest of times. Praise you, Lord! Hold onto Him and don’t let go. Your big sisters are praying for you….we could use your prayers, as well. Love to you.

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      Molly says:

      Judy, you are so right. Thank you for praying for us little sisters. I do try to “fix” everything. God is the one in control. I need to just give it to God and let him show me the way. Thanks again ๐Ÿ™‚

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    JEN says:

    Little Sister here…I am currently in a battle and most days it feels like I am loosing. I know (in my head) that Christ is fighting with me and for me, but to be honest there are many times I feel (heart) that I am fighting alone. My struggle lies in that what I know has not been solidified in my heart..if that makes sense. I often describe it as a heart and head disconnect. I keep praying that God will realign them and take what I know in my “head” and place it in my “heart”. I am definitely with the man in Matthew that says “LOrd I believe, help my unbelief”. I say that often sometimes I wonder though…is it enough. So many things going on and being a graduate student I do not make enough time for my relationship with God. I also struggle with a need to have control…not because I think that my way is better…i guess I just don’t feel “safe and comforted” letting God be in control. My desire is to live recklessly abandon to God and let him drive while I ride the roller coaster of life!

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    BJ says:

    Little Sister here: I am needing to relinquish control of “my plans” for my life – but it is just so very hard to do. There are so many things in the air about the next 14 months for me – finishing school, getting a professional license, finding a job, and navigating a relationship I’m in. I’m trying to control everything – and in the midst of it, I’m hurting the man who is only trying to support and love me the best way he knows how. I need an intervention of the biggest kind – one that breaks me from the addiction of control.

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    April says:

    Little Sister here…first, thank you for this encouragement. At a bit past midnight and a little past the posting date…I have to say I’m receiving the encouragement at just the right time. so, THANK YOU with as much muster as I can write that.

    Mainly, God has just moved me to a new place. He always seems to be moving me and I am accepting of the work He does in me as He teaches me through it. But, the enemy is on me afresh. Discouraging me, making me feel like I am alone and crazy for chasing God to this new place. That’s the short of it. I see the good. I see the potential of what God can and will do in my life here – I know I am in the right place b/c that battle you talked out between old and new rages inside me. It seems in the freshness of God’s new work that always seems to happen – like this brand new thing to overcome. The good news is, each time I gain more skills and the fight is less cumbersome. The point? Well, my soul feels tired today, the fighting is wearing on me and it seems the closer I get to fulfilling my calling, the harder the fight seems to be. I know new hope comes in the morning, but tonight, tonight I just feel weak like the enemy could take me out with just one more push. And before God, I just need prayer for the strength and courage to choose God consistently over my own selfish desires. It’s what I want more than anything, but some days I’m just not sure I’m brave enough to achieve it.

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